Have you ever been so sad that you couldn't even cry because it hurt so bad?

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I've been feeling this way lately. Like I'm to numb to cry even tho I'm upset and feel the need to cry I just can't 😔

kymberz · Accepted Answer

ok. then dump whatever you are feeling right now right on top of me. see? i am ready for it (just ate a chocolate bar and i don't even like chocolate? i did it for a friend that i just met on this site. but man she is whack and cool so i am pretty much up for anything!). so trust me. and dump it on me. and if it is too personal then send me a message thingy. i will read it. i will treat it like the gold that it is - which is your feelings. and they matter. if to no one else on the planet then to me and Jesus. we care. and we are always here. so ya honey - if you are feeling so sad you can't even cry - i know that feeling and i got through it and it wasn't easy but i can help you. so dump it on me and get that shit off of you! you are a beautiful feeling creature that My Lord created so yer darn tootins i care! so dump it on me. i can take it. and i can help. if you let me. k?

bubbles328 · Accepted Answer

I rarely cry any more its very few and lots of months or even years between. Not because I am never sad but I've had some shitty guys that have hurt me a lot and I just got bored of crying. It's like being really angry you're not going to do anything productive, only hurtful with that emotion so it is useless. The last break up hurt me a lot but it was over a week before I full on let go and cried. I whaled for about 15 minutes, Full on screaming god knows what the neighbours thought lol and That was all my tears I gave him. It hurts a lot when I cry but only because I am truly in pain if I do.

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

A week before I turned 21, my first girlfriend broke my heart.
I discovered that for the 12 months of our relationship everything had been a sham.
She had used me as a diversion, so that her parents would not suspect that she was maintaining a secret relationship with a scumbag bad boy of whom they disapproved.
I had been so deeply in love with that girl that I lost my mind.
I cried for days. I could not function. I could not work. After I ran out of tears, I sat for hours each day reciting Shakespeare (Macbeth, act five, scene five) to a Colt 1911.
The tears did not come again. What came, from time to time, was a pain that was so bad that I could feel it in my heart and it went all the way to my soul.
The experience left me psychologically incapable of feeling love for a woman. That was burned out of my soul.

lucas262 · Accepted Answer

I was so sad I look back an wonder if I didn't die inside that day because there has been this empty unfeeling , feeling ever since, a sort of no matter how much good or success i have ill always feel sad.

Iv been happy since or at least escaped but it didn't change it deep in there.

btbc92 · Answer

Yes I go to that all the time, and that's how you know you're dealing with another state of depression because of it. That's when you go through emotional burnout to the point you can't even feel anything anymore. That's worse when you're naturally an emotional person. If I'm going through all of that that means I got a lot I need to change, and that may mean removing some people and things for my life that are toxic. Life is too short to be killing yourself literally over things and people that aren't worth it.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Yes
1. When my parents were starting to get a divorce, they used to fight a lot and I never knew which parent to listen to. I was stuck in the middle at that point. Also when my dad didn't get along for a short period of time because again didn't know which parent to believe.

2. When my recent ex boyfriend left me 8 months ago. We dated for 4 1/2 months and then just ended up leaving after that. Its a long story but I rather not explain.
Those were very sad times for me. I actually did cry a lot during those. I was so sad I didn't want to talk to anyone. I went through a depression stage for a while but I made it through. Now I get along with my dad a lot better now. Also I got over my ex and now I want to find the right guy and to fall in love again. To finally find the right guy who can spend the rest of my life with. Whatever you're going through, you'll get through it. Don't put yourself in a deep depression stage. Just got to be positive. It'll be ok.

BadzGoneGoodz · Answer

12-28 I never cried I was very angry. Hated life and myself. Then one day I was able to cry and it felt so fucking good I cried litterally all day and it was just what I needed. I dont care what any one says men cry to and it's okay. I'm no saying cry everyday like a big baby but when your emotionally hurt or whatever it maybe it's okay. Took me a long time to learn that. I'm also changing my life around and happy and enjoying my life 1 day at a time.

tjkyle316197 · Answer

I have and do on somewhat of a daily basis and I have a hard time processing. Yet, with the many ways you can advantage the apps and social media these days, it does feel better when I reach out. I do begrudgingly hurt moreso because it takes me to reach out versus others of whom know I need them to, but I know it's hard for them as well to understand what to say... Therapy is a saving grace, to be honest, even as hard as it is to afford.

