Is it a bad thing that I prefer video games over women?

[Anonymous]

I have my reasons. I'm not a gifted genetic looking person & I understand that if you want to attract someone you gotta improve yourself. But in all honesty I really don't think it's all that worth it to improve myself for women or having to make changes just for another person. I also don't have to deal with the drama I see guys going through who are in a relationship. Video games don't bring any drama. It's just fun entertainment. And I also save a lot more money choosing games over women. On average I spend at least 200 dollars for about 5 games & new controller & some other stuff once a year. On the other hand I feel like I'll be spending a lot of money on women that's more than 200 dollars & on top of that I would have to sit & listen to stuff I really don't want to hear about problems or go out to places I really wouldn't want to go to like clubs. And if girls think I'm a loser for playing games, please tell all those thots who supposedly play video games that they're losers too. But those are my reasons.

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I respect everyone's opinions. I took time to read everyone's opinion but I still choose video games & of course other things over women.

[Jackieboi]

Lol, and also what happened to "just be yourself", remember that one? But apparently we have to change buddy. Talk about mixed messages... F it man, as i said earlier today, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself. I have to add though that no one expects us to pay 200$ to take gals out including the gals themselves. Only sluts expect that, but who cares about sluts anyway. Lets just be abit more patient shall we, and meanwhile we can play some more good games.

[stormbreaker06]

yes and no.

i mean women are hell.

and video games are easier to control.

at the end of the day money is more important than games and women.

[AdHdSqUiRrEl]

Nah. I'm pretty sure video games are more likeable then some women out there😂so I wouldn't blame you.

[AdHdSqUiRrEl]

Thanks for mho ☺️

[Just_a_human]

There's nothing wrong with that.

[Just_a_human]

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[Ellie-V]

Is it bad? I don’t think so.
But do I care? Definitely not 😂
In fact, most people won’t give two shits, especially women because for many that will be a turn off. And you probably don’t care about that anyway so it’s a win win ☺️
You don’t need to explain yourself or give reasons why. You feel the way you feel and if you were really comfortable with your life decisions, you wouldn’t feel the need to inquire strangers on the internet about it.

So do you REALLY want to choose video games over women? Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. Either way it’s your life. You will get some side eye but that’s apart of life honey.
Play your games and stop dwelling on it, unless you’re actually going to change something.

[lightbulb27]

No it's not, and I agree you should not change for another person. You SHOULD change for yourself when you want to, based upon what you want out of life. If you want to give love, share life with offspring, have someone to travel with, experience full life, etc.. Then you'll have to step out of your comfort zone and take the pain like the rest of us!

Video games are their own stimulation and dopamine and fun without much pain other than make believe winning and losing. I used to play the old kind for hours on end and watch TV. It's a waste of time... but does build up good motor hand skills.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Nope I agree with you completely life is complicated and not dealing with people is a lot better at times.. but I bet your too hard on yourself.. I think everyone in attractive in one way or another.. could be interests, personality, happiness in bed and the obvious one looks.. People put too much emphasis om looks! There is nothing wrong with gaming and honestly I applaud you for not having a girlfriend while your focusing on your video games.. its unfair to her! Your a good man with a good heart!!!

[KaitieSearching]

Look, my friend, you don’t have to give a shit about women. I mean, we’re not so so special. If you want a family or some kind of romance then, go for it, but otherwise it’s at your discretion. You don’t have to justify it to us. My only objection is that you laud video games because they are drama free entertainment. That’s cool. It’s a perfectly acceptable way to spend your free time, but I hope it’s not the focus of your life. In my experience, an entertainment focused life is a sure path to depression. It’s fun in the moment, sure, but total hell overall. Good luck!!🙂

[WalterBlack]

I agree that dating and relationships can seem like (and sometimes really are) more trouble than they are worth. There is nothing wrong with enjoying video games. However, I hope you take the time to enjoy the real world. You didn't mention any other hobbies or activities that you enjoy. It is good for your physical and mental health to get outside and go for a walk now and then. Also, everyone goes through difficult times at some point in their life. It's important to forge strong ties with friends and family so that you have a support network when things get rough. There is no pressing need for you to have a romanric partner. But it is good to have other people in your life that will support you in good times and bad.

[AlienParasite]

Respectable but at the same time a bit nonsense for me.

