Why all the hate towards black women these days? What did they ever do to us? Doesn’t anybody here actually appreciate them or am I the only one?

[Jack9949]

Honestly I just don’t like it.

There are some white men who like to complain about how bad we have it.

But then those same guys will turn around and say the meanest shit about black and even fellow white women. 🤦‍♂️

I honestly just can’t stand this. Its only ever a small minority of people that ever take issue with us. I have no problem ignoring them. And its totally immature to just redirect your anger towards other races.

But I can’t help but feel sorry for black women. It honestly seems like the whole world is against them for ABSOLUTELY NO REASON whatsoever. Not only do they get trashed and disrespected by black men but the media just doesn’t ever promote them.

I feel like they’ve been disrespected and underappreciated for far too long.

I’ve met a lot of them that are very attractive and practically all of them down South are real down to earth people 🤟

If there were any dating suggestions on where I could get started with them I’d be down. After all I am looking to head down to the Carribean soon.

[Aurora1010]

Yes, I totally agree with you! It's mean. I am okay with people comparing and talking about their preferences, but it's not ok to be an asshole.
As for me, I appreciate all types of beauty. I always said that variety is great. I really do not think there is such thing as the most beautiful woman, or most beautiful race or ethnicity or nationality. I think every culture has their own unique charm.
I might think latinas are the most beautiful, as an example. Then I may see beautiful Mediterranean women and change my mind. Then I'll see beautiful Persian, Thai, Polynesian or Ethiopian women and change my mind again.
Native American women are underrated too.
Isn't it good to have many types of beauties? I really think so
One thing is for sure, black women have the best bodies I think. I like their caramel or chocolate skin colors and their curly hair

[Jack9949]

I agree lol. Beauty can be found everywhere. That’s why I normally reference my preference for latin women. Because its not so much any one race as it is an entire culture of people across a very large continent!

[menina]

The world is against black people in general and since we live in a sexist society, black women are more "attacked" than black men.
I agree with everything you said and it's good to see a white man who has no issues with black women.
Nowadays it seems that most black men only want to date white women and that bothers me. I know they're not doing it because they like the woman they're with. They do this because they hate black women or they hate their skin color and want to have mixed race kids. It angers me and it also makes me sad.

Just hope I can find a decent man who loves me (black or white) and respects me regardless of my skin color.

[Jack9949]

I totally agree. Like I really despise colorism.

[menina]

I'm glad you do. I also hate colorism, but I have family members who believe in this crap.

[Jack9949]

Family members? Why? Its just so cruel

[menina]

Yes, my mother and 3 of my sisters. They believe that being dark skinned is bad. I know, right! It's also stupid.

[Jack9949]

Wait what? I thought only black men were colorist! So there are black women who also won’t date black men?

[menina]

Yes, black women can be colorist too. They do date black men, but they don't date dark skinned black men.

[Jack9949]

Yikes. Thats ridiculous

[menina]

It is. That's one of the reasons why I want to stay away from them when I'm financially independent. They won't know where I am.

[Jack9949]

Do you know why they are that way?

[Jack9949]

I mean it almost seems to me like colorism only exists in white majority countries. For whatever reason

[menina]

They have mental issues and they believe that white people are superior.

[menina]

I know what you mean. But I guess it's more common in black majority countries that used to be colonies.

[Jack9949]

@menina Actually? Because I know a lot of black people in Africa marry within their own race.

[menina]

Yes. Yeah they do, but a lot of Africans hate their own skin. Have you heard about skin bleaching? It's common in Senegal and Nigeria.

[Jack9949]

@menina Christ no. I haven’t heard of that. I just wish all this self hatred would end. It makes me sad to see. God created black people because he wanted them to be black.

[menina]

Well yeah, some people especially black women use lotions and inject themselves with toxic substances to make their skin lighter. Me too, I absolutely agree with you.

[Jack9949]

It just makes me really sad to hear all these things happening. There’s nothing special about white people and I just wish they could understand we were created equal in the eyes of God almighty

[menina]

Me too. Besides making me sad it angers me. They're ashamed of themselves, they're "denying" their nature.
That's true, white people are just like everybody else, but since they believe white people are superior and having light skin is better they harm themselves.

[Jack9949]

@menina Absolutely. I just can’t believe its gotten to the point where black women are literally splashing toxic chemicals on themselves as you mentioned.

[menina]

I couldn't believe when I found out. Of course, not all black women do this, but the ones who do end up having skin diseases. Plus, they don't realize that they won't look white, they get a weird skin tone.

[Jack9949]

Its really unhealthy to have that much self hatred over something so insignificant as race.

[menina]

I agree with you. The problem is that biologically speaking race doesn't exist, but if we think about the world we live in, it does matter and it does exist.

[Jack9949]

Race only serves as a skin phenotype after all

[menina]

Yes, but it plays a big role in society.

[Jack9949]

I don’t believe it should though. And that is the problem.

[menina]

Me neither, but that's the world was build.

