I regret sending bra and undie pictures! I need help :(?

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So a while ago I sent this guy some photos on me in my bra and undies, I wasn't nude or anything! And he said he wouldn't save the photos but he did :( and one of the guys from my school went on his phone and found them and sent them to his own phone and showed all his friends + others at school. Is this something that people will forget about quickly? I don't want to be known as a slut and I really do wish I had never done it! Please help 😩

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

In time, like anything, sweetie, the googling and gawking will die down. Kids are kids, and yes, it wasn't like you were in 'the raw,' however, they will have a few things to talk about. As long as of Now you have never had this 'Rep" for being a 'Rag,' try not to play on it too much.
If anyone approaches you, just laugh it off... And you can always say "It's no different than wearing a bikini. I was having a few laughs with my friend."
However, let this be a lesson learned What you send and-----To Whom in the future.
And while you are still wearing egg on your face, you could always send him a tender loving text: Thanks for nothing, _.
I am not fully convinced, as smart as I am, that this was by accident only that his bud 'found them,' for guys in school are what they are, and he may have thought you sexy enough to Show you off... If this any comfort consolation. xx

BrunetteNYC · Accepted Answer

Live and learn, it's no big deal really. He enticed you into it, and all this demonstrates is what a JERK he is. Another guy would not be putting his ego to show it off to his friends over your trust. If there is anyone with a brain around you, they will realize this - you have been victimized. Please notify him that although you were not nude, you are STILL a minor and he CAN get in big trouble as it is considered child p*rn, really. That oughta wake his a** up.

Tell him that you are telling your parents, the school, and the law, and watch him change his tune.

You are not powerless. There are serious laws enacted for this kind of violation for minors AND adults.

thenotsobeloved · Accepted Answer

Don't listen to hybridboy it won't make you popular there might be some buzz about it for a little while but the next big thing will come along and people might not forget but the focus won't be on you anymore. Just an aside don't send guyspictures because you can't take their word for it when they say they won't save it, most will save and send just for bragging rights no matter what you sya ordo only a handful won't

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's a crime to show pictures around in public without the owner's consent - I think, depending on your local laws, it might already be a crime to just save them when the agreement was he wouldn't.

You did something very short-sighted. People probably won't forget it that quickly but I'd say in a year it's all fine again. You made a mistake, learn from it and let as many as possible know that it's really naive to send pictures like this around and trust people they "won't save it".

Who told you who showed it around? Are you sure it wasn't the guy you sent it himself?

Rowan041 · Accepted Answer

You cannot undo what is done. The people who have seen it have seen it, and the people who will see it, will see it. Just. don't. ever. take. any. NUDE. pictures. of yourself because the consequences are waaaayy worse. Even if you're a guy. I sent her mine because I wanted hers. She never gave me hers... too "busy," she said. Then I broke up with her because of this "business" and she sent them round as revenge.

Seriousness · Answer

there's really nothing you can do but ignore them, don't let that affect you and of course don't do it again. i also send lingerie pics to my long term bf once in a blue moon and personally it does not bother me at all. i don't do wild poses and i also don't wear anything that i consider too much. it's not really a big deal for me considering that me and my friends have bikini pics on FB. :)

Yakiudon · Answer

I don't think they'll forget it, girl. The only thing you can do is talk to administration and your parents. It's better than people speaking rudely of you everyday. Learn from your mistake, and move on. Also, remember that most of the people you see in high school will not matter after you graduate. Stand up for yourself and walk with confidence.

stevie123 · Answer

It shouldn't be a big deal, although they might try to make it one. You weren't naked.
It didn't show anything more than if you were in a bikini at the beach.
No big deal. Just say that you were goofing with some GFs
You can't be known as a slut unless you have sex with a bunch of guys.
Girls just want to have fun, and you were having some innocent fun!

zombiebabe · Answer

you're still a teenage... why did you even sent him those pics? it never came to your mind that anyone could take possession of those pics? most guys will see you as "the girl who sends sexy pics in underwear ti anyone".. which will give you the reputation of an easy girl!! damn!! how can you be so stupid?

genericname85 · Answer

there is no way to make people to forget. bra and undies is not bad though. it´s basically the same as bikini pics.
try to be cool about it. what you did wasn´t slutty, a lot of girls do it. if people confront you with it, tell them that you trusted him and that he was the one hurting your privacy by making it possible for others to get these photos.
you have no reason to be ashamed for what you did i assume you don´t send such pics to any random guy.

zackserown · Answer

Best you do is just move on. Who cares, don't take it to heart. at least now you know to be careful with some decisions you make related to this issue in the future.

Embrace this situation. Feel it. Believe it. (Kidding)

Haha But yea, If it does happen to start a buzz don't take it to heart. Or at least (unfortunately) Tell a superior?

Best of luck Holmes.

DIzzlegamespro · Answer

This is why I hate boys since they never keep promises. You shouldn't be scared or worried it was your personal choice and as long as you don't have your face in it then it's gonna be alright and similar story but this girl in my school did the same and had her face in the picture and the lad sent it around school but nobody really cared it was just a few desperate boys saying things but just don't do anything until you fully trust the boy

Aussiechic · Answer

I wouldn't worry to much just remember for next time the consequences! bra and undies are nothing these days! If it makes you feel better i swam at the beach in my bra and undies with families and random people around! It wasn't embarrassing and i doubt people cared what i had on. You will be fine. Oh here's me posing lol

Ezio1981 · Answer

You know you sent child  P*rnography  right? You could arrested and charged for that, along with everyone who saw and sent that picture. From now on, I would do stuff like that

Supermosh1990 · Answer

It will go away, if you tell a teacher about it,, I know that is embrassing , but make sure To let the teacher know it's the guy you sent the pics too is the one spreading it. Don't let that title get to you. Just ignore it and it will go away..

Annymous8 · Answer

How old are you? I'm seriously not going to lecture.

molan · Answer

Well, now you have learned the hard way not to do that, EVER.

abundantlyrich · Answer

Well don't worry as long as you don't show your face, if you did, you have to live with it.

hybridboy · Answer

dont worry it makes you popular.. if they sent it. it means you have nice body.

Anonymous · Answer

When parents let their CHILDREN have phones...

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