Should I break up with my girlfriend for finding out she was with two black men before me?

[Anonymous]

Now hear me out before you think im racist or prejudice. I don't have anything against black men & i don't have any problem with who people decide to date. But black men are considered to be better in bed and are bigger down there. My girlfriend is white & i know a lot of white girls that are into black men but I have fear that because she's been with black guys, ill disappoint her & feel like i won't measure up to her last two boyfriends & eventually she might cheat or break up with me. So I've been thinking about just breaking up with her & let her find someone else. Should i break up with her though? It's been bothering me a lot

[Anonymous]

Let's be honest: you're either considering breaking up with her because of racial bias, or because you have a small dick. So either way, it's because of your insecurity.

Having said that, as negative as it sounds, it's actually perfectly reasonable. If your girlfriend has a preference for men who are much different than you, then naturally you're gonna question why she's with you, right? Right. It's the same as having brown hair, average height, and skin that tans easily, only to find out that every man she's ever been really attracted to was tall and had red-to-blonde hair. Obviously, you're not her type, so why is she with you? And since you're not her type, is there a higher likelihood of her eventually cheating on you with someone who is?

[DumBear]

No thats really stupid.
I once had a threesome with a white girl and a black guy. And i am white.
The black guy had a bigger dick and buffer body. But he finished in 30 seconds (not kidding lol). Meanwhile he sat back and watched until he left out of embarrassment while i continued plowing the girl alone.
Just because someone is black doesn't mean they are bigger or better in bed at all. Thats pretty racist or ignorant believing in stigmas.

[imanf7]

You can date a white girl who has been only with white guy and that guy could be a s*x god and you can never measure up 🤣 . It's not about race , and I think your girlfriend know this too that's why she's dating you a white guy. also a lot of black girls are dating white guys that should tell you something

[Asker]

But there are women who do this shit. Break up or cheat because their boyfriend doesn't measure up. It happens and i want to avoid that pain

[kyleelyn199723]

You probably should break up with her since you are going to put her through hell because you can’t get over your insecurities. She deserves someone that will leave the past people she has been with , in the past

[Asker]

Yeah. Im going to be honest with her & tell her we shouldn't be together anymore. She'll understand

[kyleelyn199723]

Yep and she will dodge a bullet.

[Asker]

How is she dodging the bullet? If anything i am

[kyleelyn199723]

Because she doesn’t need an insecure man throwing her past up in her face.

[Asker]

But there's always the possibility she will leave me or cheat on me because i don't measure up to her other boyfriends from the past

[kyleelyn199723]

If she wanted to be with other people , she wouldn’t have chose you. There’s a possibility someone can leave you regardless of their dating history. Your insecurities are going to be a huge problem in this relationship

[Asker]

Okay. Ill still break up with her and just tell her why. We had a good run while it lasted

[kyleelyn199723]

I pray for any other girl you decide to throw your insecurities on going forward

[Smoke-n-Growls]

So, you wanna make sure you don't sound racist...

But you're breaking up because you think all black men have big cocks, AND because you're too insecure to even let your girlfriend reassure you you're not too small?

Dude.
Do the girlfriend a favour and leave her, then do yourself a favour and learn to love yourself more.

You're fine.
But in case you wanna be sure, just ask her.

[Asker]

Im breaking up with her but im gonna be honest and let her know why. She'll maybe understand

[Smoke-n-Growls]

She'll understand she dodged a highly insecure bullet, and that's all that matters.

You, on the other hand, are one step closer to becoming a weird, insecurity-driven incel.

I'd strongly encourage you to seek professional therapy. There's a lot of something going on, and you deserve to give yourself a shot at a happy life without that inferiority complex.

[Asker]

Being insecure doesn't make me an incel. That word has lost it's true meaning now

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I didn't say you already were. I said you're at risk for becoming one.

Insecurity is unattractive.

[Asker]

Insecurity is unattractive in men. Women can get away with it though

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Nope, we can't. I used to be insecure. It definitely hurt my love life. If I had stayed insecure I wouldn't have been able to land my current partner.

Insecurity isn't a good look on anyone. Insecure partners lead to unhealthy relationships.

[Asker]

Exceptions dont disprove the rule. In general a depressed girl can still get a boyfriend. A depressed guy will have a harder time

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Try again. Both my partners have had depression. I myself have severe anxiety.

You're the only one limiting yourself. If you tell yourself that you're depressed and insecure, and you take no steps to fix it, you'll stay that way.

Get meds, get therapy, start exercising, do gratitude journalling and start taking yourself seriously.

[Asker]

The general opinion stands. Women have it much easier in the dating field. Men are told to improve themselves to become a somebody in women's eyes. Women are told they're beautiful and don't have to change a thing

[menina]

No, you shouldn't break up with her. That's a stupid reason to end a relationship, it isn't anything serious.
If she's with you it's because she likes you. I doubt she's going to dump you just because you might not be like her exes.

[Asker]

Look at the dudes responses

[menina]

I checked them. I don't think you have reasons to be insecure. Like I've said before, if she's with you it's because she likes you.

[Anonymous]

Personal preferences are real.
If she admits to having a preference for black guys it might be smart to move on.
I'm white and I have a preference for women of other races. I wouldn't think a white woman should seriously date me.

[menina]

" I wouldn't think a white woman should seriously date me. " - That's surprising! I've never thought a white man would say something like that.

[Opinion Owner]

@menina
I've learned from personal experience that I'm way more attracted to women of other races.
I can't deny it.
When I try to date a white woman it feels forced and like she's not what I really want.
I honestly think white women who have a preference for black guys are the same way.
They might want a white husband, but I feel like their attraction is towards black men, just like my attraction is for brown women.

[menina]

I understand you. Now I can see why you don't want to date white women. If it feels like it's forced then it's better to not date.
I agree with you, it might be the same for them.

[Anonymous]

People really thoughr you were being serious, black boi.

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