Is it a bad thing that I prefer video games over women?

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I have my reasons. I'm not a gifted genetic looking person & I understand that if you want to attract someone you gotta improve yourself. But in all honesty I really don't think it's all that worth it to improve myself for women or having to make changes just for another person. I also don't have to deal with the drama I see guys going through who are in a relationship. Video games don't bring any drama. It's just fun entertainment. And I also save a lot more money choosing games over women. On average I spend at least 200 dollars for about 5 games & new controller & some other stuff once a year. On the other hand I feel like I'll be spending a lot of money on women that's more than 200 dollars & on top of that I would have to sit & listen to stuff I really don't want to hear about problems or go out to places I really wouldn't want to go to like clubs. And if girls think I'm a loser for playing games, please tell all those thots who supposedly play video games that they're losers too. But those are my reasons.

Jackieboi · Accepted Answer

Lol, and also what happened to "just be yourself", remember that one? But apparently we have to change buddy. Talk about mixed messages... F it man, as i said earlier today, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself. I have to add though that no one expects us to pay 200$ to take gals out including the gals themselves. Only sluts expect that, but who cares about sluts anyway. Lets just be abit more patient shall we, and meanwhile we can play some more good games.

stormbreaker06 · Accepted Answer

yes and no. i mean women are hell. and video games are easier to control. at the end of the day money is more important than games and women.

AdHdSqUiRrEl · Accepted Answer

Nah. I'm pretty sure video games are more likeable then some women out there😂so I wouldn't blame you.

Just_a_human · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong with that.

Ellie-V · Answer

Is it bad? I don’t think so.
But do I care? Definitely not 😂
In fact, most people won’t give two shits, especially women because for many that will be a turn off. And you probably don’t care about that anyway so it’s a win win ☺️
You don’t need to explain yourself or give reasons why. You feel the way you feel and if you were really comfortable with your life decisions, you wouldn’t feel the need to inquire strangers on the internet about it.

So do you REALLY want to choose video games over women? Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. Either way it’s your life. You will get some side eye but that’s apart of life honey.
Play your games and stop dwelling on it, unless you’re actually going to change something.

lightbulb27 · Answer

No it's not, and I agree you should not change for another person. You SHOULD change for yourself when you want to, based upon what you want out of life. If you want to give love, share life with offspring, have someone to travel with, experience full life, etc.. Then you'll have to step out of your comfort zone and take the pain like the rest of us!

Video games are their own stimulation and dopamine and fun without much pain other than make believe winning and losing. I used to play the old kind for hours on end and watch TV. It's a waste of time... but does build up good motor hand skills.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Nope I agree with you completely life is complicated and not dealing with people is a lot better at times.. but I bet your too hard on yourself.. I think everyone in attractive in one way or another.. could be interests, personality, happiness in bed and the obvious one looks.. People put too much emphasis om looks! There is nothing wrong with gaming and honestly I applaud you for not having a girlfriend while your focusing on your video games.. its unfair to her! Your a good man with a good heart!!!

KaitieSearching · Answer

Look, my friend, you don’t have to give a shit about women. I mean, we’re not so so special. If you want a family or some kind of romance then, go for it, but otherwise it’s at your discretion. You don’t have to justify it to us. My only objection is that you laud video games because they are drama free entertainment. That’s cool. It’s a perfectly acceptable way to spend your free time, but I hope it’s not the focus of your life. In my experience, an entertainment focused life is a sure path to depression. It’s fun in the moment, sure, but total hell overall. Good luck!!🙂

WalterBlack · Answer

I agree that dating and relationships can seem like (and sometimes really are) more trouble than they are worth. There is nothing wrong with enjoying video games. However, I hope you take the time to enjoy the real world. You didn't mention any other hobbies or activities that you enjoy. It is good for your physical and mental health to get outside and go for a walk now and then. Also, everyone goes through difficult times at some point in their life. It's important to forge strong ties with friends and family so that you have a support network when things get rough. There is no pressing need for you to have a romanric partner. But it is good to have other people in your life that will support you in good times and bad.

AlienParasite · Answer

Respectable but at the same time a bit nonsense for me.

