Girls would you rather have a Clingy boyfriend or a boyfriend who doesn’t care what you do?

[Greaver]

[infinitize]

obviously within reason and the ideal is a good mix of balance.
1) when a boyfriend is too clingy, not only is it annoying and can mean a lot of different things (psychologically), but when he's falling out of love or has someone else, it'd feel awful seeing/feeling him grow distant in such obvious ways
2) when a boyfriend is too aloof, not only would I not feel invested in and loved/cared for (sometimes even feel used for sex), but I wouldn't even notice (even worse, know him enough) if he grows distant

[Greaver]

Okay I’m not clingy and I’m a very kind and caring guy that’s trusting and protective and plus the way girls know I’m not using them for sex is because I’m not into premarital sex so

[infinitize]

I wasn't calling you out or anything and was literally talking in "general sense"
Also, a lot of people have different standards for what they consider clingy (and a lot of the times, without meaning to, I've seen a lot of girls call ex bfs (or guys that didn't work out in their favour) clingy out of bitterness. Its stupid and I agree, but I noticed that those people a lot of the times genuinely don't know that its emotional and not objective)

[Greaver]

Oh I know you weren’t talking about me that’s just what I am though and I didn’t know that people call people clingy in a bad way

[infinitize]

I had an acquaintance that fell in and out of love very easily and would call the guys she "dated" (I'm putting it in quotation marks bc she was basically obsessed with online dating apps) those kinds of names out of bitterness (for ex. would talk about how awesome he is one day and clingy the next when she gets dumped)

[Greaver]

That’s stupid I don’t like people like that because they make people think they love them and then just drop them on their head if I don’t actually love someone I won’t try to date them

[321rose]

One that treat me right

[Greaver]

Doesn’t everyone want that though? I mean that’s what I want from a girl and I’ll give in return

[321rose]

Everyone wants it but not everyone will treat the relationship that way.

[Greaver]

Unless they have a mature mind and aren’t scared of committing to one girl

[321rose]

Yes and make sure your partner wants the same thing

[Greaver]

I know that’s what I want one day

[321rose]

Just remember to play your cards right and talking about bettering in the relationship is not "In trouble thing" talking is managing where the tools go in place with the box.

[Greaver]

Your a 100% correct

[Oceania]

I would want it to be a balance of clinginess rather than in between distant and clingy. I don't know if that makes sense. I would want him to show his affection and you know need me but at the same time we have an understanding of each other and what's up and can just be even without eachother from time to time, like not obsessive clingy deranged maniac just you know I need and want you and I know you need and me too

[Greaver]

You like guys who like to be around you and understand that you can't be together 24/7 and not a controlling guy along with a guy who does car

[Oceania]

Yeah. You are on the dot with the controlling part

[_bunny_]

What if I have both mushed into one xD I know it sounds weird but my boyfriend is clingy but doesn't care what I do when were together he'll never let go of me when we not together he doesn't necessarily care what I do as long as I'm not cheating or flirting with other guys

[Greaver]

Lol how is that even possible

[_bunny_]

He's clingy and only wants me to himself but I can go out do whatever I want dress however I want I just can't cheat or flirt lol thats about it

[Greaver]

Okay that makes a little more sense so I’m guessing he’s the chill type

[_bunny_]

Yeah he's chill lol

[19magic]

I'd rather have someone who doesn't care what I do than a clingy boyfriend tbh, I've always got to have me time otherwise I get super annoyed with whoever it is

[Greaver]

Or would you rather have someone in the middle

[19magic]

Probably still leaning towards the not caring side, I'd much rather have a guy who's blunt and honest and doesn't crowd me. But that wasn't the question 😛

[Greaver]

Blunt people are the people who don’t care the most all the people I know are blunt like me

[vishna]

I would prefer a boyfriend who was in the middle, I don't want a baby clutching at my breasts, and I don't want a guy who has no interest in what I'm up to.

[Greaver]

I’m the same way with girls

[amberchii]

A mixture of both. I'd like to have a boyfriend that is clingy but still gives me enough space to do my things (aka hobbies and such or night with the girls.)

[Greaver]

I meant to put a inbetween for this but that’s what I want to I don’t care if she does what she wants as long as she makes time for me like I would for her

[amberchii]

Well if i have to choose i'd prefer the clingy boyfriend when it "us" time. Yah know

[Greaver]

Yeah I understand that and the funny part about me is my self control I can control at who I look at and I can control my urges to look at other girls because I am loyal just like I would hope my girlfriend is

[amberchii]

It seems like you're unsure of her loyalty :( is everything ok?

