What does it mean that my boyfriend doesn't believe in marriage?

[ephedrine]

I wonder if he really doesn't want to get married, but we haven't talked about marriage much. Of course, I want to marry him, but I think it's too early. But the fact that he said marriage was ridiculous and unnecessary made me a little sad.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"he said marriage was ridiculous and unnecessary"

I think it's clear enough already lol. I have similar takes and my own reasons, but what matters here is his reasons. I suppose it'll be easy to lead him to elaborate on the topic of marriage. Just try the conversation, and while you're at it, tell him your reasons to believe in marriage, because that's what a couple is about: Sharing :)

[genericname85]

i mean look at what marriage is on the face of it for men: you're paying a lot of money to have a contract with a woman that enables her to take half your shit, part of your wage for the next decades to come and your kids when she leaves. not exactly a sweet deal considering you can have all the nice things you can have with a girl without a marriage.

[genericname85]

and looking at the stats in family focused social sciences , it's not very unlikely that she will eventually leave you.

[Anonymous]

He isn't going to change. Stop fooling yourself with an excuse for him that it is early. When a man tells you something, believe it. It's usually woman who play games.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

If marriage is something that you want, you’d be better off with someone who wants marriage too.

[derrick]

It sounds like he's against the concept of marriage, which could be a deeper belief for him. Honestly, calling it "ridiculous" and "unnecessary" doesn't leave much room for compromise. If marriage is important to you, this could be a serious obstacle. You probably need to talk about it sooner rather than later. If he's against it and you know it's something you want one day, it could save you a lot of hurt later. It can be frustrating, but sometimes two people want different things in life.

[ephedrine]

Yes, if we have different opinions on such a subject, it would be better to talk about it early. It would be better to understand each other's wishes and expectations now rather than be disappointed in the future.

[dallas]

Maybe the idea of ​​marriage doesn’t sit well with him, it could be the way he was raised, or maybe he doesn’t think proving love is necessary. To be honest, a lot of people feel that way these days. It doesn’t automatically mean he doesn’t see a future with you, but I understand why his comment hurts. If you’re not sure, feel free to talk about it when you feel right. You don’t need to dive into a deep marriage conversation just yet, especially if it’s too early, but hearing his thoughts can help you understand him better. And remember, you’re allowed to want marriage. It’s all about finding out if you’re on the same page.

[ephedrine]

Thank you, what you said was really comforting and guiding. I will try to understand his thoughts and try to talk about it when the time is right. I hope we can both be on the same page.

[charles]

It sounds like your boyfriend just has a different view on marriage. For some people, marriage feels like an outdated concept or unnecessary to prove their love. It doesn’t always mean he doesn’t care about you or your future together. If you haven’t talked about it much, it could be worth bringing up in a chill, no-pressure way. Just ask him why he feels that way and share your thoughts too. It’s early, so no need to push for decisions, but understanding each other’s perspectives now can save confusion later.

[ephedrine]

Yes, I will try to talk calmly to understand his point of view and share my own thoughts.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Your boyfriend has made it pretty clear that he thinks marriage is ridiculous and sad. Because he told you that marriage is ridiculous and sad.

If you're looking to get married, this probably isn't the guy for you.

Why not ask him about it? Tell him you want to get married eventually, and if he doesn't, the two of you might not work as a couple.

[JustinTheGreat]

Have a talk about it sooner than later. If marriage is something you really want then y’all just might not be compatible

[SixFootSexy]

You are 40... so does he really want to legally marry someone who can't give him children?

[Anonymous]

Because marriage today is nothing like marriage of the past. Today's marriage is too risky for men, and offers them fewer benefits, and most men are deciding it's no longer worth it.

[Anonymous]

I think it means you're unlikely to get married to this guy. Also, if you're really 40 why on earth would you think it's too early to get married? You waiting for your 60s?

[beefcakebradybatson]

He's a typical 2024 lad. I believe in marriage (my parents had 53 years of wedded happiness), just didn't want it for me.

[onedarkcloud]

In other words friends with benefits. Think about it!

[Crazzyyworld]

Marry Asian they marry to cheat. White boys are playboys and black men are rapists lol

[KrakenAttackin]

You are too old to have children so what's the point in getting married?

[saraupstairs]

What does it mean?

[LazerBean]

It means he doesn't want to marry you.

[Jerre]

He is probably not the right guy for you

[Anonymous]

It's only a piece of paper

[Radiate143]

... with you.

[jahaims]

Ask him obviously