Respectable because I understand that playing games could interest you more than dating or having sex, in a similar way watching a movie interest me more than playing football.

Though the explanation of why the lack of interest doesn't convince me. My boyfriend enjoys videogames a lot, he has never had to go to a club to meet me and has never had to pay for me, or if so, I payed back in next restaurant or whatever. So, relationships can be different than what you described.

What I agree 100% is that you should never decide to change just for someone else. Any change you do should be only because of you, because you want to improve yourself or feel better with yourself.

But in the end yeah, I think it's ok if you don't have any interest, you shouldn't force yourself to be someone you are not. So it's not a bad thing, maybe uncommon or weird, but not bad.

Shutupman · Answer

First of : whatever makes you happy.
Second you misunderstand love and relationships; no one really cares about random strangers and their issues, but when someone gets close to you, you tend to care and want to help them. Especially if you love someone they become more important than yourself. Doesn’t mean you cannot do the things you want to do such as gaming, everything in moderation though.
And third why would you be spending a lot of money on a girlfriend? At most you get her a present for her birthday and Christmas or something. Going on dates you both can take turns but do things you both want to do. Spending money on seeing a movie or traveling abroad isn't a bad thing at least not for me as it also brings joy and memories.

Flamdring · Answer

Agreed with the others here. It is totally fine to prefer gaming over women because you do not want to deal with stress and drama of a relationship. In the vast majority of cases you will have to go through several broken relationships before you encounter the person you feel happy with and she feels happy with you.

What is definitely bad is you play games all the time. It will mess up your health and you will end up paying for it later on - by paying I mean suffering. So by all means, if you are happy with gaming instead of dating, then game, but do get sufficient activity and social interaction with guys and girls without turning it into any romance. Although I am virtually certain that a some point you will meet a girl who also likes gaming and both of you will be happy. So do not worry about it and just be happy with your life.

GFNimbuscloud · Answer

I've actually started to discover what a sexy beast I am through Tinder lately... and even being able to woo a girl or two fairly easily, I'm totally with you.

I don't think the points you make are great. You might meet someone you don't have to change for. More and more females are actually playing games, and not just uploading themselves playing games to social media. Speaking pragmatically, you might also get a net profit if you managed to snag a driven, working girl who doesn't mind splitting the check or treating you. Times are achanging, and that's pretty nice.

Still, no, yeah dude. You don't need reasons. Do what makes you happy.

Sensmind · Answer

All very valid reasons for right now - There may come a time in your life when you might want to pursue relationships or pursue another interest or stay gaming - It is always your choice
For the now, just one thing I hope you are still interacting socially with your friends in real life not gaming 16 hours a day and sleeping the other 8 - Make sure you have a healthy balance between social activity and gaming even gaming with friends IRL (playing in each others houses etc) counts as real physical social interaction

LIM1T · Answer

I'm a gamer too and I have social issues , but that's because I haven't really given myself the chance to improve those skills. Isolation from women or people in general is dangerous. You can do a bit of both. Game and socialise.

If you are self improving yourself just to get girls, that's the wrong motive. Self improvement is about you! Not only does it make you feel better about yourself but it also naturally attracts women without much effort. You should want to become a better you each day - kinda level up in life.

Games can be fun but it also can become an addiction. Replacing what's real with what's fake.

Its important to get yourself out there once in a while. I don't have much friends - but I'm working on it

I'm sure you will want to have a family someday, but you won't if you continue hiding behind a screen. Life is scary - it scares me too.

SirRexington · Answer

You make very valid points. Especially with the way people are nowadays. Women just seem extra awful now and on a larger scale. It's sad I have to say that or that I feel that way but it isn't unwarranted.

I however, still need a female companion. Someone to cuddle and enjoy those games with, in different rooms of course so we don't use stupid split screen.

I'd like to point out how women complain all the time for feeling they have to change for men when that is exactly the case for us to. We are also assumed to look, act and be a certain way. And if anything, men's expectations are lower. As long as she isn't a whore and isn't obese or anorexic, we don't have too much a problem.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Not really. I'm probably going to get downvoted but I don't care: there are times I prefer gaming over being around other people in real life.
And let's be real here: gaming is less stress than the opposite sex or dating for sure.

