Have you ever felt an instant connection with someone?

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What was that like?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Yes. Particularly with my wife.
We met through a dating organization (before internet). Our first date was at a restaurant. When I first saw her, I wasn't immediately smitten by her looks. She was very attractive. But she was taller and had different eye and hair color than my ideals. She also wore a rather conservative outfit.

But over dinner, we absolutely clicked. I had had lots of girlfriends in my life, but never experienced such engaging conversation. Time disappeared as we chatted effortlessly.

At some point I felt something bump my foot and realized that the waiter was vacuuming under our table. We looked around and realized that the place was empty. They were closing up.

So I walked her to the parking lot and we continued chatting. More time passed. When we went to leave, we discovered that the gate had been locked. So I hopped over the 6' high cinder bock wall and got someone from the restaurant to open the gate. My (future) wife put her hands on top of my shoulders, rose on her tip toes, pressed herself against me, and we kissed before we parted.

On another day, we met a couple of her friends and she told them about the way I had hopped over that wall. It had been no big deal to me. But she told the story with awe, as if I was a superhero. LOL

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

Funny enough just last week I was meeting a group of people who were friends of a friend of a friend. And among them was this girl that hit me like a freight train.
I'm literally that guy who is generally emotionally detached and need to make an effort to feel for someone.
But that girl hit all the switches at once. She had my favorite looks, the personality I admire the most in women, even her voice and her smell worked in her favor.
And I actually approached her as I normally would anyone, we taked for a while I'm not sure if she felt the connection but from my side I was definitely meeting someone I wouldn't meet everyday

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

Yes I did. Day hubs and I met.
. It had been over a year since any guy had paid any attention to me. I looked innocent and did not get asked out often.. We were both 18 at the time. I was sleeping over at my friend’s dorm. We went to a frat party (I actually got a random guy’s number at said party), I was the designated driver. We came back. My friends were being drunk, loud and obnoxious. It was 2am. In walks random dude from next door... He’s wearing a Sr. Frogs Tshirt. He smiles at me, I smile at him. He asks me if I want to watch a movie in his room. I say yes! I tell my friends I’m ditching them and go to his room. . He turned on a movie and sat with his arm across the back of the futon. I asked “is that my spot?” He said yes. Next thing I know we are making out and touching each other and he is taking my clothes off. . Oral sex happened (he went down on me first). Then I sucked his dick. I swallowed. He offered me a Dr. Pepper. . Then I slept there. I wrote my number on his white board and my friends said he was not going to call me. . He called me back less than 12 hours later. That was 20 years ago. Together ever since. We had an instant connection.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

Yes it's awesome. Within 10 minutes we were like 'we are going to be good friends' it was like talking to someone you already knew for ages

wtf636 · Answer

Yes, has happened to me a few times. The last was an Ex of mine.

What was that like? Well, I remember being nervous cause I was meeting her out with her friends for a trivia night for the first date. But I went in there confident and it worked out.

Our connection...

The moment I laid eyes on her, I was hooked. The way she looked at me, the way she talked to me, it was just so sexy I couldn't help it. And I had dated "hotter" women before. But this one was different. She had a power over me I can't explain.

She hugged me after the date, no kiss, but she commented how she fit just right with my body when we hugged. Our second date, a Christmas light show at the botanical garden. We kissed under the mistletoe, we went the wrong way down the path, and that was supposed to be at the end, but we said fuck it, made out and then walked around after. Best date I've ever been on.

I wanted to see her as much as I could, we had no problem hanging out and talking, it just felt natural.

All this being said. it didn't work out. So that's not all it's cracked up to be I suppose. I still love that girl though.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I knew this therapist and she was age 23 I felt a connection to her,
I didn't want my crush to go too far cause this was something that
I felt was just a crush on her but she left the clinic where I go, to get
a better job and when we had our last session she gave me a hug
and got teary eye wow she was gorgeous and she asked me if I had
Facebook but did not want connect for fear of getting more of a crush
on her but this was my very first instant connection and she was also
on medication for depression too but she was a very nice and outstanding
personality our last session was in Nov of 2020.. I felt really nice around
her too

Lynx122 · Answer

Yes. My girlfriend. She's autistic too and it felt like I was an alien among people for my whole life and I finally met another alien. Not every autistic person is automatically compatible though a lot don't work on their social skills at all or so and then it just feels like I'm carrying someone up a mountain on my back when I talk to them. I have felt a connection quickly before with other people but I think this was the most close one.