Respectable because I understand that playing games could interest you more than dating or having sex, in a similar way watching a movie interest me more than playing football.

Though the explanation of why the lack of interest doesn't convince me. My boyfriend enjoys videogames a lot, he has never had to go to a club to meet me and has never had to pay for me, or if so, I payed back in next restaurant or whatever. So, relationships can be different than what you described.

What I agree 100% is that you should never decide to change just for someone else. Any change you do should be only because of you, because you want to improve yourself or feel better with yourself.

But in the end yeah, I think it's ok if you don't have any interest, you shouldn't force yourself to be someone you are not. So it's not a bad thing, maybe uncommon or weird, but not bad.

[Shutupman]

First of : whatever makes you happy.
Second you misunderstand love and relationships; no one really cares about random strangers and their issues, but when someone gets close to you, you tend to care and want to help them. Especially if you love someone they become more important than yourself. Doesn’t mean you cannot do the things you want to do such as gaming, everything in moderation though.
And third why would you be spending a lot of money on a girlfriend? At most you get her a present for her birthday and Christmas or something. Going on dates you both can take turns but do things you both want to do. Spending money on seeing a movie or traveling abroad isn't a bad thing at least not for me as it also brings joy and memories.

[Flamdring]

Agreed with the others here. It is totally fine to prefer gaming over women because you do not want to deal with stress and drama of a relationship. In the vast majority of cases you will have to go through several broken relationships before you encounter the person you feel happy with and she feels happy with you.

What is definitely bad is you play games all the time. It will mess up your health and you will end up paying for it later on - by paying I mean suffering. So by all means, if you are happy with gaming instead of dating, then game, but do get sufficient activity and social interaction with guys and girls without turning it into any romance. Although I am virtually certain that a some point you will meet a girl who also likes gaming and both of you will be happy. So do not worry about it and just be happy with your life.

[GFNimbuscloud]

I've actually started to discover what a sexy beast I am through Tinder lately... and even being able to woo a girl or two fairly easily, I'm totally with you.

I don't think the points you make are great. You might meet someone you don't have to change for. More and more females are actually playing games, and not just uploading themselves playing games to social media. Speaking pragmatically, you might also get a net profit if you managed to snag a driven, working girl who doesn't mind splitting the check or treating you. Times are achanging, and that's pretty nice.

Still, no, yeah dude. You don't need reasons. Do what makes you happy.

[Sensmind]

All very valid reasons for right now - There may come a time in your life when you might want to pursue relationships or pursue another interest or stay gaming - It is always your choice
For the now, just one thing I hope you are still interacting socially with your friends in real life not gaming 16 hours a day and sleeping the other 8 - Make sure you have a healthy balance between social activity and gaming even gaming with friends IRL (playing in each others houses etc) counts as real physical social interaction

[LIM1T]

I'm a gamer too and I have social issues , but that's because I haven't really given myself the chance to improve those skills. Isolation from women or people in general is dangerous. You can do a bit of both. Game and socialise.

If you are self improving yourself just to get girls, that's the wrong motive. Self improvement is about you! Not only does it make you feel better about yourself but it also naturally attracts women without much effort. You should want to become a better you each day - kinda level up in life.

Games can be fun but it also can become an addiction. Replacing what's real with what's fake.

Its important to get yourself out there once in a while. I don't have much friends - but I'm working on it

I'm sure you will want to have a family someday, but you won't if you continue hiding behind a screen. Life is scary - it scares me too.

[SirRexington]

You make very valid points. Especially with the way people are nowadays. Women just seem extra awful now and on a larger scale. It's sad I have to say that or that I feel that way but it isn't unwarranted.

I however, still need a female companion. Someone to cuddle and enjoy those games with, in different rooms of course so we don't use stupid split screen.

I'd like to point out how women complain all the time for feeling they have to change for men when that is exactly the case for us to. We are also assumed to look, act and be a certain way. And if anything, men's expectations are lower. As long as she isn't a whore and isn't obese or anorexic, we don't have too much a problem.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not really. I'm probably going to get downvoted but I don't care: there are times I prefer gaming over being around other people in real life.
And let's be real here: gaming is less stress than the opposite sex or dating for sure.

It's still unhealthy to completely isolate yourself from the opposite sex... who knows, you might find yourself a gamer girl!

