Reminders are hurting me…should I get rid of them?

[Anonymous]

I have a beautiful piece of artwork and a beautiful leather purse that my ex best friend gave me previously, as gifts. Right now, it hurts to have reminders of her. Should I keep them and box them up, or regift them to someone else? My best friend chose my abuser over me. I’m in so much pain right now, I’m barely making the grade.

[Tren58]

Just a thought. I got rid of all my letters and gifts from my dad when he chose his abusive girlfriend over me. I regret it every day. I know it’s a different situation. And the gifts I don’t really care about or miss, but the letters… those words he wrote to me were real and sincere at the time. Now that the fresh pain is gone and I’m healed from the situation, I sure wish I had those letters. I wish I would have hid them away for a time, until the thought of them didn’t bring up so much hurt and betrayal.

[Jkgordon]

Poor thing I say toss it in the garbage. She chose an abuser over you, she has self hate. Her gifts are negative energy. Try to sake it or throw it away

[Truthatanycost]

I would destroy all of them. I do not re-gift such things because I see anything given as a gift to be a seed. When you keep it and box it up, you are holding on to that energy. I am one for completely ejecting all toxicity from life and making complete clean breaks so that means I don't keep anything like that.

[Asker]

That’s generally what I do, too. Except I regift things.

[Truthatanycost]

I think it depends on what the regifts are and what history they hold.