Am I wrong to say being needy isn’t a bad thing you just need someone else whose needy?

[Summeroflove]

I’m needy. Yes there is a extreme. But I need a more needy woman. I get that being needy isn’t good if someone ain’t as needy.

Some people just more keep to themselves and everything which is fine. But hey it is what it is.

[Rosexøxø]

It’s not wrong but… I mean.. you both would have to be each other’s ‘everything,’ and I’d only HOPE

that both of you live well and fully. Do many things and everything together and make, making memories a part of “your thing,” and a need with each other and for each other.

Say, you both truly did love each other and needed each other- you don’t want to be so needy, where you both have to be apart and can’t stand it

OR

together, but never do anything, but stay home and have sex together.

like 24/7 bed sores stuck to the bed kind of thing- never went out lmao

Live life. Sure, have fun at home, but really live/love life well. Even be great sex mates, but don’t think you’ve seen all there is to life, and let it rest at that.

They can certainly be your world and vice versa, but explore the WORLD world together.

Nothing wrong with being human or having a need, but it is DEAD wrong when others use that, bash that, and you can’t seem to function or thrive because of it.

Live and Let Live.

[Guccigabbana18]

I think being needy is only really seen as bad when the other person isn't into you. When it's someone I like a lot, them being needy with me can be attractive. So the right person won't mind you being needy with them, they'll just see it as you liking them a lot.

[Summeroflove]

This is true and don’t get me wrong there is needy to the extreme too even in a relationship.

I think it depends on the two people. Some couples like more space while others need each other all the time. It comes down to compatibility

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I like girls who I’m into being needy to some extent. As long as it isn’t to the extreme or controlling.

But sure I get it. If I’m not really into someone I would rather her leave me alone for sure and find someone who is into her

[Guy13]

I get exactly what you are saying. There is a healthy needy to me. One where the individuals seek a monogamous relationship with another like minded individual. That's a definitely need and often a driving factor in one's life. People like this usually assign high value to those they feel connection with.

There are over the top needy people who are attention seekers etc but we are not talking about those kinds.

[Looksnicholas]

Yeah nobody ever likes mismatches. 😬

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely 💯

[Summeroflove]

@Looksnicholas mismatches is true too. Some people just aren’t meant to be

[Looksnicholas]

You never know, in a year or years of growth, you may realise you're actually pretty self-assured of yourself. Let's not throw confidence or arrogance or alpha words around. ... I just mean, I'm actually a lot more satisfied and content in who I am, thanks to obvious set backs and experiences. It's amazing. And that's only at to now at 28 and ongoing :) peace man

[Looksnicholas]

So you may find even what you're looking for in someone, changes. You know. Be cool man. Be content 😎😎😎

[Summeroflove]

True as time goes on my wants and needs in a relationship might change. I just need a lot of affection I feel like

[coachTanthony]

two anxious attachment individuals never work out because one will always be needier then the other and that other will see that as TOO NEEDY even though they are needy themselves.

[CA4444]

Mmh we all have healthy needs that’s natural but those attachments styles are not healthy sometimes and that’s when they need to be addressed men or women

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I see your point there

[SnowedIn]

You're not wrong but I'd tweak it just a bit to say you need someone who recognizes and can work with your neediness. Whether or not they're needy is not as relevant. Too many people are very needy and their partner can't deal with any level of neediness -- that's when it falls apart.

[Looksnicholas]

And or other factors cause it to fall apart also. External factors things that are uncontrolled. I reckon nobody realises how much relationships. They're a pain, lol 😂

[Summeroflove]

There is definitely needy to the extreme as well as people who aren’t meant to be.

There is people less needy. But I know my wants and needs. I want and need the kind of person who makes me happy and I also want to make her happy as well. If we aren’t compatible it’s best for both of us to not continue

[SnowedIn]

@Summeroflove ... very well said.

[LittleMelissa9614]

There's nothing wrong with being needy and clingy. That's actually me. I'm like that and there's nothing wrong with that.

[Summeroflove]

Exactly! You just need to find someone who also is

[sassyredhead]

I have found that you are only seen as needy to someone who isn't right for you.

[Summeroflove]

This is true as well as there is a extreme some people go to in being needy too

[Jen_27]

I don't think u guys would be okay if u too are same being a needy. In rs the one who needs and the one who gives would be perfect. Just my opinion

[Summeroflove]

Sorry I’m not following what you’re saying

[Jen_27]

It's okay bc I also like toxic things it would be fun more than normal things

[Summeroflove]

Well I don’t like toxic. If it’s toxic then no.

[Random_g]

How needy? Like clingy or what?

[Summeroflove]

Lots of affection not the extreme needy

[Random_g]

Affections are 👌😍😍 please be more needy... But if you mean like I need you for only me so don't have a life.. That's a red flag

[Nomina]

What do you mean by needy? What kind of behavior?

[Summeroflove]

Fair question. I do agree there is a extreme. I mean needing a lot of affection

[Nomina]

There are extremes to everything. And will say that many examples of needy nowadays don't make sense. I mean, when looking at these couples who have been together for decades, old enough for their kids to he grandparents, their level of affection in many instances is described now as needy.

But what do you mean by a lot of affection. And what is an extreme? At the very least for yourself you'd need to know that.

[Summeroflove]

True there is too needy and too distant there is always extremes as well as the wants and needs or different person.

Someone needy needs someone needy and someone more distant needs someone more distant

[Nomina]

Well, I wouldn't say that it's bird of a feather. There are people who are opposites in that regard and still work together. It's a different dynamic.
One example I have is my cousin and his wife. She's more needy, he's more distant. But when her neediness really needs to be indulged, he does it. When he really needs space, she gives it to him. It's a balance.

[Summeroflove]

You’re right sometimes someone needs someone whose like them in some regards and the total opposite in others.

Kind of like introverts and extroverts can bring the best out of both of them. While for others they just don’t mix well.

Far as needy goes more often then not you need someone whose the same. But hey every situation is different

[MountAverage]

Yes, very wrong. It's just very unhealthy. It's like saying a drug addiction isn't bad as long as you always get your quality dope and never overdose.

[sheikalana]

I don't mind needy and clingy.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because being needy is never a good thing.

[Summeroflove]

Not to the extreme. But it’s not bad being needy. If you’re not needy then you need someone else who isn’t