Understanding me is kind of a big deal to me if someone doesn't understand me and the way I see the world and the things I struggle with etc. Then we can still talk and stuff but I will never be as close with that person because they just don't get who I really am so that's why this worked well. We have also progressed more in different areas so we can balance each other out in some ways which is also good.

bubbles328 · Answer

Yes and as the old stories go the room slowed, he was laughing and talking with his friends. I automatically knew his name, I knew it was his van I’d seen pull up in the car park of my pub earlier that night, I just knew things about him.
Fast forward 8 year, 8 wasted years. He had taken advantage of my love for him and crushed my soul. I was beaten and emotionally abused on a daily basis. Also raped regularly. I had thought of taking my own life just to get out of the situation I was in. I was head over heals for a guy that didn’t seem to want me back but also wouldn’t leave me alone.
It was a great lesson for me and I am sorry I wasted so much of my time but that’s life 🤷🏻‍♀️

ohshee · Answer

It's kind of funny that yes quite often there's another chat site that I go to and I will start chatting with somebody and I can feel them and as we talk I can start feeling and deeper and deeper and then I will say something to the person because what is that strong I know they can feel it too. And I will always ask them what do you feel. What do you feel right now in your body are in your chest and they will say I don't know it feels weird though it feels good it feels really good but it feels weird I think and they don't know what it energy from each other and it's a deep connection that's a trip on how that works because I'm sure you might be talking about when you meet somebody face to face I've had that happen to

Comesaveme · Answer

Yes 😞 my ex. We matched on tinder and after introducing ourselves we decided to have a phone call. That phone call lasted 4 hours and by the end of it, it felt like I had found my soulmate. Fast forward two years later, we are broken up but still can’t let each other go 😞

Massageman · Answer

When I was on a short term mission trip to Greece, we were tasked with clothes by sex and size, and boxing them for refugees. A British pastor was there and I just happened to be paired up with him to box the clothes by random assignment. With practically no talking (about the boxes) and just an occasional nod or two, we'd fill a box, tag it, close it, tape it one direction, turn it, tape it the other direction, stack it for hauling, almost as automatically as a machine could. We just fell into a rhythm and worked very seamlessly. He was also glad that I was someone who knew what a "torch" was (British for flashlight), because we were giving out  torches  to the smaller refugee kids who might be afraid of the dark!

AndrewMG · Answer

I mean this is a true bit of me I'm giving away (I don't often do this lol), but the people in real life I end up getting on with I tend to have an initial indifference/dislike to. I mean it's essentially the opposite of love at first site... so basically the answer is no lol

justlookin69 · Answer

Yes, I have a few times with a few select ladies and it was amazing actually. Within an hour or so of talking to someone that’s completely a stranger to me, and then we’d connect instantly within that time frame where sometimes it ended up pleasurable 😏

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. I have. There have been a few instances where I've met a [stranger] woman randomly, and I just get a really good vibe from her, and our conversation flows really smoothly.
I usually assume she's promiscuous, though. Because how else would she be so comfortable with someone she's just met?
So I politely say goodbye and go on about my day, and I never see her again.

kitty71 · Answer

I did and it was my first first ever guy in my life that we hit it off like right away we met for the 1st time and due to that connection we manage to hang out for approximately 5 years, not as a couple or a girlfriend/boyfriend because we never were a couple per se, but we scored a few dates here and there even we had 2 very very intimate dates but that dream of continuing seeing the guy just vanished last year, when they guy unexpectadly died at 47. For me it was so so so devastated.

FakeNIK · Answer

There was a foreigner sitting nearby , Our trains were late so talked for literally hours & from that day onwards I became a fan of Arabic Songs. How the conversation I don't actually remember but we had so many things in common & honestly it was amazing

igaveyouanickname · Answer

OMG it's happened to me a number of times at different depths. Powerful. Time-slowing. Can't look but can't look away. (It's all in the eyes.) Most often, a girl races in front of me, or puts herself in my path and then turns to stare me down. It's so fucking sexy and memorable. And that's before even talking to them, when the click-chemistry is already felt as certain as gravity.

VIVANT · Answer

Yeah, I feel like I’ve always known them but it’s also mysterious and I want more tho it doesn’t have to be an attraction it can be platonic.

Anonymous · Answer

yes.. it was cool.. a fascinating sensation! Was obviously about sex/something physical. You cannot feel if someone likes you as a person instantly. You can be lucky that it is the case down the line though :D. Hope it happens someday :P

Anonymous · Answer

But it didn’t last. There was also a time when I actively resisted it on purpose but I won’t say why, although there are multiple reasons as to why I resisted it. First I was very nervous, but although it went away a bit later, other compelling reasons presented.

