Why do so many men see black women as undersiable?

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Ok it's one thing if your just not attracted to us but it's another thing when you think that we all look manly/ rough. There's plently of pretty black woman,

 

And for the people who think that black women have to be mixed with something to be pretty since mixed girls look different well I have " unique" facial feautures and im full black, im not the only one either. We all come in different shapes, shades and sizes so you can't sterotype black women or any other race of women for that matter.

GamerArtNerd · Accepted Answer

There are 2 big reasons why people usually find black women unattractive:

1. Media and culture: The media as well as our culture portrays lighter skin, hair, and eyes as the most attractive. It also makes long flowing hair into something that everyone wants. From the day black girls are born, they are combing the straight flowing hair of their barbie dolls and getting their hair permed. If a baby is born with loosely coiled hair it is "good hair" and if she is born with hazel eyes they are "pretty eyes." These are all things perpetuated by both blacks and whites as well as other races. Asians tend to be even more whitewashed than blacks.

2. Stereotypes: There are many different cliques that white people can fit into (redneck, skater, surfer, punk, gothic, emo, jock etc.). Black people are solely "black" with no other cliques that they are socially "allowed" to fit into unless they want to deal with people saying that they are "acting white." Unfortunately most people of other ethnicities aren't particularly fond of "black" culture because it's usually viewed as very aggressive and masculine. These aspects are viewed as very attractive to many women but not really the other way around.

If people stop trying to conform to society and stop being prejudice then this wouldn't really be an issue. For example, there are many girls on here concerned about their breast size and guys concerned about their penis length. Penis length doesn't matter when it comes to pleasuring a woman and breast size is completely irrelevant yet our society constantly tries to make these things seem important and causes people to panic and worry.

Nuqood · Accepted Answer

From what my friends have said and what other guys have said, it's just a facial feature/skin colour thing, sometimes cultural thing, but never a superiority thing. I'm not saying that my anecdotal evidence is true for everyone since that would be implying that racism doesn't exist (which is the dumbest claim in the world), just that more times than not when I run into someone who doesn't find black women attractive it's either because they don't like the stereotypical inner city culture, they prefer small bodies over thick/curvaceous bodies, they don't like the skin colour/nipple colour/vagina colour, or they don't like the facial features.

I don't understand their way of thinking, personally, but it is what it is. Then you have the people who think they smell bad, who think they're unintelligent, who think they're subhuman, who think they look like monkeys, and what not. You can't convince everyone to like everyone, and everyone to find everyone attractive, so you'd might as well just give up on that endeavour. There's plenty of white/asian/arab/whatever guys who find black women attractive, so focus on their opinions and not the opinions of people who don't find you attractive since, well, they don't find you attractive so who gives a shit about them.

Feistyfeistx · Accepted Answer

@DaddyRollingStone as I black woman I agree that sadly some black women do act like that and it's hard for other black women who aren't like that because we get stereotyped because you see a group of black women acting one way then your turned off. But you said white women can be the same way so how come you don't swear off white women? And to say white women hold themselves to a higher standard is also untrue. For example when you look at porn there are ten times more white women then black women. Celebrity sex tapes there's more white women then black ones. in high school you have the popular girls well I was friends with some of them and they would tell me stories about their partying. They would get drunk and get in the car with whoever one time one of them had sex with a random because she was so drunk she couldn't do anything while her friends watched. They went to Panama fl for spring break and one girl had sex with another guy in a hotel room full of people watching and they put it on snapchat. And in order to seem popular and important this was how they acted to get attention throughout high school and college. With many more like them. It's rare when you see a black women doing anything like this sure it happens were not all saints but it's just not as common.

miserybusiness · Accepted Answer

Personal preference. I don't find black men attractive. But the women you posted are gorgeous @_@ esp that last one

abundantlyrich · Accepted Answer

Why would this apply to you? Are you trying to chase a white guy?

hellionthesage · Answer

I don't find black women unattractive. I don't know if I would date one simply because I see so few and because of cultural diffrences. I am a bit of a nerd so it is difficult to find any one with my interest let alone shrinking it down to black women with my interest. I think this might be part of the reason why some would not date a black woman, I also think there is the cultural issue where black women are portrayed/portray themselves as more masculine. Not physicaly but in general attitude. While this is not all black women obviously this is the black women that most are aware of. So I don't think it has to do with race so much as culture.