It's still unhealthy to completely isolate yourself from the opposite sex... who knows, you might find yourself a gamer girl!

Gottabsavagee · Answer

I totally understand you. Games mean a lot, even to me. I am a female gamer, it’s unusual but this exists. Although I play shooting games mostly over Steam. In that case I’d suggest you getting a girl who plays games. y'all can play together. I used to date some gamers and it was fun actually but now I’m actually with a non gamer which doesn’t bother me at all. He’s much better than all of my exes together and I still find a lot of time to game.

Soo like I said find a gamer girl. Therefore you will have many common interests and you won’t have to stop gaming in order to spend time with her.

Anonymous · Answer

At your age, it's probably a good thing because as a guy you are at a disadvantage in dating anyway. Females hold most of the cards in the dating game until about age 30, at which point the tables turn and men get all the power.

You're best off focusing on yourself and your career at this point, especially if you don't feel any strong urge to date anyway. Plenty of time for dating later when you'll be in a much more powerful position anyway, especially if you establish a career and get your life in order in the meantime.

TheWaterisFine · Answer

I really feel you have a low self esteem and have convinced yourself you aren't interested because you are not pleased with yourself. Humans were not created to be alone. Also by using the word "thot" you will continuously outcast yourself. Lastly, I can think of a billion and other places to pick up genuine ladies, not including the club. I absolutely don't mean to strike a cord but opinions are like assholes, right? Happy Gaming, my friend!

Anonymous · Answer

Omg. You should not stop playing video games and get into a relationship. Your head is not in the right place and neither of you will be happy.
If you prefer video games right now, that's your prerogative, but know that a game will never listen to you when you are sad, hurting, going through a tough time, or become ill. A game will never love you unconditionally and support you through thick and thin. And it will never kiss you goodnight or make love to you so passionately that you fall into a blissful sleep and feel the world is a better place, for a little while, at least.

The6ix · Answer

I don't see any issue with it, you are a young guy but just remember there will be a girl who catches your eye one day, she will be down to earth, nice and not filled with drama. For the time being do you, video games are relaxing but remember you have to have a social life. I'm not saying you don't have one but I know since I have dedicated like a week or more playing through missions and storylines for the Arkham series, 2K games, Spiderman, Tomb Raider and others that gaming can consume your lifestyle. For me, I can't play video games that much, I haven't touched my PS4 in months actually, probably since early Spring. Just remember not all girls are bad, there are awesome girls out there and you don't have to be Mr. Perfect looks wise but at least be somewhat in shape and presentable with a good charisma and hard working attitude, girls will respect that you will know if she's genuine or not.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’m like you. I’ve been spending most of my free time playing Xbox and ignoring messages from guys who like me. I don’t think it makes you a loser. I think it’s just low self esteem and introverted behaviour which is normal. One day you’ll find a girl that enjoys video games too, maybe you’ll even meet her in a game lobby. I know that’s how a few gamers met their significant other.

AwesomeCookie · Answer

Is it a bad thing, personally in my opinion yes. In the long run you will not have companionship with a video game or if you do through chatting etc it's really artificial. But that's my opinion. Should you spend hundreds of dollars on women who are dramatic, no. Relationships are not easy to acquire or maintain but some are well worth the time and effort. Just gotta find the right one.

muliebrity · Answer

If your unconsciously have no affect of not being in a relationship with someone then cool! but a lot guys and girks out there accepted their negative views as truth.. e g "im a loser no one will ever like me ill just settle for this" or "i got a good low paying job but i know i can do better but oh well its a lot of work im not up to do.. whats the point". in other words, if its something one needs and they somehow reason away what they need to do they'll end up being miserable.

sageevalentinee · Answer

I mean I feel kinda sad that that's what my gender makes you feel like. Maybe you just haven't met the right girl. I mean we girls aren't supposed to be burdens who only complain and are frustrating to be with. Or at least, I hope I'm not like that.

But if that's how you feel, don't let anyone else judge you on that. No one has the right.

