I used to and then I realized it just complicated and ruined things. If I wanted advice I found they offered nothing more helpful than I could have offered myself. And that is if it’s helpful. A lot of the time when I would go for advice they’d offer really bad advice or complicate things because they aren’t in the relationship, they don’t know. Everyone bases it off of their experience and what they want for you. I found advice from those close to me regarding relationships to be destructive.
Like for example once I went to my best friend of 9 years for advice. The guy I was dating told me he was moving abroad and we needed to break up until he got back. I was very upset and I never once thought he was lying. When I told her he was moving she told me it’s all made up, he’s not moving, he’s lying to me and he just wants to end it. Even when I tried to argue it with her, she kept trying to convince me otherwise. I got in my head about this and became very suspicious the last few weeks we spent together... and it kinda ruined moments between us. Now, he’s off abroad. It was never a lie. I dont know why she immediately went to that assumption and really tried to convince me instead of just letting me trust my gut and being a listening ear for the time.
s I’ve always preferred keeping things to myself because I don’t need for anyone to hold grudges FOR me. It’s normal to have disagreements and arguments in a relationship, what matters is the outcome and how it ends. Of course as long as the relationship isn’t toxic or abusive or anything.
If I tell you about an issue I’m having with a SO and it gets solved, I get over it then I don’t need for my friends or family to hold onto the anger against him. Heck I don’t need them to be angry for me to begin with, but not a lot of people get that so I’d rather just keep things to myself. Makes life a lot easier.
That is one thing about me I keep things to myself I do not share my friend's problems with other people and it's sad that you can't keep confident in someone who you call your friend I think that's the reason why I don't have many friends in my life cause I've had so much hurt that has been done to me
No, those details are private. It would be unfair to my partner to share our dirty laundry.
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I have always kept the dirty laundry put away. I've had friends get mad at me because they have problems and think my family is perfect. Sometimes I want to share my problems just so they know I don't have a perfect family and I'm just like them. I did tell a friend something once and she told everyone she could as if she was selling a newspaper on the street.
If I feel unhappy yea but family and friends aren’t my first choice. I want to be open to whoever I’m with. I made that mistake 3 times in my past relationships. It would be unfair to my boyfriend if I were talking to everyone but him about my problems or our issues in our relationship. Luckily so far no arguments, if it does happen it’s better to work it out first.
No I don't. I think when you're in a relationship it should stay between you too, assuming it's typical relationship issues. I've always felt that by running to an outside source you're not helping the problem and you could potentially paint your partner in a bad light. Keep it to yourselves and work it out. Communication is key to a successful relationship and if you feel like you can't communicate everything including problems without outside intervention it might be time to move on.
Yes. If I'm too tired to hold it, I'll share it with them. But if I can still hold it, I will keep it with myself even if it hurts. But when I open up to them, I will feel relieved and only then will I be able to think well in solving my problems. Even though I know they won't be able to help me, it's nice to have someone to talk to.
Never vent to your family about your relationship unless you feel as though you might be in some type of danger. Friends are okay just be sure they are trustworthy.
No I do not! But I do come on GAG and try to get answers about some of the things he does.
I used to, but my mother is very judey so nah can tbe arsed with her constant relationship advice fml.
If I share my problems its only with one person. We have been there for each other since grade school. We have always had each other's backs. Every thing we say that is between us stays that way.
I tell my mama everything. That's it though - it's cause I know she's not judgmental. I don't tell anyone else shit..
I had to learn the hard way but i prob wouldn't share the bad parts with people anymore
I do talk to my friends about relationships but not really for advice but just to talk things out and share you thoughts with someone.
Never speak to my family about it, don't have that kind of relationship with any of them.
Depends and if I do sometimes I don't tell the fill story cause sometimes not everyone understands.
Depends. Some things I keep them where they belong. Buried deep inside.
I tell the stories after I get dumped, it always makes for a good joke down the line
Never ever. I am good at my own solving problems.
But the best thing i learnt to solve relationship problems is to simply move on 😅.
Only to my close friends but I pick and choose what to tell them, they don't need to know everything. Family no, they will form an opinion on your person and start changing the way they view them, if you tell your family your business.
Nope Im done with that shit.
From now on I'll just keep everything for myself.
No, I don't. When I need advice I usually go to my friends.
Nah but I'm not close with my family at all and I wouldn't with friends
I only talked to my mother once and it was a mistake.
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