Is it weird to go to a bar by yourself?

[ManOnFire]

I've done it a few times but really prefer to go with friends, and lately no one really feels like going. Do you think it's weird or awkward to go alone? And what can make it better or more interesting if you do?

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+1 y

Hey, thanks for your support, everybody. I went out last night by myself and I had a great time. I went to a different bar this time, just got relaxed and enjoyed myself. The girls behind the bar were great, and I think the petite one might've been into me lol. She really went out of her way to ask me how her hair looked and gave me her business card lol. Thanks Gaggers.

[jennifer_bloom]

I once did that cause I was hoping to run into somebody I knew there. I did not want to look like an idiot sitting at a bar by myself so I brought some school books with me so it would look like I was busy studying and not just a loser with no friends and then the bar staff tried to kick me out cause she said my studying was ruining the mood of the bar.

[ManOnFire]

She tried to kick you out for that? What a bitch.

[theFantasticJ]

Lmaoooo

[Salsacumbia]

Nope!! Its actually better!! New people and hey you dont need to leave if you dont want to until you are ready to go. But drink responsible and dont drink and drive... did that stupid mistake and regreted ever since. Have fun... but be wise.

[ManOnFire]

Hoping to meet some cougars too lol.

[Salsacumbia]

Sweet!! Lol!!

[JohnFrost]

I challenge myself to go to a bar and meat new people. That is so much fun. One time I party crashed a bussing party that was doing karaoke. I didn't realize it. I just joined them and talked myself in. And now I did that so many times that I have 5 bars where I can join any time of the week and know people there that I can join

[ManOnFire]

Oh cool!

[Brewmaster531]

Perfectly normal. Bring a book. Someone who is interested in books will appproach you.

[ManOnFire]

Good idea.

[KMFDM]

It's totaly ok to do it. I did it few days ago. I walked into a bar in London, ordered a drink and sat alone. Later on I tried to sit with people to discusd but without succes. Hopefully some girls of a group I tried to join came back to tell me to join, and we figured out that we had the same origins.

I think the problem is that most of the people think that someone alone in a bar/pub is a weirdo, while it is often either someone trying to socialize or a lone traveler.

People should be more open minded. Weirdos and thisty people don't go out alone, they go out with friends.

If you see someone alone just talk to him. You would be very surprised.

[cgregg2010]

I personally don't go to the bars alone. I would not be comfortable consuming alcohol without someone there with me, safety reasons etc. But if you're comfortable going and have means to safely get home whether that be not drinking or uber etc then go for it.

[JimRSmith]

I often go to my local for a quick pint on my own.

I've either got the bar staff to talk to, or one of my mates might wander in.

I used to do a lot of business travel, and that killed the taboo for me, of going out on my own. Lots of interesting conversations start that way.

[TheRealist157]

Honestly no, there's nothing wrong with wanting a drink. If no one wanted to go that shouldn't. Stop you from going. It's easier to have someone there if you get shit faced or into a fight. But other than that.. There's nothing wrong with a lone stander

[kitty71]

If it is a man it is easier to go to a bar by yourself if it is a woman well... it is kind of different, it is more dangerous when you are a woman and goes to a bar just by yourself. Why a woman wants to go to a bar alone? Why can a woman go instead to a cafeteria (a more casual setting anbd a bit safer). In bars you can't ran into some odd people sometimes because it is a BAR and people get drunk there.

I will never go to a bar by myself ever

[kittycat119]

Yeah I don't think I'd ever be able to go to a bar. They'd probably think I'm a kid even if my I. D says 24 lol

[Salsacumbia]

Good for you... 😊☺ i like your reply thank you.

[ManOnFire]

@kittycat119 You do look super young. I'm 31 and a lot of people think I'm like 19 or 20.

[kittycat119]

Yeah I always get mistaken for like 10 or 12. It almost got me arrested at the airport once cause a worker kept acting like I was a kid so I cursed him out

[ManOnFire]

Woooaaah lol.

[kittycat119]

Yeah I got super mad lol

[theFantasticJ]

You look like a child

[kittycat119]

@theFantasticJ I know

[theFantasticJ]

Be gone child

[kittycat119]

@theFantasticJ I'm 6 years older then u dude

[theFantasticJ]

Do your not 18?

[kittycat119]

@theFantasticJ I'm 24 actually

[theFantasticJ]

Why you lying

[kittycat119]

@theFantasticJ I'm not

[Ahsthen]

You're awful cute in that sorta down home way. I wouldn't let you in if I was at the door, no how what your ID says.

[MasterAetos]

No wonder, you're 18 years old. Right?

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos 24 😢

[MasterAetos]

Then why does your profile say you're 18 years old?

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos gag changed it

[MasterAetos]

? That's impossible. How? Change it back.