I'm just glad you're not my boyfriend!! ;)

proteus912 · Answer

My boyfriend loves games just as much as you do, but he also loves me. That's because I let him play play games when he wants and I don't force him not to play. I respect that games are what he likes to do, and he also respects that he can play his games, but spend time with me as well

EPebbles · Answer

Advice from a guy who plays too much Rocket League and is lonely because he can't find a girlfriend.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you both truly love each other? I'm not saying you should stop gaming and find a girlfriend but it might do you good to put out some feelers, see where things go. If you don't give yourself a chance, neither will anyone else. I say that because a girl can bring you a lot more than games can: love, care, understanding, new opportunities, can seriously change your life and can make you smile like at idiot for no reason at any random time without her being there!!

in my opinion I think it's bullshit when people say you have to improve yourself to attract someone. Improve yourself for you, not someone else.

BatmansWife · Answer

If you’re happy gaming, cool. If you do want a girl later in life, find one who likes gaming just as much as you do. If not, that’s cool too. You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy; it’s not a requirement. There are people who love being single.

JackSmy · Answer

I thought some popular video games had hot, trashy women in them! Isn't that part of why some guys like them?
Personally, I never got into the gaming thing, as my hand-eye coordination isn't so good! I'm more the 'Strategist' kind with Total Annihilation, and Starcraft. Not many women in those!
Just a side hobby for me, really, and I prefer to be with her, and doing things with her, rather than those games!!

OhmIsTyping · Answer

1. Nothing wrong with playing video games within constraints.
2. Change your perspective of the situation from money to quality of life. Video games while a great source of entertainment, cannot fullfill all your needs.
3. Believe it or not, having someone beside you, who is the right person for you plays a pivotal role in your life's overall development.
I have stated these 3 points. It's further upon you to ponder upon them. Cheers

Wally48 · Answer

Electronic entertainment is good, but it can't hold you tight at 300am, or keep your dick wet.
Why not find a 4/10, slightly overweight gamer girl? They're a of really sweet below average girls out there that would like nothing more than to hang with you, game, slam cheese pizzas, and fuck.
There's a lot to be said for companionship...

MarkRet · Answer

Too much of ANTHING can be bad, but it's your choice, and maybe one day you might put the games away and look at women in a different light. Just don't end up like one of those Japanese nerd guys who actually fall in love with anime girl holograms. Those guys are pathetic.

cth96190 · Answer

A video game will not reject your approach; or make a false rape allegation; or a false #MeToo allegation; or a false domestic violence allegation; or cheat on you; or cuckold you; or use a court to steal everything that you own; or use a court to transform you into her child and/or spousal support slave; or send you to prison because you could not pay the child support.
By comparison to human females, video games have much to offer.

Doodabeat · Answer

Unless you get with an independent woman for the practical reason of combining resources for children you are at a financial loss, but you don't have to marry someone to have kids together. However, there are financial benefits of being married.

www.moneyunder30.com/financial-benefits-of-marriage

Piteka5 · Answer

It's always good to improve ourselves, just for us. You can indeed live a nice life as single. But you gotta be sure that's really what you want. I've never see changing ourselves for others as a bad thing, we improve, and others are just the catalyst for thya improvement.
I think you can do it if you decide to. But both choices are legitimate tbh

Daisy007 · Answer

Is it bad? No not necessarily  BUT.. is it healthy? NO! Go out & socialize every once in a while little by little ik, games are fun but you have to have a life outside of them as well (:

winterfox10 · Answer

It's not the life I would want for myself, but if it makes you happy, then go for it.

To your point though, I have noticed that women have really been bothering me lately, and I'm not sure that I especially even like most women. I don't mean that in an "I'm going gay," sort of way, but more in a "I do not like who women are as people," sort of way. It kind of scares me, honestly.

Jeremiah_Rhymez · Answer

It's not a bad thing.
Video games, among some other things, are more important than women.
Am a gamer, and am not gay, but when you look at the problems and stress involved in having a relationship or even trying to start one, then you'd understand how games are better.
Don't get so addicted though, that women become strange beings to you lol.

