Do you often share your problem or do you keep it all with yourself?

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This is real talk when most men don't actually share their problem in most people around them, for us women we are entitled or we are in an attitude that we want to share or a least talk about it so we can ease what ever burden we have.

Do you share your problem or Do you keep it with yourself?

I learned that sharing problem specially when you know you cannot handle it already is healthy in which some people keep it with themselves and cause anxiety or depression afterward. Every person has its own unique way in dealing problems. Some people eat, some may drink alcohol and so on.

Do you often share your problem or do you keep it all with yourself?

Nightskies · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I used to be that person that always wanted to talk to someone about my problems. But later growing up I learned it’s better to find your own way to deal with it yourself so you don’t have to always depend on someone else. And I just stopped feeling comfortable with the fact that everyone could know my business. I don’t like talking about my problems to anyone anymore unless I know I won’t regret it like if it’s a big personal issue, I keep it to myself and figure it out or if I’m that desperate I’ll go online and anonymously ask for help. But if it’s a little problem that I wouldn’t mind someone knowing then I’ll talk about it to my people. People are so judgmental these days. Learn ways to help yourself so that you don’t need anyone else to fix YOUR own issues. I understand if you just really need advice though. But overall I want everyone to be able to take care of themselves without depending on someone else. I know that feeling and I’m way happier now that I’ve learned to depend on myself during my issues.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I think both, someone I will keep it to myself and sometimes I will express it to my mom. I think a lot of us need to get back in the ha it of writing in diaries/journals again if you don't have friends family to listen or can't afford to see a therapist. They're very helpful and can't release a lot pent up stress.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

I keep things to myself unless I really feel like I can trust them and that they truly care and want to be there for me. Otherwise, I deal with it alone, as I always have. I know it’s not necessarily healthy, but growing up in a dysfunctional household (parents screaming and throwing things at each other and breaking things in front of their child) made me wary about trusting others with my feelings and deep things within myself.

I needed to learn to be my own emotional support because my parents weren’t there to do that. I’m well-acquainted with emotional solitude. I’ve learned to be my own parent.

I’m one of those guys that may have the world falling apart inside but I put a smile on my face to pretend all is well. I’m good at hiding my troubles and pain from others

Nowadays, I only confide in the closest of friends.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Accepted Answer

I write the problem down in my notebook. Sort of diary to be honest. But not a diary.

I get a clear insight of what is the actual task, what are the problems, and what can be the solution. It is like talking with myself.

I generally do not like to talk with people about my problems. I guess I am paranoid about the sharing tendency being used against me in any way and me being thought of as a weak person that is not able to handle even a single problem or something.

Sometimes, though, I do give a hint. Nothing more.

melanieeeB · Answer

I mostly deal with it on my own

Pegases · Answer

It's rare for a man to have a safe space to share his problems. For this reason therapy is for everyone. A lot of men often assume that because sharing your problems in most instances is ridiculed, that they shouldn't need to share their problems - as if they aren't atill human. But contrary to popular belief, men are human, and do in fact need someone like a therapist that they can express their emotions to as well.

NottaNatty · Answer

Personally no because the lie has been embedded deep in me that a man is to be strong deal with things, emotions on there own. I am completely aware this is unhealthy however my observation is men do not get the chance to open up In the way women do. It seems to be socal stigma that being emotional in front of another is weak or feminine wich is rather sad, However I cannot speak for other guys.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Who you're sharing them with is just as important as if you do or don't choose to share.

For example if you share your great plan to leave your old life behind with someone who benefited from your old status quo, they'll try to hold you down in a behavior often compared to crabs trying to escape a bucket.

MrOracle · Answer

I share a problem once or maybe twice a year, with my closest guy friends, who do the same. I don't share problems with women - nothing good could ever come from that, but plenty of bad certainly can.

As much as women say they want men to share their problems, they lose respect for men who do that, even if they don't realize it, and the relationship suffers. Women need to look up to their man in order to desire him, and him handling his business is a big part of that.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Nobody knows the troubles i’ve seen. Nobody knows my sorrow. Ell oh ell!
Of course i keep it to myself. I’m a man. Even if someone would listen, nobody would care. I’d still be marginalized for being weak and useless though. Until there’s an actual upside to men expressing themselves, it’s not going to be the norm.

NathanDavis · Answer

if I need to, I do it... and with whomever is needed as well, usually my close friends

bubblegunnn · Answer

I love to vent so im not holding it in my heart when i should pour it all out to make me feel better. Only with someone i trust

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I share it in almost every case. I dunno why so many women think men don't talk about their problems, its a myth. Most men complain about things just as much as most women do.

dustybiker · Answer

I’ll share little things. Big things I’ve been dealing with for over a year my sister and less friends don’t even know.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Meh… not really. There’s not much point in talking about my problem, unless the person will actually help me find a solution. Unfortunately, that’s somewhat rare.

Anonymous · Answer

How many people have friends or family of the type that they can share their inner most problems with and will be listened to and feel validated?

I'm an army of one. It's my job to manage myself in a largely unsympathetic world.

Supermomof3 · Answer

I tend to share too much! I feel it’s because I don’t have the best support system at home!

Hardworkingguy · Answer

If I find someone that I can trust I think it's very useful to talk about your problems because a second burn his opinion can be a great asset to your progress

TrillXHippy · Answer

I talk about my back problems with some of my coworkers because they also have pain. I really don’t mention how much it hurts though. I keep a lot of things to myself tbh

SushiSxnpai · Answer

I usually keep it to myself. There’s no point telling anyone if I can resolve the problem myself.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I share my problems with my therapist and sometimes family, friends

Anonymous · Answer

I have to talk to someone about it. I tried keeping it all inside before and I just felt depressed all of the time so it’s better to talk to someone about what you’re dealing with. Someone you trust.

Idkwtfimdoing96 · Answer

I don't usually share my problems but when I do it's with my family

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I keep but do not bury. It's actually mentally taxing, but I've survived and thrived this long so..

Havthrills · Answer

I don't share my problems. I usually just get "you will figure it out"

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’m usually more outspoken… sometimes more than my own good

Anonymous · Answer

I do and always regret it and later feel stupid.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Except my mother, I dont have anyone I could share them with

scooogy · Answer

The computer scientist in me views problems as something way easier than other people might.

driven159 · Answer

Why share it you are the one that has to fix it

malwins · Answer

Nope learned time and time again weaknesses get exploited  remember bad boys move in silence

Anonymous · Answer

That's because men know how judgmental women are. It probably won't help to tell her but it most definitely could hurt. It's not worth it.

Heolurt · Answer

I don't have anyone in my life, so I keep my problems to myself.

prosmind · Answer

In most of the cases I keep problems to myself.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I dont but i try to look for ways to address it. A lot of the times it doesn't work so I just don't

exitseven · Answer

I usually keep it to myself.

innerman · Answer

well, it’s my problem.

Mart10 · Answer

I share it with my partner

maximumpower · Answer

Share - just with a few very trusted people.

Dazzler1983 · Answer

I can't bottle things up

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Keep it to myself.

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