Nerdvana · Answer

I am sorry to hear you are going this. I live in Los Angeles and I am still stunned about Kobe Bryant. I never met him, so I know this sounds silly. But yet, I feel sadness for everyone aboard the helicopter that crashed this morning.

noxius · Answer

I know how you feel, i felt it most of my life allthough sometimes even that was overcome by even more sad events stacked on eachother eventually making me burst in tears.

If you need to talk im here, saw someone from the girls feedback is too. I found its always easier to feel better or let your emotions do what they must, in this case cry. When you are really allowed to talk out about it.

HaveNoName · Answer

Had not heard from you for so long, and then you come with THIS? That makes ME sad.

I hope all is well in your life. Just remember, all problems come with a solution that we might not see right away. Eventually, it will be ok.

Take care.

chriscdi · Answer

i haven't but im pretty sure i will when one of my family members die but usually i replace my sadness with anger, i honestly like it better tbh, whatever it is, it will be ok, there's nothing that won't heal over time, even if it leaves a scar, it heals, i hope you feel better 🙂

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. You never stated when it happened but if it wasn't long ago its because you're still in a state of shock. The tears usually come soon enough, whether it be in a year from now or even more. Once it's actually been fully accepted and you know you will never see them again you tend to shed tears. I'm sorry for your loss 🌺

Eduardodealba · Answer

Yeah sure for over 10 years i cried some in

My teens and from then i learned tI hold back. Fast-forward 4 relatives have died in the past years and i didn't didn't shed a tear. I completely understand what you're going through thats why I've been drinking chronicly for 15 years to forget. My spirit seems to love it.

honorboundHeart884 · Answer

The day my dad died of cancer, I lost a part of my heart , self that day. I'm not the same person any more. I still love, have moments of joy , but threads in my heart , soul twine differently now.

AndreasM96 · Answer

Why? What happened?

In my opinion and experience, if it's about someone hurting you, nobody ever deserves a single tear if they treated you badly.

If it's due to someone's health or a death, well, that's another story...

Account2 · Answer

Yeah. I got past that point now I don't feel sad right now. Well I am still sad. It just doesn't hurt right now. I don't really feel anything right now.

I'm sorry you're sad. Hopefully you will find a way to feel better soon.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I think I might be that right now, just below the surface. My mom passed away just after Christmas and I am still in a bit of shock, I think, even though it was expected.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and it happens often lately... I just try to distract myself with something totally different. Have few places to go that gets my mood up. And yes I'm man who to embarrassed to talk about it,...

ThisAndThat · Answer

Yes, many many times. Men know this one all too well. Most men don't or won't talk about it though.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

I've ran out of tears at this point... (not literally, just that I've grown numb to the pain.) So I understand where you're coming from.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I usually feel. I sometimes feel like my first love left me for no reason and marry to someone else. I dont know the real reason. But she left and selected someone else. When ever I am happy I deeply somewhere feel sad. Whenever I am sad I feel like breaking and I am almost never too happy. But I never show my true feelings to anyone

PrincessDuckie · Answer

Yep, I had this huge crush on this one guy who asked me out, the day after he broke up with me. I was so upset I couldn't even get out of bed.

dobby-is-a-free-elf · Answer

I’m feeling this way I have bad depression ever since a family member died I couldn’t cry but I was extremely upset I think it was sadness and shock

SydneySentinel · Answer

Yes. Especially so when my mom died unexpectedly. It feels like a weighted emptiness, if that makes sense.

I_Am_Sazerac · Answer

I have yes. Usually could mean emotional numbness because you've decided to accept a situation or bury a feeling deep. However that's just my opinion. Pm me, anyone here or feel free to talk to someone you trust!