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos I tried asking them to but they haven't

[MasterAetos]

Then do it yourself, go into your profile and edit your details. What do you mean you asked them too? That's not how this website works. Are you sure you're 24 years old?

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos yeah I'm 24. I'm not stupid I know my age. And it won't let me change it so

[MasterAetos]

It won't let you change it? Really? That's the first I'm hearing of it.

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos yeah I've tried so

[MasterAetos]

That's certainly unusual. Why did the website change your age?

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos no idea u just know it changed not long after I joined

[MasterAetos]

Maybe they think you can't be 24? I have the problem of looking older.

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos maybe so I just clarify my age 2 people all the time

[MasterAetos]

You do look awfully young to be 24.

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos oh I know

[MasterAetos]

Maybe you're a late bloomer.

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos nope just short and young looking

[MasterAetos]

Are you sure?

[kittycat119]

@MasterAetos yes

[CHARismatic110]

I don't think it's weird. You're going for drinks. And you could also grab a bite to eat while you're there. Some bars usually have certain things going on in different nights. Like theme nights. That makes things more interesting.

[wittymilf]

It’s not easy to do when your a woman. The assumption is always that you’re there to pull.

[ManOnFire]

I'm actually hoping to meet some cougars lol 😆

[wittymilf]

Haha, go you.

[wittymilf]

Although I’m pretty sure they hunt pack animals... so you’ll need to pretend you got seperated from the herd all accidentally and shit.

[ManOnFire]

Didn't know that. I'll have to come up with a plan😆

[wittymilf]

Yup, get your back story sorted, so you look popular but abandoned (vulnerable) not just like a guy who has no friends ( not desirable) :)

[Ahsthen]

Bond. James Bond. As long as you appear to you audience as lone rather than lonely (and perhaps hungry), maybe even Batman lone, but not Joker or Riddler alone. Deadpool lone to a special audience.

[Leo-Cobalt13]

I just had 5 beers and karaoke yesterday night by myself in my car at home👍. Its not weird to me to go alone don't mind what people think you are judged anyways. Just like many say, stay safe.

[ManOnFire]

Great answer.

[Leo-Cobalt13]

Welcome!

[PIMPKILLLA]

If u want to do that then why not last time I checked I make my own desiciins and so shouk you

[ManOnFire]

That's a funny name - 'PIMPKILLA.' Lol.

[PIMPKILLLA]

Lol thanks was trying for something different hahaha

[Moonchild714]

Nothing weird about going to a bar solo. I'm a Social Butterfly so for me it's easy, people are drawn to me so I have new friends by the end of the night. Just be relaxed, laid back, look open to approach for conversation and company.

[Drazak]

go to the coffee. Coffee/thea ez better for ur healthhh.
and play chess/card with ur Turkish/Russian mafia's bro.

[ManOnFire]

Lol!

[pink1980]

I’ve gone by myself in Vegas. Once I’ve had a few I was more relaxed.

[ManOnFire]

Vegas? Cooool.

[pink1980]

Yep. I love Vegas!!!

[Salsacumbia]

The best place evet!!! Vegas!! Nice.

[arrykancil]

I don't think so, i rather go alone sometimes to go to a bar, makes you think what will make you better, or maybe have a new friends.

[ManOnFire]

Hey cool idea.

[arrykancil]

So you meet new friends, or possibly a new girlfriend... hahaha

[Ahsthen]

Like being any place, the question is, 'do you feel like you're supposed to be there?' Many times for me the answer has been no, and I know now before I even think of getting ready to split anywhere.

[ManOnFire]

This is pretty true. I think I've asked myself that once before.

[Ahsthen]

It should be ever-present.

[JayMichigan616]

Not weird at all. Especially if it's a dive bar. I could see not wanting to go to the club alone, but the going to the bar alone isn't weird. It's down right American

[maartenn]

It is awkward the first few times. But after a couple of times you will learn to just enjoy a cold beer. If you relaxed and enjoy the moment, then in no time you will find yourself talking to random persons.
I prefer going with friends, but if they dont feel like going i just pop in the local bar and have a cold one for myself

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Going to a bar by yourself is fine if you're a social type who doesn't mind striking up conversations with random strangers. I do it all the time.

[Kiri_kun]

Usually you get to meet new people to hang out with if you go alone so no I don't think it's weird cheers big fella 🍺

[linds34]

No, people go by themselves all the time. At a good bar, the staff & customers will be friendly and make you feel welcome.

[up_the_irons]

Not weird at all. I go by myself all the time and always find someone new to talk to.

People are not judging you as much as you think. They are all worried about how they are being judged too!

