Ok I admit this was hypocrisy, how common is this?

[Anonymous]

I don't do this anymore but used to in the past. I was a hypocrite when it came to apologizing and forgiving.

If it was me trying to call it a truce or apologizing, it felt good we were on good terms afterwards. I bothered me when someone didn't accept it at the moment and had to take a couple days.

However, when it was granting forgiveness, many times I would take my time. At times (depending on the offense) just an ''come one, can we be cool now'' wasn't good enough for me. I didn't forgive right away. I was terrible at forgiving faster but expected to be forgiven if it was me asking a truce.

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One time, the very same person that I've asked for a truce and it was given right away... well the tables turned a year later or so. Now that person was in the wrong, was calling a truce and I said ''get lost, I'm going to think about it''. The person then got me with the ''No fair, you were forgiven when you asked for me, talk about hypocrisy'' rebuttal.

[hafinjun]

Wouldn't that question assume that the need to forgive each other in equal ways be based on an assumption of equal infractions, in other words say you come to my place for coffee, and in the drinking of the beverage, the cup leaps from your hand, you immediately apologize and are forgiven in a like fashion. a week later you find out I've been having sex with your college aged daughter, forgive me I say, I didn't mean to, drop dead and rot pervert you say, which fortunately I know is code for "I'll forgive you when he'll freezes over🙂

[Guy13]

Pride and Self conjoined int action in your example... very common !!!