Boyfriend wants to join Military, should I hit the road or wait it out?

[Sweetpea27]

My boyfriend and I have been together almost four years and I am 27 years old. Now that he wants to join the military I think we should maybe call it quits. I don't think I should stay in the relationship and wait at least another 4 more years without a real commitment. Don't get me wrong I don't want to marry someone that feels forced into marriage & he has talked about wanting to marry me many times before but talk is cheap & I need action. I just feel if I am going to commit to being by his side though all this he should respect me enough to either want as his wife or a least have the respect of letting me go so I can find someone who does. I don't think it's my place to bring up marriage because he is hello. the guy and he is the one leaving. My biggest fear is that he is not sure if am the one and I am wasting my time waiting on someone waiting for someone else. If he doesn't a the least bring up the topic of marriage before signing up should I just walk away?

[blondie252]

YES.

I dated a guy who went to Iraq.

He came home, dumped me (we had our issues) and screwed half our home town.

Regardless of the military, why would you stay with someone who isn't sure if you're "it" for them? If you want something casual, that's one thing, but if you want the real thing, lay it on the table for him. I did that once to a guy I was with. He wouldn't say "I love you" and made me feel like he was hanging it over my head for when I deserved to hear it. So I dumped his ass. His response? "But babe, I LOVE YOU." I wound up staying with him a while longer.

Shoulda run while I had the chance.

Remember, if it's how you feel, it's never wrong.

[angelsunrise81]

Have you talked to him about how you feel on him enlisting into the military? Is he the same age as you or older? Do you guys live together? Leave me some more info, please.

[blondie252]

Is that a hat or a pancake on the (gerbel??) furry thing's head? It's cute!!!

I agree with YesThatsME...tell him to s**t or get off the pot. Sorry. That was gross.

[angelsunrise81]

Its a pancake... I got it off google. It's called pancakebunny! Then the txt says I don't know what to say here so here's a bunny with a pancake on its head!

[blondie252]

Haha I gotta get that and send it out as my holiday mailer to all my s**t-head exes.

[robert831]

i think you should tell him how you feel. and honestly if its true love, I think the person you care about should come first, especailly if you plan to be with them forever. he should choose the military or his future wife. what's he gonna get out of the military. a G.I. check every month? but what's he gonna get from you a woman that loves him and a good future. make him choose

[YesThatsME]

Risk his life if war breaks out or live peacefully with a sweet young wife. Ask him to make his choice.

Anyway, China milk has melamine, visit the dentist regularly.

[Jay7755]

I Belive in a time of war, your country needs you, go fight, pray to god tomake it back home (it worked for me), come home have a family, US Army is 3 years for enlistment. The service is the best thing I did with my life

[Confused614]

I think you need to tell him what you just said that's the thing with most questions on here tell him what you told us