Pj1981 · Answer

It is kind of strange really but the best way I can describe it for me was the instant we started talking I felt comfortable like I knew her, I was able to see myself spending time with her and in one way or another she would be part of my life

Jlegacy · Answer

I had an instant connection with my wife. She was it for me and I just couldn't shake the feeling of soul and spirit bond that we had. It was amazingly sweet.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I have felt an instant connection with my wife.

menina · Answer

Yes, that happened to me a couple of times, mostly online. 😔It also happened with friends but it was in real life.

Interstate · Answer

Yes but only through common interests. I didn't see them as potential future spouse-material, just that we had plenty in common.

sage2021 · Answer

Not just with guys, but females that we were instant friends. Like we have known each other all our lives.

saturnianqueen · Answer

Yes, with more than one person but unique in their own ways. It’s beautiful. I suppose it only happens with people who are similar to you or you just know they’re be right for you.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Yes. You just know. It isn't a matter of having to shave your pubes to prepare.
In my case my foster parents were always very quick to hijack the relationship and then poison it.
They still do so as much as they can, even at distance, these days.

TadCurious · Answer

Yes Bella I have but I think drinking alcohol played a part. When I was younger I used to frequent the night spots. Lol 🙋‍♂️😊😂🤣

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I have and that's why I never forced interactions with woman. If the chemistry is there then is there.

Anonymous · Answer

I had it once but the chemistry was strong for me to resist his charm and to look in his eyes they were so magnetic hopefully it was just online and we never met. I honestly wouldn't never met him because his married but maybe it was only me who felt that I don't know

Ninani · Answer

A few times. Feels like I can be comfortable and vulnerable with them without caution.

Browneye57 · Answer

Sure. Nearly any woman that shows interest. LOL Attraction and desire is the key. It's what propels things forward.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but I don't look too deeply into that because like myself I can be very chatmastic and have that connection with anybody and then there's not much depth.

Miah02 · Answer

Yes. My bestfriend. We just clicked immediately and been besties since we were 8

karaspara · Answer

Yes in my school days I instantly hit it off with my two bffs and they still are today

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I’ve felt it 2 or 3 times. Once with my current boyfriend (once I actually gave him a chance) and twice with my friends

SamFromFL · Answer

Yes. It’s like energy and chemistry all tied up: euphoric.

Forcevamp · Answer

I have formed all sorts of different kinds of connections with people wouldn't say all of it is instant in my case but I think that having connection with others is a good thing as long as it doesn't become mentally unhealthy etc

NathanFaruson · Answer

Absolutely. What was it like? Felt comfortable. Like I was supposed to be there.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I have and it always turns out to be a terrible mistake.

Vikkrram · Answer

Are you getting in love wid someone? Coz your last 2-3 questions... seems as so... Don't mind Joking 😅 . But wanna know this...

River1234 · Answer

No, not yet. But I feel that way towards animals, 😜

Ironic_Method · Answer

Amazing! It's happened a handful of times and I married one of them. 10/10 would recommend.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, with my boyfriend :) we're still very happily together ❤

blondfrog · Answer

Yes but they never feel the same way or they will feel it with me but i won't feel it with them. It's like a dumb game of cat and mouse.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

It happens every day when you relate with someone, its a connection because you understand

FoghornLeghorn99 · Answer

She was cute. But the connection went beyond her physical cuteness!!!

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Yes, it's like meeting an old friend for the first time.

Better_off_here · Answer

oh yeah i love people and i like meeting new people so anyone that i talk to i feel an instant connection with. i hope that makes sense. basically i am a people person.

jimmy2 · Answer

Its like we both plug into each other and mo one else matterm it last 36 years

Marhaban-1 · Answer

Someone I talked to once and asked them for there number then it all whent well

BuffHeracross · Answer

I felt an instant connection with Basculegion when it was revealed yesterday.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Too analytical, critical and detached for that to happen.

monkeynutts · Answer

No, *slouched on the couch watching his panda porn*

JennBITx · Answer

It is nice to get that feeling that you just know.

Account · Answer

Yes. It feels like you already knew them.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

A few times

Sketti2021 · Answer

Yes ma'am, twas amazing

smahala1991 · Answer

It has happened a few times

Titanic1912 · Answer

I have with a bunch of people, especially women!

Medhat-M · Answer

Yeah but I didn't lead it anywhere

DiegoO · Answer

Yeah, it happened online. The LDR lasted 3 years.

Yaharro · Answer

Yes in a movie I guess

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