COMMODOREII · Answer

I've felt that for 2 years straight. You need to talk im here for you my friend. *hugs*

Ttam69 · Answer

I cried for the last time as a child when I was about 12 and my grandmother died and then I didn't cry again for any reason until I was 22 and since then I cry so easily it's a joke. I just randomly tear up sometimes now.

Anonymous · Answer

I had one very bad break up that took me years to get over. I was getting counseling for other purposes but the counselor said one of the reasons I wasn’t getting over the split is that I never “mourned” the break. I didn’t know how to cry.

SexyAshh · Answer

Yepp. Typically i dont cry anyways though., just feel numb or numb it out with alcohol or random hookups. Hope you're ok!

Theophain · Answer

I'm having a similar experience, I cry for three days and I go numb for three days. The pain is never ending...

brigfrey25 · Answer

No matter how much I want.. I can't cry at all. I don't know why.

Anonymous · Answer

No need to cry if you get used to someone doing this to you. They may not be worth the tear, dear.

Rosea · Answer

Yes I have been in sad mood for sometime, is not an easy thing down here. Always be happy

AngelLily · Answer

I have felt like that before are you alright do you need someone to talk too?

greycadillacs · Answer

I’ve certainly had times I wanted to cry because I knew I would feel better but it just wouldn’t come, despite feeling really sad

Nigjt · Answer

Yes when my wife first died it was so hard to cry that I didn't even know what way to go an still don't that was back in 2015 April 30

ehhhhhhh · Answer

Look I've been there a lot of times tried to take my life a couple of times finally got on the right meds and it's a world of difference

crazy8000 · Answer

Doesn't cry when I get sad no matter what kind it is. loose interest to eat, get mentally tired and have hard time to get to sleep.

Trooper205 · Answer

Oh no! That's awful! I hope you get better soon! I personally have had injuries so bad I don't feel anything.

bolverk · Answer

Yes, when I lose both mother and father too cancer.

AshleyMadison00 · Answer

Sometimes writing what's on your mind and identifying emotions are what's needed

codycccccccccc · Answer

I have been in that much physical pain but not emotional pain even though i probably should have

Dyskrasia · Answer

Yes, I've been there more than once in my life for two entirely different reasons.

khurrambarkat · Answer

This is normal if you are sad and your feeling want to come out in form of tears. Than go ahead. its good for you

TallAnon · Answer

I've been sad to the point where my body wouldn't listen to what I meant to do 3 or 4 times, bad times.

Tunasub · Answer

Yes and it's the most empty and unsettling feeling I've ever had.

Likes2drive · Answer

No I couldn’t control my tears being that sad , and I’ve been that sad a few times

ProfessionalMusician · Answer

Yes when be my Mother died I had known her the longest and so far was the saddest day of my life

Twalli · Answer

Not so sad but physically hurt that crying made it hurt more.

alance99 · Answer

I can't cry its very hard for me no matter how sad i am

DanOh2018 · Answer

Yes it's I often feel like that. Sorry you're glum chum.

TechnoSpider19 · Answer

It is hard but I can't cry much at all, my body stops it and I yawn when my life is so broke it can't be fixed

spunkydemon · Answer

I guess you need to sort things out by targeting each issues and making a timeline.. then solving each and making yourself happy

bluejay1 · Answer

I have been the same way for a year not it isn't easy to deal with and I still havnt found a solution to end it

Tim-loves-it · Answer

Yes. Each time after someone had passed that I really cared for or idolized.

Briang16 · Answer

Ya when i had depression i got in fight and slept with loads of people but no relationship

Browneye57 · Answer

You're CHOOSING this. Consider just NOT.  Whatever it is, you're giving it WAY more weight than you should. Quit doing that.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah  I have felt it too... Some tragedy are so harsh that it is so difficult to explain and hard to accept.

soleil2666 · Answer

Most certainly. Crying is a very recent discovery. Men are not allowed to cry.

Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over · Answer

No. When I’m really sad, the tears flow.

prissiii · Answer

Yea and it happened a lot recently

Jjpayne · Answer

I think shock worked that way for me with my dad

barrelobagel · Answer

Yes, I too have dropped a soft pretzel.

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