Polls: Marriage & Weddings

My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married soon, we started discussing our expectations on how long the engagement period should last. I personally think at least a year would give us enough time to thoroughly (and more cheaply) plan out the wedding + we’d have time to enjoy calling each other fiancée lol. But my boyfriend prefers to get married (at least in the court house) within a couple of months after officially getting engaged and throw the wedding reception/party later on. What do you think is the best length of an engagement?

(Additional info: Where we live, the average length of an engagement is usually 3-6 months)

In Japan, a friendship marriage, refers to a type of marriage where two individuals enter into a marital relationship primarily for companionship and mutual support only. No romantic love/ sexual
attraction is required.
These marriages are often seen as a practical solution for individuals who desire companionship, emotional support, and the benefits that come with marriage, but may not necessarily seek a romantic or passionate relationship coz there is no sex involved. These marriages are based on friendship, trust, and shared values, rather than romantic love. In a friendship marriage, the couple may choose to live together, share household responsibilities, and support each other in various aspects of life. While they may not have a romantic or sexual relationship, they still value each other's company and enjoy spending time together.

I hope that my question is chosen as great since I really can use so much support right now.

We are renewing our vows but I would enjoy a courthouse wedding. I don't wanna spend thousands of dollars right now on a huge wedding. Especially not right now, but maybe down the road. My husband and I would love to go to the courthouse to renew our vows. Nevertheless, family members that have been cut off expect an invite still. His mom, siblings, nieces, and nephews are the only ones going to be present. I want a small family only wedding.

While my spouse was away for work, people treated me with disgust and ruined every aspect of my character. My husband was well-known in our neighborhood, but he kept his personal and professional lives apart. He did not bring his real life outside of the home.

We live in a small gossiping community where everyone wants to know your business, and if they don't know anything about your life or you're not a member of their so-called "clique," they'll spread rumors. I stay at home and keep to myself, but that's not enough. This town will continue to spread rumors with "I heard". People in this town will say "Oh, I heard that his water is cut off" if you pee in a garbage can with no one around you. You can go to the store and mind your own business. As soon as you arrive home, someone is going to call you and say, "Girl, I heard you were in the store spending so much money; how are you doing?"

There are people that live in our community that you haven't seen ever before. It is hard to date people here because the gossipers wanna control that as well. The community we live in makes it hard to live here unless they know your business.

I just wanted to express why I want a closed private wedding. I want to live my life in this community without the community interfering with my life and destroying it.

Inspired by my cousins life choices! Her husband passed in an accident while they were trying to have kids and few months latter she was so happy to learn that she was pregnant!

Yes phrasing was for Halloween 👻

I have always been pro-prenup. I have two businesses and I'll be damned if someone I no longer get along with decides he's just going to take my businesses and everything I've spent half my life building in a divorce. One of my good friends was in a nasty divorce in which her husband cheated on her with their secretary, and then wanted the entirety of the business they built together with her working 70 hour weeks at one point to sustain it. That was such an eye opener for me what people can do, even if they are the ones at fault in destroying the marriage. We would all like to think we could be civil in a divorce, but nope, of all the ones I've seen happening in person, only about 20% are ever shaking hands at the end.

So what about you, would you absolutely insist on getting a pre-nup or do you think like some do, that a pre-nup is just setting your relationship up for pre-failure