[menina]

*that's how the world

[Jack9949]

@menina I mean is there any solution to fixing it? Black people should just learn to accept and be happy with themselves

[menina]

There is. Black people need to get rid of thoughts based on colonialism and slavery. Those things happened, yes but we (black people) need to appreciate ourselves. We need to support each other and grow. We need to learn that we are not weak, dumb or criminals.
And I absolutely agree with you.

[Jack9949]

@menina I agree. I want things to get better for black people and they need to start valuing themselves more.

[Jack9949]

@menina And I’ve also heard that in Africa many countries aren’t advancing because they see Capitalism as an evil created by white men because of the stain of slavery among other things.

[Jack9949]

And imperialism*

[menina]

I'm glad you do. I wish there were more people like you. Hopefully they will, we just have a long way to go.

[menina]

Yes, that's true. I guess that's not the case of my country fortunately.
Also, Africans are not willing to help each other.

[Jack9949]

@menina what country are you from originally? And I thought Africans were big family and community people...

[menina]

I'm from Angola. No, unfortunately we are not. 😕

[menina]

I mean, we are not when it comes to supporting other Africans. If we're talking about supporting our families, friends and communities then we are.

[Jack9949]

@menina Yes. That’s what I meant. The tribal people in Africa are bonded very close together through their customs and traditions.

[menina]

Exactly. Sometimes I wish I was part of those tribes.

[Jack9949]

In any case. You are correct. I thought skin bleaching was only an issue in Asia but apparently its more common in Africa and is an ongoing political issue there. www.google.com/.../

[Jack9949]

It just makes no sense to me why black people have literally been brainwashed into adopting notions of white supremacy https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skin_whitening

[menina]

Yes it is also a problem in some Asian countries but it's more common in African countries. Gambia did something that more countries should do. This is an health and a mental issue that needs to be addressed.

[Jack9949]

Yes. But Gambia is considering reversing that policy though! Which is really bad!

[menina]

It doesn't make sense to me either. But like the news said, it's a legacy of colonialism.

[menina]

It is. They shouldn't reverse it because skin bleaching products are not only cosmetic products. They're dangerous and people who use them clearly have mental issues.

[Jack9949]

I’m just glad you are someone that loves and respects yourself. You should help more black women.

[menina]

Thank you. :) I would like to, but most black women where I live also believe that being white is better.

[menina]

Thanks for the MHO! :)

[Jack9949]

So in terms of colorism why does it seem that black men manage to date interracially more often if its equally as common?

[menina]

I guess it's because women are usually less racist, so they can be attracted to black men. Plus, some black men only date white women when they get rich and/or famous. Not to mention that many white women have a fetish for black men. And since these men are racist, they don't mind being with white women just for sex.

[Jack9949]

I agree with you on that. Under that assumption it would also explain why white men date interracially less often than white women.

[Jack9949]

Though I will say if you’ve noticed its mainly been Asian women that have become our fetish. Some white guys will literally travel to Asia just to have sex with women there

[Jack9949]

Apparently the assumption goes that Asian women are “tight down there” similar to how white women think black guys are “bigger down there”.

[menina]

Exactly, I never thought about that but it sounds like a good reason.

[menina]

Yeah, I forgot that some white men have a fetish for Asian women and I also forgot about them traveling just to have sex.

That assumption is gross. I mean, any fetish that is based on race is gross to me.

[Jack9949]

It certainly is yes. I’m against the idea of having sex with strangers too. But let’s not forget white women have a sex fetish as well

[menina]

Me too. In fact, I prefer to have sex while I'm in a relationship. You mean the fetish for black men?

[Jack9949]

Yes. We shall not speak of that. Hahaha

[menina]

Hahaha no, that's a forbidden topic.

[Jack9949]

Its just really bad 😂 likes thats kind of why I avoid white women 😂

[menina]

Yes, it is. Really? You must be an exception then 😂

[Jack9949]

That’s not the real reason. I feel like most white women are just kinda bitchy. So I’m trying to be more open to black women. I like latina womenas well but I won’t be able to just travel at free will until I’m an adult

[menina]

Fair enough. You should be with who you like and respects you. I'm looking forward to travel since I don't want to date men from where I live.

[Jack9949]

I mean do you have a particular preference yourself?

[menina]

Yes I do. I don't know why but I tend to be attracted to white men.

[Jack9949]

I just would hope that’s not rooted in colorism. Lol

[Jack9949]

I mean it sounds to me like you just have a healthy preference tho. I don’t see you saying anything racist like I’ve gotten from some black men on here

[menina]

Lol no it's not. I'm very comfortable with my skin color and I don't see white people as superior.

[Jack9949]

Right. Is it just some element of our personality that you like?

[menina]

I'm glad you think that. But sometimes I have some issues with myself, I mean because of my preferences.

[menina]

Yes, I think white guys are more romantic in general.

[Jack9949]

@menina Why does every culture of women keep saying that? Lol. I mean I don’t mean to bash minority men but a lot of them do seem more misogynistic these days.