[Greaver]

Yeah everything is fine I’m just saying I can control urges to look at other girls and flirt with other girls and by the way I never had a girlfriend I was saying it as if I had one I’m bored because I’m stuck with my toxic ass family

[amberchii]

Ohh lol! You got me there. :D so your questions are circumstancial.

[Greaver]

Correct I wish I had a girlfriend

[amberchii]

She'll come. Don't worry. And sorry for the boring fam thingy.

[Greaver]

Ehh their toxic as hell it doesn’t matter to me anymore

[amberchii]

Welp :<

[Greaver]

I just ignore them now so when I’m 18 I’m getting my gear and my motorcycle and I’m gone

[amberchii]

Did the same before. Apparently you can't runaway from them.

[Greaver]

I tried running away but I had to comeback because no where to go

[amberchii]

That sucks. Hey can we go into pm or dms?

[Greaver]

Sure

[ChronicThinker]

I'd rather tell both to get railed while I find an even-tempered man.

[Greaver]

Lol I forgot to put in the choice for inbetween

[bohofox]

I think a clingy boyfriend is kinda cute haha, but not too much like doing pda all the time. He still should know the limits.

[Greaver]

So your inbetween someone who gives you space and wants to be around you

[bohofox]

yup! also protective but gives you freedom. It's about trust anyway. But for the clingy part, maybe when we're alone, it isn't really pleasant to be very clingy in public, holding hands is okay since it's an indication that he's proud of his girl. But I think it's really cute to be a bit goofy.. well it depends on the girl anyway, just an opinion 😊

[Greaver]

Not to act tough or anything but if I ever see a girl getting bullied by other kids I will intervene I’ve knocked kids out because they called me a school shooter just because I’m white

[Greaver]

And not to mention I’m weird I’m very expressive I’m not one of those boyfriends that Has his emotions all locked away and doesn’t get into the mood when doing something like dancing etc

[bohofox]

wait, what is the relation of your reply to your topic? I'm confused 😅

[Greaver]

I’m just saying I’m protective of people in general when you said you like

[Greaver]

Protective people kids at my school don’t bully me because I’m friends with a lot of them

[bohofox]

ohhh.. not that kind of protective, but I'm glad you are though. I mean someone who will allow me to drink or go travel alone but still tells me to stop drinking too much, gets a bit angry (I think it's cute) when I hitchike, someone who'll tell my limits.

I'm glad you're protective like that though, I can kick ass anyway so that's not the kind of protection I'm telling XD

[Greaver]

Yeah i knew what you mean but I fight people because I don’t want people to get hurt by others and man cannot set his own limits the limits are based on his own physical and mental strength

[bohofox]

Don't be that tough though, it's not right always.

[Greaver]

Usually it’s right but I know when it’s not my place to do anything

[bohofox]

that's good to know 😊

[ghostqueen]

Clingy. Space is nice but I want to be with someone who cares.

[Greaver]

That’s cool same with me I rather have a clingy girlfriend than one that doesn’t care

[Tgec2003]

I like attention and a guy caring
Just not overly clingy or nosy
My first boyfriend was after like two weeks
I got sick of it

[Greaver]

So you want someone who likes to be around you but not around you 24/7 so you have your own space

[Greaver]

And also I hate nosy people what’s the point of trust

[Tgec2003]

I mean I want a guy to give me attention and care about me
But wanting to be together all the time
Or want to know where I am all the time

[Greaver]

Yeah I understand that like the wanting to be together all the time is fine but not possible unless they live together and if you have to know where your bf/gf is at all time you have trust issues usually

[Tgec2003]

Yeah I cannot stand it
I have to be in a relationship that is a balance of closeness and personal space

[Greaver]

It has to balance between me time and together time pretty much

[Tgec2003]

Yeah or else I dump the guy

[Tgec2003]

That’s literally why my only relationship so far ended and the reason I haven’t gotten in another

[Greaver]

That’s understandable I’ve personally never had a relationship with a girl so I don’t pulend know

[Greaver]

Wouldn’t not pulend

[Tgec2003]

Lol yeah

[lilmissumshine]

A boyfriend doesn't have to be clingy to care. clingy is controlling

[Greaver]

But would you rather have someone who cares enough to want to be around you 24/7 or someone who just doesn’t care

[lilmissumshine]

A guy can care about u and still have a life of his own. that doesn't mean he doesn't care. that would concern me if he wanted to be around me 24/7 bc that would mean he has no life. thats unhealthy