Is it ok to hide my feelings?

[RenRen098]

I hide them a lot , i don’t want to be a burden on people. Writing them down airs them out to myself only so it doesn’t do much. I just bottle them up inside me

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Not so healthy in my opinion. That's the whole misinterpretation of guys like they think to be hard they gotta hide their temptations for tears.

The reason strong guys don't cry very often is not that they hide their feelings, it's because they think more positively and productively.

If you think in a more positive way, you don't find reasons to cry so much. It's not like, "OMG, this day at work was so hard [cry]". It's like, "Whew, this day was tough but it's over now [celebrate]!"

People who interpret things in a more positive way don't have to hide their feelings to avoid crying or complaining or getting angry so much. If you're trying to mimic them by hiding your feelings instead of fixing the way you think, you're doing it wrong.

[RenRen098]

thank you for that

[ZXCwWRQWz]

High five. One thing I recommend strongly to you is Stoicism, and don't be turned off by the vernacular idea of stoic which is unemotional. Stoicism is about cultivating inner peace and joy. It is about finding the positive in a situation without being delusional. Realist, you know. Like glass half full which is perfectly realist, not "I will base my happiness on the idea that someone else will buy me another drink." It's in the present. Or Buddhism has that too, but Stoicism is more streamlined with that hippie shit.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

But don't hide your vulnerable feelings like the temptation to get angry or cry. Ask why you have them in the first place. Like how are you thinking about something? And the mistake is to think everyone thinks the same way if the same thing happened to them. Some people can have equally bad experience and think very differently while another has same experience and think their lives completely suck. Some people's source of miseries tend to be other people's source of challenges; it's all in how you interpret the events around you and there's way more than one way to respond and think about it.

[RenRen098]

thank you it works , basically replacing my negative feelings

[Anonymous]

No, that is not healthy and it can cause some issues.

[RenRen098]

what issues

[Opinion Owner]

Stress for instance.

[Sour-rose]

No. Look at the movie "Smile" They will come out... or they won't and eat you alive :)

[Anonymous]

I sometimes do this also. Depending on the situation.

[mandyfire98]

Not healthy, you're gonna end up a ticking time bomb. You need to talk to someone or start being more expressive.

[panamared1]

Find someone you trust to talk with, someone that will not share what you tell with others

[RenRen098]

yes. But when i talk it’s they make me feel worse

[panamared1]

Then they are not a good friend

[panamared1]

Unless they are being honest. And that is what hurts

[boggboss]

Pretty unhealthy way to deal with emotions but meh

[Bigjake1019]

If you need someone to talk to I’m here

[RenRen098]

thank you

[Bigjake1019]

Your welcome