[Asker]

I don't want a girl at all. I'm keeping myself away from love & relationships. I don't need it it to be happy

[axali1]

Playing league of legends duo with gamer girlfriend would be very fun and adventurous

[DonCachondo]

@axali1 Do the world a favor and stop doing that.

[Gottabsavagee]

I totally understand you. Games mean a lot, even to me. I am a female gamer, it’s unusual but this exists. Although I play shooting games mostly over Steam. In that case I’d suggest you getting a girl who plays games. y'all can play together. I used to date some gamers and it was fun actually but now I’m actually with a non gamer which doesn’t bother me at all. He’s much better than all of my exes together and I still find a lot of time to game.

Soo like I said find a gamer girl. Therefore you will have many common interests and you won’t have to stop gaming in order to spend time with her.

[Anonymous]

At your age, it's probably a good thing because as a guy you are at a disadvantage in dating anyway. Females hold most of the cards in the dating game until about age 30, at which point the tables turn and men get all the power.

You're best off focusing on yourself and your career at this point, especially if you don't feel any strong urge to date anyway. Plenty of time for dating later when you'll be in a much more powerful position anyway, especially if you establish a career and get your life in order in the meantime.

[Opinion Owner]

Just ignore @Pamina. She's just a butthurt older woman who is bitter toward men.

[TheWaterisFine]

I really feel you have a low self esteem and have convinced yourself you aren't interested because you are not pleased with yourself. Humans were not created to be alone. Also by using the word "thot" you will continuously outcast yourself. Lastly, I can think of a billion and other places to pick up genuine ladies, not including the club. I absolutely don't mean to strike a cord but opinions are like assholes, right? Happy Gaming, my friend!

[Anonymous]

Omg. You should not stop playing video games and get into a relationship. Your head is not in the right place and neither of you will be happy.
If you prefer video games right now, that's your prerogative, but know that a game will never listen to you when you are sad, hurting, going through a tough time, or become ill. A game will never love you unconditionally and support you through thick and thin. And it will never kiss you goodnight or make love to you so passionately that you fall into a blissful sleep and feel the world is a better place, for a little while, at least.

[Rangers]

Girls won't do any of those things, either😂

[DonCachondo]

You think relationships offer unconditional love? There's no such thing outside of (sometimes) family and dogs

[The6ix]

I don't see any issue with it, you are a young guy but just remember there will be a girl who catches your eye one day, she will be down to earth, nice and not filled with drama. For the time being do you, video games are relaxing but remember you have to have a social life. I'm not saying you don't have one but I know since I have dedicated like a week or more playing through missions and storylines for the Arkham series, 2K games, Spiderman, Tomb Raider and others that gaming can consume your lifestyle. For me, I can't play video games that much, I haven't touched my PS4 in months actually, probably since early Spring. Just remember not all girls are bad, there are awesome girls out there and you don't have to be Mr. Perfect looks wise but at least be somewhat in shape and presentable with a good charisma and hard working attitude, girls will respect that you will know if she's genuine or not.

[TsundereMatrix]

I’m like you. I’ve been spending most of my free time playing Xbox and ignoring messages from guys who like me. I don’t think it makes you a loser. I think it’s just low self esteem and introverted behaviour which is normal. One day you’ll find a girl that enjoys video games too, maybe you’ll even meet her in a game lobby. I know that’s how a few gamers met their significant other.

[axali1]

I See skyrim Logo here for the first time :D

[TsundereMatrix]

@axali1 because people keep asking to see my face. I want to see who my mutual Skyrim players are.

[AwesomeCookie]

Is it a bad thing, personally in my opinion yes. In the long run you will not have companionship with a video game or if you do through chatting etc it's really artificial. But that's my opinion. Should you spend hundreds of dollars on women who are dramatic, no. Relationships are not easy to acquire or maintain but some are well worth the time and effort. Just gotta find the right one.

[Asker]

Do I need companionship in life 🤔? Do I really need a women in life because that's how were programmed?

[AwesomeCookie]

Some people do fine without a companion. You can have companionship with an animal, for most men it's a good old dog.. for most women it's a cat, or should I say catsss... That's how they become old ladies with house full of cats.
Anyhow its not always needed but you may find that in the future you may want it. You're young, enjoy your hobbies while you still can afford too! Lol

[Asker]

Trust me, I have my mind made up. I'm following the red pill philosophy

[AwesomeCookie]

Good for you