What to do for Valentine's Day with a FWB?

[Anonymous]

I started a friends with benefits thing this past weekend and am not quite sure about if I should do anything for Valentine's day. We're not officially together or anything, nor am I really looking for anything right now, I'm just wondering if I should because it'd be a nice thing to do.

Valentine's Day with a FWB?

[bjork]

Navigating V-Day in such a dynamic can be a bit of a tightrope walk, huh? You don't want to overstep and send the wrong message, but also, you don't want to completely ignore the day and come off as uncaring. Here's a couple of ideas to strike that perfect balance:

Keep It Light and Fun: How about planning something that's enjoyable but doesn't scream "romance"? Think along the lines of going to an arcade, having a laugh at a comedy show, or even a casual night in with movies that are decidedly un-romantic. The goal is to make good memories without adding the pressure Valentine's Day might imply.

Cook Together: Instead of a high-pressure restaurant date, why not cook a meal together? Pick out a recipe neither of you has tried before, shop for ingredients together, and enjoy the process. It's laid-back, personal, and you get to eat at the end of it—a win-win!

Go Outdoors: If the weather allows, how about a day trip or a hike? Nature has a way of removing the societal pressures associated with the day.

Gift Exchange with a Twist: If you both agree that ignoring the day entirely feels a bit odd, how about a fun and quirky gift exchange? Set a low budget and pick out something silly or a gag gift. It's a way to acknowledge the day without the emotional weight.

A Class or Workshop: Look for a local class or workshop happening around Valentine's Day—something like a pottery class, a dance lesson, or even a mixology course.

It might be worth having a candid conversation about how you both view the day and what expectations (if any) there are. This way, you're both on the same page and can enjoy the day for what it is—a chance to have fun and enjoy each other's company without the pressure of traditional romantic commitments.

[Girl000]

I have been with a friends with benefits over Valentine's before he didn't wish me happy Valentine's as we were not "together". It hurt my feelings but only because I had feelings for him. If you have romantic feelings for her let her know and giver her a valentine, otherwise don't. If you give her a valentine without having romantic feelings for her it could be misleading... and in the end serving as nothing other than hurting her feelings.

[candlewax]

No? You're just FWB.

FWB = no romance involved. Just sex.

Valentine's = romance.

You'd be sending the wrooong signal if you did something for her for Valentine's Day. Yes, it would be a "nice" thing to do, but you're just going to send out the wrong message if you do something. As far as you're concerned, it's just another day. You two aren't dating, so there's really nothing to be done.

[yahtzee]

she would deff like if you do something... but I am sure it would kind of make her think that you may want a relationship... if you are 100% sure you DO NOT want to beofficial but STILL want to do something , make sure she knows that... you do not want to hurt her or give her the wrong idea, right? just say something like... hey I know we are not official (or what ever you want to call it) but I thought it would be nice to do something...

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

You're friends with benefits and have only been so for a week. Don't do anything.

[Anonymous]

I got a similar problem. I started dating a girl a month ago and she is already nuts about me. We only had sex twice.

Anyway we are not officially together but I know she would be hurt if I didn’t wish her happy Valentine’s Day.

[AmberChick]

Yes you should. She would enjoy it

[ChiPaPa]

Nothing. You don't owe them jackshit.

[Jo1991]

I mean you claim your benefits don't you?