Can distracting a rapist with a conversation work?

[CelineBV]

Whenever I hear about real rape cases, this has me wondering:
If instead of screaming or trying to squirm your way out (or saying NO repeatedly but to no success), the woman pretends to go along with it and distracts/fools him with a conversation can that work too? I wonder if any girl on that horrible ordeal has ever done that or attempt at least.

Distract him enough (even charm him, invent any story) and then take a advantage when he's lets down his guard to either escape or strike him with an object from behind.

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The way it would have to work is like this:
The girl by logic already knows she's overwhelmed with strength over her. Trying to fight back and screaming obviously isn't going to help out. No point. So maybe try to remain calm and pretend to be sweet to him, talk to him... make him believe you're ok with it but it's a trick to get out.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Fuck no, do whatever the fuck you can to get out of the situation.

Stab a bitch in the eye if you have to.

You can't reason with someone like that.

[Anonymous]

The rapist dosen't want to have a conversation with you, they want to rape you. Should you (I hope you don't. ) ever find yourself in this situation, I don't think you should try this.

[CelineBV]

True but screaming, trying to squirm your way out or trying to fight back (like most reactions) is even worse... it can get the rapist to be more brutal and hurt her more. Then again, I've never been raped but my cousin almost was. She supposedly used that method, lied about being abandoned at birth, how attractive he is, etc and somehow got the rapist to admit his parents gave him up when he was just a baby, his foster parents abusing him, no women ever wanting him, etc. Then he kept drinking beers, getting distracted and somehow forgot she was running.

Needless to say she's still horrified by that experience. In her case it worked but not sure how successful is that.

[Opinion Owner]

Before I say anything, that's terrible and I hope your cousin is getting the help she needs to deal with that.

I'm not an expert on how a rapist thinks. It might work but I just don't think the most reliable defense. After all, most rapist rape for control; not sexual pleasure. As fucked as it is, the screaming and squirming is what does it for them- so I don't think that would make them mad.

But I could also see how going along with it might help sometimes; but I don't know, it's tricky. I don't want to sound like I'm victim blaming, but I think the best defense is to avoid finding yourself in that situation. Don't walk alone at night, don't leave drinks unattended, always be aware of what is happening around you, etc.

[SnakeBoop]

Doubt it. They're not there for a conversation. Clearly.

[CelineBV]

Yeah that's a horrible position to be in. My cousin always got raped when she was 15 and that method I'm asking about worked in her case. Apparently her would-be rapist never got told in his life that he's attractive (she lied about it to get out). Then again just because it worked with her doesn't mean that'll work.
Frankly I wouldn't know what to do but I guess that's worth a try and seems better than screaming and trying to fight back... in which the girl then can end up more hurt or dead.

[SnakeBoop]

talking doesn't guarantee living.
some rapists are rapists for that exact reason, to rape.
showing you're "suddenly into it" can turn them off to the point of murdering her for not following through with his rapist fantasy.
Stop trying to project your view as a fact. Also nice to suddenly make up a cousin in that situation. Sounding like a anti-vaxxer making up a story of how the vaccine killed aunty bessie.

[dustybiker]

Pretty sure woman had already tried everything as preventative. Mental illness is real.

[douride2]

That type of a response has about as much of a chance of working as a snowflake in hell not melting.

[CelineBV]

I guess but the typical response of screaming and trying to squirm your way out fails all the time.

[douride2]

And if you appear to go along he will say you were a willing partner.