Exotica08 · Answer

Kind of. Games will only get better, then you really won’t want women. If it starts taking over your life, thats when you realize that you may have an addiction which to some standards is a mental problem.

sidhesh · Answer

Yes it's your choice. If you don't like spending time with women it's better for you. But video games is also an another form of addiction. If you don't mind please try spending time with any kind hearted women you may experience something special beyond and more than sexual satisfaction

Justacatlady · Answer

Perhaps your asexual? Not judging mind you. Your preference to play video games and not date is your choice. If it makes you happy and fulfills your life then who’s to say it’s wrong?

JMLover09 · Answer

I think the problem here is that you're generalizing women in relationships. Every woman don't make you spend money or have drama or go to clubs. But It's totally ok if you don't want a relationship. To each their own.

Pamina · Answer

I think it's better for women that you prefer video games.

highjinx · Answer

a video game isn't soft and warm it can't make you feel weak in the knees it won't give you butterflies in your stomach , and it can't take you to ecstasy like a real live woman can video games are no comparison son.

ztriple3 · Answer

Not at all. However, if you're wondering deep down if things could be better with a woman, don't neglect chances you find. You don't want to die wondering if that one chance you missed would have changed everything. However, if you are truly content, don't change a damn thing. Expect... ya know. Upgrades. :3

GlitterDragon · Answer

I don’t think it’s bad because I’m the same. But I also have a bit of balance, I don’t wanna get to the point of being so addicted to gaming that I no longer care about being around others or dating

AhuntsicPastor · Answer

I mean, we essentially reward people who love money and prestige more than their spouses, so if you have the foresight to realize that you wouldn't be satisfied in a relationship, that's a sign of self reflection and maturity

MemeSupreme · Answer

You just sound like you want a simple life right now and don't feel like dealing with being uncomfortable emotionally

Sammic123 · Answer

I don’t think gaming girls are as rare as some may think. I talk to tons of girls on rdr2 online. Maybe you could find a girl who likes to game like you do, we do exist! to answer your question, i don’t see anything wrong with that. Relationships are a pain in the ass. If i could be like you, i totally would.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

It's not a bad thing. If you ever do find someone, then you do. Otherwise you have your games to entertain yourself. It is what it is honestly. I get where you're coming from, but for every guy like you, there are some women that are into that stuff.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

It is considered bad because society is stupid. I think you actually have some sense!

francis51s · Answer

Yes it's bad. And your reasons dont really make sense since you seem to equate pleasure of gaming with pleasure of women. So your comparisons are pretty shallow. Which is not a great mindset

MzAsh · Answer

Video games are a nice hobby but it’s not a healthy lifestyle. You’re not happy. So no ones buying your bs.

Casey10101 · Answer

naa its your choice, and that doesn't hurt anyone, I guess like any choice you'll just have to accept what you'd be missing

LazloHollyfeld · Answer

No, just realize that you are not mature enough to be in any real relationship, and don't make a woman think you are.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, I see where you're coming from. I spend a ton of time, effort and money on looking good. If I could manage to just not give a rat's ass about attracting men, I could just fuck off all the time and not bother about anything.

shimmeryns · Answer

No its not. If you're ready for a relationship then you're not.  I don't see why it should he a problem or why you should be asking this question even.

Bluemax · Answer

I'm my opinion it's an unwise decision on your part. 30 years from now, what will you have gained for your decision to play video games over attempting to find a relationship?

Anonymous · Answer

No. You're actually pretty smart. Most women are demons who just like to manipulate men.

OhThatsMorgan · Answer

You don’t have to date a girl if you prefer gaming over dating. If you like games it’s fine; it’s not like you’re harming anyone... and to answer your question, it doesn’t make you a loser if you prefer games over girls.

izzie_morris · Answer

have you ever actually been in or tried a relationship though?

Lynzerilee · Answer

Not at all it's your life, your choice. As long as you don't date girls when you're bored only to make them feel they are less important.

Levin · Answer

Easy life is tempting. But eventually, you realise that it's passing you by.  What do you ultimately want in life? Time will pass. Don't waste it.

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