Do you think my boyfriend will cheat on me in college?

[Anonymous]

I'm currently a junior in high school and he's gonna be a freshman in college. We've been dating for 5 months but we've known eachother for years. He's been cheated on by his past 2 girlfriends so I don't think he would cheat on me. I've told him plenty of times that I don't wanna ruin his college experience but he really wants to try a long distance relationship. He's 9 hours away. He left a couple days ago and we've talked on the phone every night, texted and facetimed. He's convinced that it's gonna work but I'm worried it won't and I'll end up looking dumb cause everyone expects him to cheat cause he's in college. I understand that it's way different from high school and I've told him that so many times but he wants us to work. Do you think he'll cheat on me? Honestly

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+1 y

Of course I trust him, but it's college, he's 9 hours away, there's lots of girls, he drinks, I'm just worried is all

[loveisbeautiful]

Honestly, nobody can tell you if he'll cheat or not. But, being as that he's been cheated
on twice by two passed girlfriends. Chances are he knows how much it hurts to
be cheated on and would never cheat on someone himself, for that reason. So, don't
worry about what you don't know will or won't happen. I spend a lot of my time playing the
"what if" game and all it does is cause me more problems. So, don't think about that.
You'll just drive yourself crazy worrying about something that most likely won't happen,
especially given his relationship history.

Also, I want to tell you something. Something I don't think most people understand.
People fear long distances relationships, for a lot of reasons. One of them being that
they're not around that person and so they can't know what that person is up to, so it
gives them opportunity to cheat. But, I disagree with that. You know why? Because, if there's
a will there's a way. So, if a persons gonna cheat they're gonna cheat and they don't
have to be a million miles away to do it. Because, temptation is everywhere. So, even
if he would have went to a college in your town. You'd still have no idea what his up to,
because you still wouldn't be with him 24/7. There would still be attractive girls at his
college and opportunity's for him to stray, if he wanted to. I'm not telling you this to freak
you out, I'm telling you this be help you understand better. To understand that, being
faithful or unfaithful is not about distance. It's about the person and if they're stronger
then the things that tempt them so. Which means, you have to trust that his feelings for
you and his desire to make things work between you two (even being 9hrs away), is
stronger then his desire to be with some chick he meets at a college party.

[loveisbeautiful]

Look at it this way, he had the chance to go to college a free man.
But, instead he choose to go to college a taken man. Not many guys
would pass up the chance to live the single college life and hook up with women,
when ever the opportunity presented itself. Not unless they were totally
committed and totally crazy about the girl there with. So, whenever you get
scared that he might cheat remember this. He could have broken up with you
before he left for college, but instead he chose to stay with you. He's the
one convincing you that this long distance thing will work, which shows he's
committed to you and making this work. All you have to do, is trust in him and
what you have. And, remember he had his chance to be single again. But, didn't
take it. That speaks volumes. So, remember that when you're afraid he'll cheat, okay?

Good luck to you both and I hope you're relationship last a long time for you two : )

[Anonymous]

Either he will or he won't.

My boyfriend and I started dating when he was a sophomore in HS and I was a senior. I went to college. It was only an hour away but it took like 2 months and we were at each others throats fighting and almost breaking up. But we decided not to. It takes a lot of commitment and self control on both parts to maintain a faithful relationship.

Now my boyfriend is in college himself and gonna be honest, I'm kind of nervous he might stray. I trust him, of course, but obviously not 100%. I did trust him 100% when we left for our separate schools, and then it kind of hit me. He's 6 hours away. He's going to be surrounded by pretty girls and temptations. It was easy for me to stay faithful because I am shy and not outgoing but he's Mr. Social.

Like, my boyfriend loves to be physically affectionate. And if I'm not there, I'm sure there'll be a girl there who would be willing to be affectionate with him. But I know my boyfriend isn't the type to cheat. He'd be more likely to dump me than cheat.

Not sure if I'm helpful :/ Your guy will either stay faithful or he won't. My relationship made it work the last two years, it'll be okay, I'm sure.

[Anonymous]

There's a chance, bit if you're worried about it, it seems like you have some trust issues to work on.

[cowboyup]

OK. college don't have anything to do with it. I've been cheated on and it sucked. I have never cheated. That being said y'all still need to meet in the middle for contact not just phone calls. keep him and yourself happy. The hell with everybody else. If its love. True love it will work.

[M41210]

Relationships need trust. But no I don't see him cheating on you. He s probably worried you would cheat on him though.