Would you rather be proposed to in public or private?

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Skinhead-1979 · Accepted Answer

Private... and not just *proposed to*, the same goes for *proposing*.

I have proposed once...24th of December 2015 (yes, corny... I know).

I was meant to be off from work that day; but the head-chef had gotten into a strop, phoned in sick and said he'd be back on the 27th (how convenient... after Christmas).

I refused to work Christmas Day; I was supposed to be off, we had invited people over, and my, now, ex would not have been amused would I have gone to work.
I was supposed to work only 1/2 the day on the 24th... which made it possible for me to prepare to propose... but I had to work the whole day because I had to prepare a whole Christmas meal, 3 courses, for 65 elderly residents (who suffer from Dementia... so dietary needs had to be taken into account) + 20 staff.

I worked my ass off that day... I prepared everything; whomever was going to cook (there were no other chefs available...) only had to warm it up and present it nicely on plates/ dishes.

I came home shattered... but I still wanted to propose; so I got ready, got the ring and went to my... ex.

I kneeled down, got the ring out and... I could not get a word out; I broke down in tears.

I guess she must have picked up on a few words through all the sobbing... and she said 'Yes'.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I don't want to look like a suck doing the bended knee in public. I should get really hot sex for a marriage proposal and want that. No so easy in public.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

Definitely private, which is the way my husband did it. It was in a public place, but it was done spontaneously and privately. The one guy that tried to force my hand in public was left on one knee while I got a ride home. I had already told him "no" but he didn't think I meant it. I don't say things I don't mean.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Public would be awful. Apart from it no longer being a romantic moment between just us, you basically have to say yes because of all the pressure of everyone watching. Then in case you want to pump the breaks on that or something, you have to have a very awkward talk later.

DishLady · Answer

Private... cozy... romantic... intimate... (There's more, but I think you see where I'm going here.)

Bethany22 · Answer

Private, because it sounds more sincere and humble than in public. Proposing in public sort of forces the person to say yes, as well as assumes the person will say yes.

AviatorTom · Answer

Private. In public, they're pressured to say yes, which may not be their honest answer. I want honesty.

Elliegirl · Answer

I was proposed to in private. Like, he knew I would say yes, and I knew his proposal was coming, but a public proposal still feels like a lot of pressure to say yes in front of a bunch of people who don’t even know us. It seems like it would feel weird.

mamysandycandy · Answer

Private

Cause I don't like to be put in a spot. If it's only us two, then the affection is even more real and not for a show for other people.

But i don't mind public proposal if it's in front of only a few people or important family members. But only if we've already talked many times before about living together and building a family.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless you have had these talks and KNOW for SURE that she wants to marry you…. You should NEVER propose in public. Either she may feel forced to say yes or it could be a very awkward experience for both of you.

The decision to get married one is a choice that both people need to be ready for. They both need to know that she or he is the person they want to marry.

It’s better to talk in private about these things. Most people don’t wake up one day and decide to propose, at least MOST don’t. It should be between both people when the time comes

IslaTheWitch · Answer

private... if I say "no" he won't feel humiliated :D

TheLovelyIntrovert · Answer

I will shrivel up and die if my boyfriend proposed in front a lot of people. His mom and sister are the only ones who get a pass of being there.

DizzyDesii · Answer

In private because 99% of those people in public are not invited to the wedding

avery58 · Answer

Private. Sometimes I wonder if people who propose in public do so to put more pressure into their partner saying yes.

Kelley1 · Answer

I would rather have a private proposal unless it is a proposal I want. Otherwise, there is undo public pressure to accept.

paledreams · Answer

People should act their actual adult maturity and keep things "don't be a showoff" - these days everyone wants to flaunt an ego

rienna888 · Answer

lol i like it big, so i'd prefer big proposal but only if it's mutual feelings with the man i love. But if it's one sided then I'd rather it be private so I could reject it

HawkPerception · Answer

I would rather propose in a private setting with maybe one hidden cameraman to catch it happening.

genericname85 · Answer

i wouldn't mind if it's a public place but i wouldn't want it to be a huge center of attention thing.

Iron_Man · Answer

I want to propose at the Super Bowl in front of the world 😊

12karen · Answer

In private, I'd rather have this moment between me and my lover

ariadneR · Answer

Def private.  I'm very humble and I don't like to draw attention to myself

LiamJHayden · Answer

In private because I would not want to publicly embarrass her with my rejection.

Anonymous · Answer

My wife proposed to me in private. But I would have appreciated it either way. We're the only people it concerned so I could have cared less if she had done it public.

Dongie · Answer

Well for me, being a manly man, I have to say, public.

OddBeMe · Answer

Private so I can pace around after nervously asking myself “what have I done.”  True story!

Yamaal · Answer

Of course, if he does it in an open area, which will be private for both of us, I will refuse. 😂😂😂

Strongqueen3568 · Answer

Private. Wouldn't want any "shows" cause that's really what it is.

HighValue · Answer

If someone proposed to me, I'd rather her do it in a video game. :)

trinket231894 · Answer

Private, so its our moment together and our moment only

Nifrayu · Answer

I wouldn't mind a public setting like a nice park or something, but just not with an audience.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Public for her

Lowiu · Answer

My fiancee asked me in private

NathanDavis · Answer

close and personal... don't need a show

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Elegant, simple, and private.

Jane1964 · Answer

Maybe add another poll option of "neither"? Lol? Just kidding! Kinda!

HalalCabello · Answer

Private in a romantic place ❤️❤️❤️

The_Confusion · Answer

In the woods 🌈🐻

thatshydork · Answer

Depends on how public is public.

Apple1996 · Answer

I'd rather no proposal

whereismyjohnny · Answer

In private.

Simslover92 · Answer

In private.

shortster · Answer

Private

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Oh get a room

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