Should I Confess My Feelings?

[ChaChaChainsaw]

I (19f) have feelings for a guy (21m) who I met on a dating app. For more context we have been messaging everyday for almost exactly a month. Worth noting we also live in different countries. Over this time I have become more infrastructure with him.

Problem is I am not sure if he feels the same or not. Maybe he just sees me as a friend? I just value my connection with him and I don't want to sabotage it.

This is what I plan on sending him,

"Hey, I know this is sudden, but I just want to confess. Basically, I've gained romantic feelings towards you. Idc if you don't feel anything back or what not. Apologies if this came off as weird. I just think it's important for you to know. Still, I hope we still text since I genuinely value our conversations. I sincerely want the best for you. I'll always be here if you need help unless I'm dead 😎"

Wanted to keep things light and chill since I don't want him to feel and presume and the ending falls into the humor him and I use together. Also, it's worth noting I am willing and looking into everything we would have to deal with in our relationship due to the distance and I'm willing to deal with it, and if he feels the same him and I will have a conversation about it.

Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.

Yes

No

[Summeroflove]

Yes absolutely you should discussing feelings is super important that way at least you both know where you stand with one another. Not communicating will probably end up being the demise of any relationship.

That message is heartfelt and yes you should send it.

[ChaChaChainsaw]

We have discussed feelings in the past granted not romatic. Was more about open communication between us and I want to uphold it. If I don't send it today I will the next week likely just so he knows.

[ChaChaChainsaw]

*romantic (can't spell lol)

[Summeroflove]

The sooner you send it the better and it’s best to keep talking

[In_Trance]

You're wasting your time. Fix the search terms on your app too

[ChaChaChainsaw]

I am aware the distance is risky and makes a relationship very unlikely. For the search terms mine was local and his wasn't since he reached out first

[Abbycado]

Yeah, there is no harm in trying. If you never do, you miss the opportunity 100%

[ChaChaChainsaw]

I agree and that's why I am really contemplating it. Absolute worst case he gets mad which is unlikely. If anything he would just say he doens't feel the same. He is pretty chill

[Abbycado]

I wish you best of luck. Hope it goes well!

[Paris13]

To Soon. Try Flirting More to Bring out What he May Be feeling. xxoo

[ChaChaChainsaw]

That's my biggest concern. Part of me really wants to tell him now, but another part of me thinks it's too soon. I'm afraid the concrete for a relationship wouldn't be stable yet

[Paris13]

Thanks To Gag. xxoo

[polodude2013]

I say 💯 tell him the way you feel.

[ChaChaChainsaw]

I'll keep it in mind for sure. Thanks for the reply 👍

[polodude2013]

You're very welcome

[strateguy632]

1st.