What does it mean when a woman wears white to someone else’s wedding?

[Anonymous]

There’s a well-known rule that as a guest you should never wear white to a wedding unless the dress code calls for it. I still however do see women who purposefully wear white to a wedding, even if they’re not that close to the bride/groom or even if they claim that they don’t want to get married. So why do some people go out of their way to still wear white knowing that they’ll get (negative) attention from doing so?

[HawkPerception]

If I was having a wedding, I'd make sure that everyone adheres to the dress code. I'll have it on the invitation that if you do not adhere to it, you'll be kicked out. It's narcissistic and disrespectful to do so. Just my opinion.

[Asker]

I agree. If the dress code says you’re supposed to wear white then go for it, otherwise I just see it as a way that that person is trying to outshine the bride by wearing white…

[HawkPerception]

I dunno about outshine per se. It might just be a lack of care, but it's disrespectful regardless. It's the couple's big day and everyone should try to make their vision come true.

[Asker]

Couldn’t agree more. It’s not that hard to be respectful of the dress code or expected etiquettes when you’re invited to a special event

[alice55]

Nothng, I wore white to my uncle wedding as my grandmother chose m outfit and they didn't cared for it, they even told my parens I could come up wearing a pikachu costume they wouldn't mind. They're open minded.

The fact to forbid people from wearing white tell more of the bride personality than guest, as in no ways shape or forms would a white shorts or shorts dress be confused with the bride dress...

[Asker]

Honestly I agree, it all depends on the bride/groom. Some brides can get very entitled and turn into a bridezilla.

[alice55]

Yes some bride have ways too much ego, it's scary they even say if they saw a friend wear white to their wedding they would throw a glass of red wine on their dress...

[Asker]

Totally… I understand it’s a really special day but no need to ruin someone else’s dress over it

[alice55]

Yes, they're pretty narcissist I think, to overreact to this point is crazy

[Alwayreckles93]

Your uncle is cool. Unlike other Karen's couples who decided to have a child's free wedding which it should be illegal.

[Gwendoline]

It's a slight to the bride. Unless the bride isn't wearing white or is ok with it. You'd be surprised at how other women try to use family weddings and funerals to get attention. Had a cousin wearing a black dress to a funeral, sith no bra sowing a lot of cleavage. The kinda dress you need boob tape.

[Asker]

Yes I mean I just don’t understand why someone would try to steal attention away from the bride or at a funeral… it’s just one day dedicated to the couple (or person if it’s a funeral)

[OlderAndWiser]

My first instinct would be to assume that the offending guest did it deliberately to steal attention from the bride.

[Asker]

That’s exactly my first thought as well

[JustinTheGreat]

Cause they can’t handle a day not being about them.

i remember seeing one tiktok where the mother of the groom literally wore a wedding dress lol.

i wouldn’t of even allowed her in the damn wedding at that point

[Asker]

Yes! That’s crazy how a mother would do that to her own child/daughter in law. Some people really are just narcissistic

[DrPepper12]

She's rude AF and deserves to be tossed out on her white dress ass!! YOU. DON'T. DO. THAT! WTF? WTAF?

[Asker]

I know right! I just feel like it’s super unnecessary, just let the bride and groom enjoy the attention, we’re there to celebrate the couple anyway…

[D_Bone_Steak]

It means you can't really see all the cum stains I left on her titts.

[Asker]

That’s a good way to camouflage then

[DtMe89]

Generally it's when the bride's not wearing white

by the way, did you know, when a bride wears black. It's a forced wedding. I. e. Kane, and lita

[Asker]

Oh wow I didn’t know that! A friend of mine wore a black wedding gown and she looked stunning, I hope it wasn’t because of a forced wedding…

[DtMe89]

Likely was

[WatchedPot]

She is party crashing? She'll be the one to stand up and state why they shouldn't be married. She only ever wears white. She had a dream she would meet her soulmate when wearing white.

[Asker]

So she’s looking for attention basically?

[WatchedPot]

I was just being silly. I would agree it is an attention thing. You'd have to have been living under a rock to not know wearing white as a woman is a faux pas.

[Asker]

Yeah exactly. Although, some cultures do have different rules so I’ll give them a pass but it’s basically a well known rule to not wear white to a wedding.

[ihateTaylorSwift]

it's like catching a bouquet she'd hope to be next
To get married

[Asker]

I mean that makes sense if she’s trying to manifest a proposal for herself

[RingOfFire]

Hahahaha... Women are so funny! Never even knew about that rule.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s more of an unspoken rule among women I suppose lol

[RingOfFire]

I think women are so cute.

[Asker]

Aw glad you think that way of us!

[RingOfFire]

I'm always amazed at how focused they are on details. Somehow I find that really attractive. I don't think men are tuned into details nearly as much.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess men are usually more concerned about the bigger picture. That’s why you need both men and women to work together to really see the details and the big picture all at once 😌

[RingOfFire]

You are ABSOLUTELY right. Men find it annoying as hell sometimes when women are always bringing up every little detail over and over again... but deep down they really appreciate her perspective because they notice things that guys would never see.

[Asker]

And men do help us ladies in remembering to step back and see the bigger picture. Men and women do balance each other out

[RingOfFire]

Isn't that a beautiful thing?

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Probably a lot of women aren't aware of that rule.

