What do you think about promise rings?

[hand77]

Not the rings but the meanings. I have been dating my girlfriend for about three months now. This is my second serious relationship, my last lasting a year and two months. I really do love this girl. I can honestly see my self with her in the future. I've asked her about it and she says she could too. But the thing is do I give her a ring or is this just puppy love?

[Deline]

Sweet. That's about it.

I'm sure you hate hearing this, but it's true, and you won't really know this until your old. but you're too young to be crazy involved. I mean if you want to give a ring. do it. But don't expect to be permanent thing, because. its not going to be. It's RARE that people as young as you are, every stay with the same partner forever.

You hardly know what the heck you're going to do next week, much less what you want to do with the rest of your life. how the heck then do you know she's the one for forever and ever?

Don't take this pessimistically, I'm just saying. give her a ring if you feel like it cause you like her and you like to give a gift, and let the future unfold the way it will. Just don't put the "commercial" label over this "promise" ring nonsense, becuase that's just invited by the diamond marketing industry as another way to get young guys to part their hard earned $ from their pockets. She shouldn't expect a "promise" ring to mean much beyond what that you want her to have it. I wouldn't spend a small fortune either and if you don't have the money $ or don't really care to spend it, that should NOT be a reflection of your relationship with her.

Promise rings are just like a dumb status symbols. they're just meaningless, expensive pieces of junk. it's what you feel for her that's real, and there's no ring in the world, big enough or expensive enough to represent that. Show her how much you care by. being there for her bro, that's the best gift. The rest is just BS.

[flgurl75]

I don't think its a dumb symbol I think its a sweet symbol. I think even though if you 2 do realize that this most likely won't last forever. you can just say the promise ring is your way of expressing how much she means to you and that she is the one that makes you happy and for how ever long it does last she is the only one in your eyes as long as life doesn't lead you 2 in another directions. promise ring doesn't have to represent forever just promise that she is special to him as long as it last

[hand77]

Wow thanks man. I've tried being their and I'm still working on it.

[Deline]

I feel I have to clarify. "promise ring" is a made up by rich marketing executives that are only interested in your $.

Give her a gift that means something to you both. It doesn't have to be a ring at all. The "thought that counts" is a truism. Think of that, think of what she means to you, give to her unconditionally... just like you would want her like you... unconditionally. If she whines about not having a freakin"promise ring", that's exactly unconditionally is it? Think about it.

[thelittlethings]

I agree with Deline. Promise rings are all about status. It's just a ring. Same with a wedding ring, it just shows your status, it's a symbol. It's the love that hold the meaning, not the rings.

[littleblondie17]

I think that promise rings are good for certain situations. But if you just give her one because you think you love her you could end up breaking up in a few months. I know what you mean when you say you could see yourself with her in the future I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half we had talked about a promise ring. and I ended up getting one in June but that's because he left the country for 4 months. and it is a promise to be faithful to him while he is gone. Something like that is a situation where a promise ring is a good thing or if it was a long distance relationship. But personally I would have never thought about getting one if he hadn't left. I think that you should give it a little more time and if you really want to give her something get her a necklaces or something like that a ring is just a really powerful thing. And not to mention how young we are.