Are those who marry early or late happier?

[DarKnight36]

[MrOracle]

As a general rule, those who marry earlier are happier. Struggling together (as many do if they marry younger) tends to bring people closer together, and appreciate each other more as they begin to accomplish things and their lives improve over time.

But regardless of when you marry, it's only going to work if you understand what marriage IS and if you have realistic expectations and are prepared to do the work and make the sacrifices that are necessary. People who think that marriage is going to fix everything and make them "happily ever after" are never going to last, because that's just not how life works.

Life is hard, and life will throw challenges at you, no matter who you are, no matter how much money or status you have, etc. The purpose of a marriage is to build a family and to have a partner in life who will face those challenges WITH you, and take on some of the heavy lifting so that you aren't doing everything alone. That doesn't mean that life will just be an easy cruise, it just means you'll have help.

Plus, it's just a simple fact that two people working together can accomplish far more than two people working alone, because two people working together can be much more efficient - IF they are actually working together, and not working against each other or being selfish.

[Lynx122]

It depends on your personal journey, not if you're early or late.

[LazerBean]

It's not about marrying early or late. People who are intelligent when picking a spouse are happier, regardless of if it is late or early.

[DarKnight36]

Exactly Yes +

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

I'm not married yet. Better late then regretting having children with a person that turns out to be evil.

[DarKnight36]

It makes sense. I'm on the financial side of things. I'm saying I can live comfortably and not have to get married.

[nastyb]

Marry for character, not just chemistry

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

@nastyb But i cannot marry a man if i don't find him attractive or if i don't have chemistry with him. I understand character is important. So how does that work?

[nastyb]

@prettybarbiedoll

You are more likely to be able to still have a successful marriage with less chemistry and great character

But you cannot have a happy marriage with great amazing chemistry but subpar character

I have seen so many divorces happen due to this

You NEED to marry someone who respects you, treats you well, supports you, sacrifices for you.
If you think chemistry is more important than this, you WILL find out the hard way years later

[nastyb]

@prettybarbiedoll

Marry someone who makes you laugh. Your laughing will be on the back burner at some point, when bills pile in, having to take care of 3 kids while working a full time job, barely having any free time to yourself,

Being the only one to wake up in middle of the night to tend to the baby, barely getting any sleep then going back to work the next morning because your husband won't help you

Or your husband refuses to pay his speeding ticket and rather have you pay it for him

A man who refuses to get a better paying job to provide for his family even if it is offered because his current job is "easier". Therefore, you need to pick up extra hours at work to make up for it

A guy who disappears on weekends, leaving you to do all the housework and child care. He just doesn't feel like helping you out since he is already paying all the bills

This are all real life examples i have seen through the years

[TheSpaceGnome]

That depends on if they married a match or a future ex.
You can marry the right or wrong person at any time.
The faster you rush, the more options you have, but also the higher risk of choosing the wrong person.
The slower you go, the less options you have, but when you do find someone the chances of it working out are much higher, because you took your time to make sure they were a good fit for you.

[Jeff51]

Married at 35. Not to late

[DarKnight36]

I am 34 years old but I think I am late

[Jeff51]

Old people get married. It's ok. If you wants maybe late.

[chocolatetwopointo]

im not getting married so ill always be happy

[Jeff51]

Maybe later you will

[chocolatetwopointo]

hell no

[OneViewpoint]

Yes.