I've never heard of it before.

[Asker]

I think it’s more common knowledge among women. Lots of cultures have their own wedding guest etiquette though so I completely understand if that were the case. But I’m specifically referring to women who are well aware of the rule and still go out of their way to break it

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Maybe they're trying to steal the groom away then.

[Asker]

Could be, they’re at least trying to steal the spotlight away from the bride

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

So you think it's jealousy, then?

Maybe they wanted the groom for themselves, but the bride was prettier or nicer or whatever?

[Asker]

A girl I know used to wear white to weddings because she was trying to give hints to her then boyfriend to hurry up and propose lol. Didn’t sit well with the bride and her dresses were all too “wedding-y”

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Did this happen to you when you were a bride? Is that why you're kinda pissed off about it?

[Asker]

Nope, won’t be getting married until next year. But I’ve been to a lot of weddings lately and have been seeing a lot of drama that started simply because a guest was wearing white. One of my friends then pointed out that she wears white all the time in hopes that the happiness will rub off on her so that her man will propose asap lol. I thought that was funny and she means no harm.

But seeing all these drama and passive aggressiveness from the guest (wearing white) and the bridal party is starting to get to me

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

How old are you?

Are you worried that women are going to show up wearing white at your wedding?

Are the women who wear white at weddings kinda on the less attractive side? Do you think this is like a cope, because they're not hot enough to be a bride?

[Asker]

I just turned 30 a week ago. Hmm I don’t think I’m worried or even cared that a guest would show up wearing white as long as it’s not a flat out wedding dress. I know I’d give her a side eye but won’t worry too much about it.

Well the women that I saw that wore white to the weddings I recently went to were either single/desperate to get married soon or just like to be extra I guess. None I would consider unattractive. I just feel like some might be jealous or feel like they’re missing out while others might just genuinely unaware of the “rule”

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

So you're still young.

Do you think some of the women are doing it out of spite/jelousy/bitterness? Like "She may have found a life partner, but I look hotter"? Something like that? Do you think they want to steal attention away from you?

[Asker]

Well, not that young lol

I think it’s definitely a possibility. A friend of a friend of mine wore white to her ex’s wedding, I thought that was just too much and disrespectful. I just hope that my fiance’s ex won’t show up in white to our wedding haha

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

30 is young to be getting married, at least in the USA, where I am. Is that where you are? Just curious.

Do these women who wear white also show a lot of cleavage, or like dress for maximum attention?

What's so scary about your fiance's ex?

[Asker]

Getting married at 30 where I’m from is considered pretty late. The majority of people get hitched in their 20s, usually not long after college.

Hmm never noticed a lot cleavage action going on but the dresses were usually very “extra” and unique looking

My fiance’s ex is a bit obsessive over him. Still trying to contact him wanting to get back together with him

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Can I ask where you're from? Just vaguely?

Is your fiance's ex hot?

[Asker]

Somewhere in Asia, not China but there’s lots of Chinese people here.

She’s more cute than hot I’d say (and that’s what my fiance also said).

[petitedollbabee]

Attention seeking narcissists.

[Asker]

Most likely. I knew a girl who always wear white to weddings

[Anonymous]

I don't see what the big deal is, but I guess it means she's rude.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess there’s a bunch of weird rules surrounding weddings huh

[Opinion Owner]

Nobody is going to think she's the one getting married and nobody is going to give her all of the attention just because she wearing white. Unless it's negative attention, but... why? Lol

[Asker]

Exactly! If she’s getting any attention it’ll be most likely negative attention so what’s the point lol

[NewWaves]

I dunno. I just know it's a faux pas.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s an honest mistake sometimes

[NewWaves]

Nah it's not LOL. If it's a wedding, and not one's wedding, she shouldn't consider white. That color (or shaaaaaade) is out of the question.

😂 How does it become an honest mistake? Usually people are told they're invited with a lot of time in advance. Months in advance for the most part. How can the mistake last months' long?

[Asker]

I had a friend wore white to a wedding because in her culture the brides usually wear bold colored dresses, it was an honest mistake in her case.

Buutttt other than that, it’s basically common knowledge to not wear white. A girl I know seem to almost always wear white even though she claims that she never wants to get married. I don't know if’s she’s just oblivious to the “rule” or if she’s being passive aggressive…

I wore a silver dress once because it was a last minute thing and I felt so guilty, can’t imagine how someone can casually wear white to a wedding…

[NewWaves]

Oh yes! The first example is a genuine mistake, yes. Very good point.

[In_Trance]

It means she's color blind

[Asker]

Lol! I’d think she’d be able to see if she were wearing white though

[Delia2005]

She asking for butt kicking.

[Asker]

She sure is…

[Delia2005]

I’ll make for a great show though.

[Asker]

Honestly yeah, I love drama as long as I’m not involved

[Delia2005]

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

She's an attention whore.

[Asker]

Most likely trying to steal attention away from the bride so yeah…

[jahaims]

She's stupid or rude

[Asker]

Rude for sure

[Wise4myage]

Probably nothing?

[Asker]

I guess it’s just an unspoken rule between the girls lol

[Wise4myage]

That makes sense.

[elifbrn]

Means war

[Asker]

Would you cut a friend off if she were to wear white to your wedding?

[elifbrn]

Of course