Do you get annoyed when people read your text/message but don't reply?

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We met a few weeks ago but used to talk to each other every night. Now he'll text me out of the blue and read my text but doesn't reply it's annoying to me. The first time he texted me first and we were talking and in the middle of our conversation he read a text I said but didn't reply back so I sent something else and he sent me a message back then after like 2 min he stopped texting again but it said read. I just ignored it even though it was annoying but the next day he texted me and he did it again but I still talked. Then the 3rd time got annoying so I just stopped talking back all together and didn't text him for like a few days maybe about 2-3 days so he texts me again saying hey and we talk for about 5 min and then ask what I was doing so I told him I was listening to music and on the computer and he's like "I know how much you like that band" he didn't exactly say it like that but similar. So I was like "yeah I looked online and they're coming in April to Hollywood. :D" then he opened it like a couple seconds after and it says read but he still hasn't replied and it's been since Wednesday but it's really pissing me off. Does this piss you off when people do this? Do you think next time he texts me I should ignore him and stop talking to him?

lumos · Accepted Answer

This is like my number 1 pet peeve. Especially if it keeps happening with the same people over and over. Usually I call them out on it. I don't care if it makes me sound clingy or whatever. I just straight up tell them that it's annoying that they take the time to read what I said, but can't be bothered with writing a reply.
If the conversation is naturally coming to an end, then I don't really care if they read my last message without responding. I do that too, when I feel like the conversation is dead. However, he could have easily kept talking about that band you were talking about. So, when something like that happens, it makes me question their conversational skills. It also makes me question their interest in me. If they really cared about talking to me, they would either continue the conversation or change it if they didn't know what more to say. Especially if we've only been talking for a couple of minutes.
I'm not sure if you should stop talking to him. But you could playfully call him out on it and be like "how dare you ignore me! :D" or something. See how he reacts. If he keeps doing it after that, you should probably, slowly, stop talking to him altogether. Seems like he might not be very into you after all, since he keeps ignoring you.

Kaylove96 · Accepted Answer

It annoys the hell out of me and pisses me off and it makes me feel like saying stuff, be negative, feel negative, think negatively, and it'll be like Im depressed. Thinking they don't care, Im worthless, I should die if I can, etc. And one time it led to problems with my mom. When she finally responded after me starting to say all this stuff, she acted mad and started saying things that are not nice. And sometimes I think I shouldn't believe them if they say things like they love me or Im very important to them or anything. Then I think about it when I feel down and be like 'yeah right! You don't love me!'

watashiwahanadesu · Accepted Answer

I don't really care to be honest. I'm very guilty of that and I know it's a horrible habit but my friends know I don't mean to frustrate them or cause them any anxiety. As long as they reply, doesn't matter if it's a week late, I honestly can't say I care. The only time it gets on my nerves is if there is a meeting or an event that we have to go to and whoever I'm supposed to go with cancels last minute or doesn't warn me that she'll be late and I end up waiting 4 hours. (Yes, that happened once)

PixelPunk · Accepted Answer

THIS IS THE MOST ANNOYING THING!!! This exact thing happend with a girl I was talking to. The thing is we would get into some pretty deep conversations and everything! I just don't understand it, must be a lack of interest, if she ever replies to the last message I sent her I don't think I'll bother texting back. But having those long conversations made it seem like there was at least some interest. If I do it to her she would call me out on it, like please chill. It shouldn't take 3 days for a reply.

Lonelywolf21 · Accepted Answer

I would say it depend on the situation. I don't get irritated with a person I know ignores me, but it would get annoying if he doesn't were to give me any attention at all.

In your situation, yeah I would be annoyed and ignored him. that's for sure. I would ignored him. Or as the MHO have said said you pig, how dare you to ignore me? and then see how he reacts and if he doesn't reply, get him out of ya life. :)

MariellaRo · Answer

I'm not much of a texter and always take a while to reply (no whatapp lol, my friends all hate me), so I don't get too annoyed, especially since with me it's mostly things you have to think about for a second - you wanna g oto movies with me on Thursday, how did you do this or that for uni. But I do hate when people don't ever reply to casual questions or statements - like I didn't even say anything. I have a guy friend (very good at holding face to face conversations) who does this all the time adn and it's plain annoying.

ThatGuyFromThere · Answer

Called me old school but if your going to send someone a text you may as well be sending them a letter. They'll get back to it when they feel like it or can. I often get text messages look at the message to see if it something I need to address right away and if not go back to the task I am currently working on. If you want to have the persons undivided attention either go see them in person or here is a novel idea use the phone for the initial purpose it was created for. Call them.

Anonymous · Answer

People do this... its a common thing... its probably cuz they aren't as close to you so you need to build up a really good conversation... something no one gets bored out of... he probably might have some kind of problem with taking people out in his car. maybe he isn't allowed to or he's busy

You should talk to him and ask him

Maybe u should ask if he wants to walk with you somewhere... say something without making the car a transportation... If he shows up then maybe he jus has a problem with taking you out in his car... try it you never know

Hanarchy · Answer

As a chronic non-replier and an introvert, I have to defend this dude. I'm sure it's annoying but some people get distracted really easy or are socially awkward via text since it's so impersonal and it's hard to figure out what to say. Give him a bit of a break...

Kinstrome · Answer

It bothers me a bit, but it happens so often that I don't think about it much.