[ManOnFire]

That's really good to know! Cuz sometimes it does feel like people are judging

[up_the_irons]

Life becomes a whole lot more fun when you stop worrying about what others think of you and just do whatever the fuck you want ;)

[up_the_irons]

Internalizing and becoming comfortable with this attitude can take some time, but it's worth the practice

[up_the_irons]

Also, when you're truly comfortable alone, you'll ironically attract people to you because they envy your level of comfort. Then, you won't be alone anymore. ;)

[ManOnFire]

"Also, when you're truly comfortable alone, you'll ironically attract people to you because they envy your level of comfort. Then, you won't be alone anymore."
- WOAH. This definitely spoke volumes. Really good point.

[skystar21]

Ya.. its weird.. those who do it have no control on their drinking habbit..

Pls also answer my latest question on my page..

[MasterAetos]

From what I have read and understood; people do it all the time. So nothing weird about it. I wouldn't be within a 2-mile radius of a bar though. Not my kind of scene, or crowd.

[katy97]

I do it often. Nothing wrong with sitting and having a drink, usually meet pretty cool people too

[Drumlin2001]

It's ok. If you go somewhere regularly you'll get to know the staff, some other regulars.
For me I would usually do it to watch sport.

[Finchie40]

Sometimes but I still go by myself a lot of times , usually unrun into someone inwan chat with

[lovelyleo]

No it's not weird. People do it all the time. I've worked in one. I like being solo

[MGTOWeee]

What's so great about the bar? I avoid it like the plague... that's where all the, shiny low quality women are...

[ManOnFire]

True.

[justamom]

Not at all. I even go out to eat by myself. Lol I'm kind of a loner tho lol

[HaoleHubby]

Nothing wrong with it, but I feel very weird personally when I do it (even if I'm just the first person there of my group and I'm only alone because I'm waiting.)

[pingiluv]

I have and I still will lol

[TacosRAwesome]

I've done it a couple times when I was younger. Its not that bad.

[ak906145]

Yeah we are independent people here! We should really try to enjoy our own company

[ellesnow21]

No, who cares. It's your life. Other peoples opinions are irrelevant, when it comes to things like this. Do what you want.

[rmill121]

I do pretty often, I go to mainly gamer and arcade bars though so there's a lot to do even by yourself.

[NovissimumVirorum]

Nope, at my favourite pub in St Andrews there was an older guy who used to come alone and chat it up with people there

[bulbbapet]

Sometimes it can feel weird or sad, but I think it's a good way to find new friends. :)

[YamaDuta]

Not weird at all! Just go and order a beer with a shot, tell the tender to leave the bottle, and stare creepily at everyone enjoying themselves.

[Anonymous]

Maybe if you’re there just to have a bar burger and drink then I think it would be OK and not seem strange

[Opinion Owner]

Nice to hear it went well, good chance of meeting someone if you’re alone too

[JustJane01]

No, well I've never been bar, but I assume it's normal.

[DrLlama]

A good book makes it more enjoyable. It also depends on why you're going, it might be weird if you were getting absolutely eat arsed by yourself.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@DrLlama Who reads a book at a bar? What do you mean by getting absolutely eat arsed?

[Cherrykins23]

No it's not weird but be smart about it and safe, you never know who you will meet...

[the_sinner]

Course not

Why on earth would it be?
It's not like you're going on a date or something.

[bbehradd]

Not at all, sometimes we need to be alone with our self

[Anonymous]

Bro don't rely on anyone to have fun. Eat by yourself, watch movies by yourself and don't worry about anyone "judging" you for being alone. Sometimes you just need time to yourself.

[jason98989]

I had a blast going bye myself, I always met new people to chill with.

[shane6501]

I've never been in bar though it's good to have a friend

[someguy81]

Its feels awkward sometimes but I've done it.

[ManOnFire]

Yeah the times I did it felt weird but I think it was mostly due to me trying too hard to get sex those nights.

[lostsaint]

No. why is it weird? Clint Eastwood would likely be offended by your question

[Armourdillo]

Its weird if your a guy, girls won't come up and hit on you. Girls can go alone when they need a lay guys look like creeps when they go alone

[Oohah8]

No I do it all the time.

[ManOnFire]

But what do you to keep busy while you're alone?

[Oohah8]

Drink, watch the band, watch whatever's on TV, and talk to the bartender/barmaid, sometimes the other people in the bar.

[chemix92]

It's a form of meditation.

[ManOnFire]

Very cool idea.

[makiyoung]

I nearly don’t go to bar.

[superduperstarr]

Nope! Builds character

[Beerhero]

No, it's not, it's just exploring

[stuntbrain]

Not if you're an alcoholic

[Heartflower09]

Nope lots of people do it

[TheOtherManOnTheSide]

I've done it. I don't see a problem

[Darknut123]

Can't meet quality women in a setting like that.

[legalboxers]

I dont do bars, or clubs. Never did.

[YDoIKeepDoingThisLol]

I don't think so, no.