My mom’s been seeing this Nigerian guy for about two years now, though I’m glad my mom has found someone that she cares about I can’t find myself supporting her current relationship at all.
The distance is just too great for one, I also think this guy is way below what my mom deserves. No offense to him, but his families impoverished, they live in a small village in Nigeria - from what I’ve heard he’s attempting to get a college degree but it’s hard for him since he doesn’t have the money. I just don’t understand why my moms lowering herself to be with this guy, I’m pretty sure she’s the one that pays for the plane tickets to travel there to see him and she somehow justifies it by saying he at least pays for everything while she’s in Nigeria?
My mom’s a beautiful college educated woman, I think she can do way better. I wish she would just find a man that doesn’t live so far. My mom claims it’s hard to find a good Christian man now a days which is why she seeks men abroad but we literally live in the Bible Belt, how hard would it be to find a decent Christian man here?
They got married last year but the marriage is only recognized in Nigeria because this dude doesn’t even have a passport to come to the us, the whole situations just a mess.
Am I the asshole for not supporting my mom’s new “foreign” husband?
Wow! That’s pretty racist and reminds me of what my parents say when I show them hot guys like this:😍
I find such guys extremely attractive and maybe your mum feels similar attraction to that guy.
In my case, I love how they are much darker, bigger etc. so I feel even more delicate. I love how they fetishise shorter women like me by coining terms like “shawty”. It doesn’t hurt that most of them are well-endowed and have a sensual deep voice. Maybe she likes more of a rustic black dude. I like more urban guys like this one who speaks English.
The comments I hear from everyone who knows me:
”You’re too pretty to do that”
”He looks like a guy from a “lower class” and you want to become his “low class” wife. The Indians will call you the prettiest “low class” girl of his village”
”He doesn’t even look human to me”
”What’s wrong with you?”
”Your taste is bad”
”Maybe he’s a criminal”
This happens even when I tell them he is living in a city. He is not poor like their assumptions. Then all of a sudden I’m considered a “gold-digger” because such people fail to understand that I’m actually attracted to such guys. According to them, there’s nothing attractive about him so it must be the money.
They praise me for my choices when I show them attractive Indian guys or even white guys:
I’ve dated way too many such Indian guys and I like them. But I’m honestly bored now. I wish I could date a black guy like that.
She is no racist at all 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡you people are full of conclusions she even states her mom is black herself. She what this young lady is telling us this dude is just being a typical millennial spoiled momma's boy and only wants to get benefits. She was never racist at all. You people male me mad.
No you're not an asshole at all. The only thing I read is that you are loving caring daughter who is very worried about her mother
Who is wise and who can see things deeper than her mother maybe
And when you have your own opinion about somebody older than you like a mother or father sometimes you're not allowed to have them because of your age..
And the moment I said that I started laughing because that is totally ridiculous
In so many different ways love is so blind it will make you forget your own name sometimes
I think you're worried I think your love for your mother is very beautiful and very deep and you have a right to have an input into what you feel
First of all because that's who she raised was a person that can see things to even feel things even deeper so she should respect that and honor that
I moved out of my house when I was 16 and a half because my mother got remarried this was for the third time
My second dad used to beat me with a belt till I was black and blue
When my mom got divorced from him I swore nobody would ever hurt me again
Well her new husband tried to put his hands on me one time and I just was not going to have it and I spun around and I pushed him up against the wall and he was way bigger than me but it didn't matter nobody was ever going to hurt me again
After I got done telling him this I turned around to walk away my mother was standing right there if she had tears in her eyes as I walk past her I just said sorry but I told you nobody was ever going to put your hands on me again she didn't say anything 2 weeks later I moved out
She asked me probably a couple months after that when I thought about him I said he's a nice guy Mr congeniality but there's something off with him he's not right I feel as if he's a taker
And probably 10 years down the road I'm sure it was even before then but they had to get a divorce because he put my mom in debt
So I understand where your mom's coming from at the same time she should really think about what you're saying to her because she raised you to believe in yourself and to believe in what you believe in and your opinion does count and she should realize that hopefully one day it doesn't come down to that where she should have listened to you I hope that they can get everything all worked out and you can be back with your mom
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Clearly she’s lonely and cares about getting BBC more than whatever “good christian man” excuse she pulled out of her ass.
I wouldn't consider it weird if she was white or non-black, I mean the only weird part is going out of her way for a guy in a different country who is broke. Most likely she just finds him handsome or interesting, rather than a lack of other good guys being available. That was my point, I just said it in a crude way lol.
So no I don't think you're the asshole but if you're having trouble understanding her decisions I'd say there's no rational explanation she's just horny for this guy
True. That makes the most sense, I also think she just realy wants to get married and is lowering her standards so she can just get married but I don’t think she understands that kind of thought process is what led her to marrying my dad despite him cheating on her multiple times previously 🤦🏽♀️ I don't know she can do whatever with her dating life ig I’m just like why
Rude how dare you. This young lady is worry about her mother taking advantage of. Yet here you are jumping to conclusions. From what I've read in her statement there seems to be something off about her mother's boyfriend. I think any daughter would be worry and concern.
Well it's not nice you accuse people of being a racist when they're not truly racist at all. Maybe you are could hearted and do not care about other but I do. No asker is not racist!
You have each and every right to be upset if your gut feeling is telling you something seems off about this dude. Then chances are there is something seriously off about this dude. From what you are telling us the dude wants to get opportunities from your mom. Weird how come he doesn't date a woman from his category he wants a wealthy woman like your mom. Yes I would make sure if I was in your situation that relationship would end. Tell your family members about this and explained how worry and concern you are. There is something really off about this dude. Wish you best of luck.
My mom isn’t that wealthy but she’s wealthy in comparison to him. His families impoverished and he doesn’t even have any type of formal college degree but she thinks that man can provide for her? It’s ridiculous
Yeah if I was in your situation I would try to talk to a family member. I mean there is something really about this guy. Seems he is trying to get a benefit out of your mom. He is lazy. Wow bit your mom has more education then him how. will he managed to provide for her when your mom has more then him. Crazy.
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