Sometimes I do the same thing, though, if I forget. Sometimes it's hard to tell if I'm ignoring them, because it's unclear if they wanted me to respond with something or were ending the conversation. I definitely don't do it with malevolent intent.

BumbleDeev · Answer

Yup I get extremely annoyed. But I do the same to other people and the reason I do it is because it's not an interesting conversation or I just don't like the person. Especially when someone replies with "oh" "ok" "yeah" one word things like that.
I think he's just not interested in you. I know if I am interested in someone I text them back no mater what they say

UberTroll · Answer

It depends. If I asked someone a question and they don't answer it then I definitely get annoyed. But in a situation like you just explained, I get the impression that you were talking for awhile and he was just ready to end the conversation so he didn't reply. The conversation has to end somewhere and sometimes girls will just talk forever if they guy doesn't cut it off himself.

Starfishlover · Answer

I understand that sometimes, people don't know how to end a conversation. But when it comes to open ended questions or texts that require a reply, I do think it is bloody annoying and disrespectful when people don't reply. There is hell to pay when I see them in real life.

sp1213 · Answer

I find that sh*t so rude. I try to give benefit of a doubt at first.. but after awhile it's like ok you're not interested because a.) you would have answered or b.) You would have tried to continue the convo w a new topic if you had no interest in the recent one. Just tell him you're all set, lol. When a guy's interested, you'll know. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Oh my goodness yes, I have had that happen and with my best (guy) friend to. We don't talk much, but he'll text out of the blue and be like, 'hey you haven't contacted me lately, but that's okay cause I probably wouldn't text back cause I'm just like that". it just annoys me so much. so I just don't respond to him much. He's not worth the time if he's the only one that tells me something but never responds.

zorro8888 · Answer

Sometimes I'm busy... I read the text and can't respond but I forget about it.
That could be his case. Or maybe unless if it wasn't a question he saw no need to reply.
Don't read too much into it. Some people are better face to face than texting.

paperfriendd · Answer

Lol, its so annoying so many guys are really bad at replying and with the blue tick on Whatsapp now its even worse cause' they have opened it... messaged you first even but, take so long to bloody reply!

ShyGuy30 · Answer

Really irritates me when people read it but don't text me back. Just stop talking to him altogether he'll realise he messed up and will start messaging you loads haha

Kshppatel · Answer

Of course but thats life. What am I gonna do, make them answer my text? If they don't want to talk to me then they don't want to talk. It is what it is.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

I really hate it when they don't reply to my text, and then have the nerve to poke me on Facebook. I wish I could disable pokes on Facebook...

YourFutureEx · Answer

Tit for tat. Voted D I'm thankful for the people who did that because it helped me to identify them better.

kangy · Answer

I dont like people who are not responsive. If they always do that, I won't reply their messages on time too. I am not at their beck and call.

Klaatu51 · Answer

sure i get annoyed, but the next time they send me i ignore them back

nikkinikkinikki · Answer

Yaaaaasssss!!! Like, I know you read that shit, ANSWER IT! lol

Rocky19 · Answer

Ain't nobody got time for that.. Just ignore him like you did for 2 days but do it for longer watch how he is going to come back for you

Vasco423 · Answer

Maybe he just has a hard time finding sonething to talk about lol

Beous · Answer

Yes its one of the things I hate the most and it just makes you wonder what's going on... they missed the text or they don't like you or they playing hard to get or WHAT?

Jbgurl20 · Answer

I get annoyed lol, who wouldn't? I hate being seenzoned.

Anonymous · Answer

It's one of my biggest pet peeves, I find it rude to read a text and ignore the person. It's fine if there's nothing left to say but if we are at mid conversation and you ignore me, I'll ignore you too.

pooper89 · Answer

The problem with technology these days. It ruins relationships

aurablues · Answer

Ooooo I'm a really good snub so def ignoring him is my way to go...

boriblanca2010 · Answer

I never hit people up but when I do if the leave me on seen i get very offended

James687 · Answer

yes especially when i have made plans, instead of them telling me they can't go etc, they usually just dont reply

clampfan101 · Answer

More "nervous" than "annoyed". (Thinking after awhile "Umm... Hello?")

pakrulz · Answer

I get really annoyed but can't get mad at them considering im also one of those people.

Anonymous · Answer

Im actually very immature about this.. If you take 4 hours to reply, then I'll take f*cking 5 hours, how about that.

newhotmama2015 · Answer

Yes especially if they ask you to text them and don't respond

ladyluck44 · Answer

I've been through this before and he either has a girlfriend or is losing interest. drop it before u get hurt like I did. don't ignore the signs !

Livvy14568 · Answer

It's really annoying, you shouldn't talk to them if their going to do that.

anicegirl · Answer

YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. YES.

linkywinky · Answer

Its annoying as fuck.

523206720 · Answer

It doesn't angry me but it frustrates me.

Coolguy1928 · Answer

Yes it annoys me a little. :P

abundantlyrich · Answer

I don't really do text talk. :)

helpman · Answer

I just tell some annoying things and block them

douride2 · Answer

Doesn't bother me cause I dislike text myself.

chocolateismylover · Answer

Sometimes , it depends.

grashopper · Answer

Now you know how most guys feel. XD

Princessofpersia · Answer

So annoying... I feel u

babu_001 · Answer

I don't text.

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