[menina]

Lol Maybe it's because it's true. That's right, they are and I hate misogynist men.

[menina]

*misogynistic

[Jack9949]

I mean I just know quite a few black dudes who only want to gang bang women and they have no interest in anything else. And of course they are naturally drawn to white women because that’s one of the easiest targets. They spread their legs wide open for them.

[menina]

I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm not into that kind of men and yes some white women fall for them.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you and I do get along with black women usually, but some of them definitely do talk shit about white guys.
I used to watch lots of youtube videos on college campuses asking black women if they would date a white guy?
A lot of them said very mean, ignorant things about us. It's hurtful.
Then they would go to a different campus and ask white men how they felt about dating black women. Most of the white guys gave very respectful answers and seemed very open to it.
I'm not saying that black women deserve any hate, but if you think they all like us white men, you're kidding yourself.

[Jack9949]

I’m just saying most of them are actually pretty decent people lol.

[Jack9949]

You said it yourself lol. Its just many of the college generation come from backgrounds where they might not have grown up around white men. I feel like middle class black women are the absolute best

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it's odd how some of the younger high school and college aged black women have a very disrespectful view of white guys.
These are mostly people that are in all black schools.
They seem to believe every stereotype and definitely don't seem accepting.
Watching those youtube videos I was like "Wow, I thought white people were supposed to be racist, but these black girls are brutal."
Then the white guys on their videos were all sweet about the idea of being with a black woman.
It just opened my eyes that I can lime black women fine, but to watch my back because a lot of them are actually racist as hell and quite closed minded about white guys.

[exitseven]

I don't hate black women. I recently made a friend who is a black women. I guess I can reframe this question by saying that some women rub me the wrong way because of their attitudes and beliefs (not religious but political) and they just happen to be black. But I would still dislike their views if they were a different race. I know that everyone is a little bit prejudiced but I try to form opinions on people as just people and not black people.

[ct1243]

I have no issue with white men it’s mostly white women and black men. I avoid both , but social media has aided into a lot of the problems towards us. I’m a classy educated black woman that lives in the suburbs and country. I’m also educated and have been dating outside my race since I was a teen. I’m not remotely attracted to black men because their disrespectful and colorist towards not only black women , but themselves. I’m happier outside my race and prefer it. A lot of black men have never experienced a leveled up black woman because their not leveled up themselves. They can’t attract certain types of black women and white women who date them actually are hyped up to believe whatever black men say. It’s sad , but a lot of us are married and date outside our race and those numbers will continue to grow in time.

[ct1243]

I live in the south and date country men.

[Jack9949]

Hey. That’s where I’m headed. I’m a city boy right now but I feel my calling 🤠

[ct1243]

Nice lol

[ct1243]

A lot of black women have been taught that white men are evil and etc when in actuality it’s them.

[ct1243]

My first husband was white and I will continue with white men

[Jack9949]

@ct1243 Lol I met those very same types you speak of before and that’s why I used to feel animosity towards them.

[MoreWhineMoreWhine]

Dude, you nailed this perfectly. In my city that is majority Hispanic, just NOW IN 2021, you are seeing black girls dating Hispanic guys everywhere. It wasn’t like that back then. I’m being 100% honest. I never saw that interracial pairing growing up until NOW. They are realizing what society is doing to them and black men don’t have their backs.

[ct1243]

Black men make up this haterd towards us granted it’s programming , but there the problem

[MoreWhineMoreWhine]

I’m sorry! I don't know why but seeing this pairing makes me happy. I feel like it’s a great match.

[ct1243]

Yep I love it ❤️

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Its mostly the black men that's against his own black sisters. 🤦‍♂️

[Jack9949]

True. I mean I’ve got no issues with them.

[Juliesawyer]

Racist are a tiny minority. No person who is above 95 iq cares

[Psychosocial]

I wouldn’t say it’s that simple. A lot of people think they don’t care until their faced with a black woman in real life and realize they have a tendency to be a bit prejudice.

[Juliesawyer]

@Psychosocial I wouldn't know. I see all people equally no matter what color they are. Under the skin we are all the same. Since my mother and sister in law are black I'm happy I don't feel like you. by the way "until they're faced..." (their is used to describe ownership like "their car/their house ")
just... thanks for proving me right though..

[pigoat]

So all these people talking negative about black women are just making this shit up

Thwy are crying wolf

Ok we will go with that

[anylolone]

Ask black men how their infancy was, how they were raised.

[Jack9949]

That’s not answering the question

[anylolone]

That's, actually.

[Jack9949]

How?

[anylolone]

Well, mostly the sheer prevalence of child abuse.

Technically that's true for most inner city men, but you asked about hatred towards black women.
In this case, these black men can't direct their hatred towards their mother, she's always a queen regardless of what they do, so they direct that towards other black women.

[grega239]

Oh boohoo someone doesn't like someone else. Big deal

[In_Trance]

These days? Like this is something that just surfaced a week or two ago...

[Ripper_E]

who hates black women?