truthhammer · Answer

lol you had to put attractive balck females eh?

i just dont find them that attractive. i dated hot mullatos etc before but our cultures were too off.

blacks are seen as low class... produce the most single parenthood babies and those kids are beleived to do the most harm to society (75 percent of prisoners are black)

this other black chick i sorta dated cared too much about what i had materilistically and i know she liked me because i own my home and always treated her. i had to cut her off as she didn't reciprocate for 4 years of our friendship. i spent a couple thousand and she spent maybe 100 bucks on us? not even.

black people are the poorest with Spanish people in the states and thers a lot of generational curses from your sexualized cultures. having kids when you haven't even grown up yet and men who just wanna bang and leave etc.

also, beauty standards of the world is based off white features...

just being honest.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is more about sexism rather than racism. I see a lot of guys talking trash about black girls, but never the other way around. If a girl would talk about black guys the way some men have talked about black women on this question she'd be called racist. Men openly talk trash about black women and it's okay. Also, it seems like society is trying to overcome racism at the expense of gender equality. Society is becoming more sexist in attempt to appear less racist. A lot of black guys see white girls as a trophy. Dating a white girl makes them feel like "they're white and are better than other blacks". I think this idea penetrates the minds of white men because they would be seen as losers who "can't get a white chick". A white man dating a black woman would be mocked by other men, even black me would make fun of him. All of this is due to sexual objectification of women.

SurströmmingLover · Answer

Who said that black women are undesirable? For me they're as pretty as all other women

Avicenna · Answer

I'd like to make a point about responses to online profiles being the evidence for black women being less attractive. Online profiles are only a subset of all women and they skew toward less attractive women. If you live in a majority-black city or go to a majority-black school, you will see more attractive women IRL than you do online.

Domingo · Answer

According to some of my guy friends who are black, the feel every black female has a hoodrat in her. They feel that they are all loud, obnoxious, short fused, and the list goes on and on. This is according to them

Sexualchrist · Answer

I'm seeing this subject come up a lot. I don't know where the idea that black women are undesirable is coming from. I would totally go there with a sexy black woman.

kangy · Answer

Kat Graham is very attractive there are beautiful girls in all races. Attraction has no reason

Notedkibbles · Answer

Did somebody say something, that rustled every black girls jimmies? -_- this question is getting annoying

Possessed · Answer

To be honest I feel unlucky for guys who don't get to taste black ladies they simply are amazing

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't want my kids to be black, so I wouldn't date a black woman. I dont like the hair either. On average half my kids would be female and they aren't nearly as desirable as say a white daughter. White boys will be more successful than a black boy. And, I wouldn't want to deal with her family.

valentina_alexander · Answer

ignore them all girl brown girls are da best brown girls are so pretty and fabulous not to mention how stylish and how strong they are brown girls are my role model e. g. oprah <3

Anonymous · Answer

Black girls who say this must just be ugly, because I'm hearing this online all the time, but as a black woman irl have never had this problem. Men of all races hit on me, and my black girl friends have it the same way. I've never come across this problem and actually find it more a problem that men are such pervs and don't let a decent looking woman walk down the street without trying to get her number or talk to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I see FAR more black women saying black women are undesirable than anyone else. Self-fulfilling prophecy?

RationalMale · Answer

I think I'm missing something. Are black women on this forum insanely obsessed with how they can't date white, or do they hate each other? Because there seems to be a lot of black people alive today, and I'm guessing they're not petri dish babies.

Most white guys think black girls are not attractive. That's life. Deal with it. Go chase some black guys, lmao.

Anonymous · Answer

Black women are naturally gassy. We tend to fart and belch more than most women, and most women still fart and belch quite a bit. That’s why men find us less desirable on average.

genericname85 · Answer

this is a stupid theory: because white boys think they are used to big black dicks and therefore we couldn´t do much for them :D

HappyToBeAlive · Answer

Those picture are of black girls with tons of make up. I dont personally think the natural black hair is atteactive. Mixed girls got it locked down tho. Light skins fine as hell

Anonymous · Answer

It is a complex issue but you can start with why dont black men find black women desirable (on average). Is it because of racism or colorism or is it something else like personalities...

dudeinohio · Answer

I have no problem with black women... i'm attracted to them.

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