Do you think someone is "weak" if they need another person to make them happy?

[Anonymous]

How would you describe it, are they weak, emotionally immature etc. or do you think it is okay for someone to be this way?

[HOAAH]

I think that they are "misinformed" is the better word.
When you get into a relationship, you both should take care of yourself. When you do give love and try to take care of the other person, you do it not expecting anything in return because you already loved yourself so much. If you do it expecting some thing in return then you give power to the other person, and they can let you down. So don't do that.
I highly recommend you focus on yourself (or whoever the misinformed is) and learn to love yourself by doing things that you enjoy. Whatever it may be. For me it is being by myself, sleeping extra hours, reading good books and taking long baths. Make yourself happy, so others don't have to. It's part of the being an adult, take care of your own shit so that others don't have to. Good luck

[RJGraveyTrain]

They are definitely on the weaker side of the emotional spectrum if they NEED someone else to feel happiness, but that depends on the situation. As humans, we are generally more social and need a certain level of social interaction to feel normal, unless you're a recluse or introvert. But if they need say, a certain friend, or a lover in order to feel whole and happy, I'd say they have some emotional maturing and self-reflection to do.

[CancerianMan81]

no you have to be dependent on one another there ain't no way around cause if you're independent only with yourself then that's weakness

[CancerianMan81]

how can you have everything if you're giving yourself everything for yourself it can't happen

[CancerianMan81]

I'm not saying happiness is given through another person I'm just saying that if happiness isn't given through the other person then why deal with that person cause happiness is given through a 2 way street not a 1 way street

[RJGraveyTrain]

@CancerianMan81 That's your opinion dude, relax. Lol.

[RJGraveyTrain]

@CancerianMan81 Also if you noticed, I never once said you shouldn't find happiness in other people. But if you have to emotionally depend on a single person and can't stand alone as your own person with your own personal strength, yeah, I find that weak. Needing help from others and emotional support is fine, codependency is not.

[CancerianMan81]

I wasn't talking about codependency

[CancerianMan81]

in·ter·de·pend·ent
ˌin (t) ərdəˈpendənt/
adjective
adjective: interdependent; adjective: inter-dependent
(of two or more people or things) dependent on each other.
"the increasingly global nature of human society, with interdependent economies"

[CancerianMan81]

and by the way I know you didn't I was just explaining from my point of view that's all

[CancerianMan81]

also you're trying to make it seem like being in a relationship with somebody is a bad thing

[CancerianMan81]

and being alone isn't healthy

[RJGraveyTrain]

I absolutely never said anything about how being in a relationship is a bad thing, you're literally making that up in your head and projecting it onto me bud. I just believe personally that you have to have a certain level of emotional independence. I'm not saying you can't need support, but if you can't handle life or emotions without someone doing it for you, that's toxic to me.

[CancerianMan81]

no i can deal with life on my own I didn't say I couldn't

[RJGraveyTrain]

And I didn't say anything about how relationships are apparently bad. That's just my opinion I'm not talking about you personally, I'm elaborating on what my above statement was referring to, so if you could not twist what I say in the future that'd be cool bud. Lol.

[CancerianMan81]

well alright I'm just referring to what it sounded like to me that's all

[RJGraveyTrain]

And I'm just letting you know that you are very incorrect is all. I don't mind if people need clarification but you don't have to come at me like that, just ask. I have no issue elaborating. Lol.

[CancerianMan81]

okay

[RJGraveyTrain]

Yessir 👊🏻👊🏻👌🏻

[CancerianMan81]

fist bump

[Wonderer89]

I don't necessarily think it's weak but I do think it's very important to learn to be alone. Sometimes it's inevitable and being able to cope in those situations can make all the difference.
Also, some people are so afraid to be alone they stay in bad relationships or jump into ones that can't possible end well, but for them the alternative (being alone) is worse.

[dragonfly6516]

Needing someone else to be happy can make you act weak. If you based your entire life around a single person, then what happens to you when you lose them? Who are you without them? No one other person should be your everything, and you should still have ways to be happy without others around you.

[super147]

It would be hard to describe them as weak when we are social animals by nature. However, there is definitely more resilience in being able to be content in your own company. People who are happy in their own company tend to give off less desperation vibes and hence tend to do better with finding friends and partners. Neediness gives off vibes of insecurity which affects how you appear to others.

[CancerianMan81]

insecurities are made to be broken cause people fall short one way or another there ain't no way around it

[FakeName123]

It depends. Can't they be happy without someone else? Yes, then it is weak.

Are they less happy without a certain someone? No, thats fairly normal.

[wajojoh]

You'll be in freedom if you dont need anybody

but sometimes its scary to be alone

And its okay if you need someone

But maybe you could learn to become more independent. but its totally ok in my opinion to need someone as long as it doesn't affect you too much if someone breaks up or if a friend leaves, you still need to stand on your feet and trust in yourself

[Bucks-Fizz]

Yes they are. It's not healthy to rely on anyone for your own happiness. Once they've gone then so is your happiness. You'd become an emotional wreck if they were suddenly no longer part of your life

[Maypai]

Sometimes in life you need help with happiness. I personally would try to work on that because when you rely on someone else to make you happy, if something happens between the two of you, then your mood is going to be effected.

[Rosieliver]

I wouldn't necessarily deem the person weak, but I don't think it's necessarily a healthy way of thinking.

One has to be happy without depending on anyone because in the end you only have yourself.

[vishna]

Yes. And misguided. Ultimately, one should be able to find enough joy in life in general to not need another human being by their side to validate the joys of life.

[dogsandyoga]

emotionally, yes. i think its really dangerous to have another person as your sole purpose of happiness

[Mofunfour20]

Not necessarily weak but definitely unfulfilled to a degree

[JensonStatement]

No, but it can become irritating. But how do you became like this. Mostly just like me it has a long startertracé. A lot happened that pulled me in that stadium.

[Brook99]

I think it means they have some deep rooted insecurity that only the attention of others can fill. It's a major void in their life and they constantly need their ego stroked to feel good about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Of course its normal. Humanbeing is a social creature.

[jman46241]

Not weak as much as dependent..

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Sounds bad

[Adigelunar]

just need some love

[Anonymous]

Nope.