I really wouldn't mind deciding together once I'm in a relationship with someone. But initially I'd prefer the guy to make some effort and plan something in advance. I am also indecisive, but I am seeing a guy who I've told I would like to go out for drinks or see a movie and I've actually mentioned the movie and then he just goes, "Sure we can do that...whatever you like" and then he leaves it up to me. I hate that. I would like a guy who says, "Sure, why don't we go see that on Saturday? I'll check the movie times and get the tickets". It just shows some form of respect. The girl has said what she'd like to do and you're following through. If you just leave it and say, "Let's figure it out later" it feels as though the guy doesn't really care what you want to do or about making things easy for you. Why would I fall in love with a guy who leaves it up to me to decide where he's taking me on a date all the time?
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Me personally, I'm already indecisive as it is. So, yes.
My boyfriend usually gives me options to choose from, which is nice.
There are some days where he says, "Tonight, we're going to do ____, ____, and ____." - if I don't like it, I'd speak up. But most of the time, I really don't mind. As long it isn't forceful.
If I give you options, yes, please pick one. They're all fine with me. We'll just be going back and forth with "I'm fine with anything" otherwise haha. You could even phrase it as a quasi-question if you want, like "Why don't we do X? Sounds fun." or however you want to put that, just don't leave things open-ended.
Oh women definitely prefer to be led rather than to lead... but I don't think there's any harm by saying "I'm down for whatever"... that's usually what I say to make sure the girl pulls her weight and doesn't make me do everything! lol...
But generally, you need to take her by the hand... that is confidence in a nutshell ;)
I wish more girls would like guys who take the lead.
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I'd rather the guy make decisions. If I disagree or want to do something else I'll say it but I'm usually the one that's "down for whatever".
i hate when my boyfriend says I'll do whatever or I don't mind. I love it when guys take control
''would you like to...'' mutual decisions FTW
that's apparently why they want the guy to lead
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