Should I confess my feelings?

[BHooper]

Im in love with my friend and co-worker who has a boyfriend. I don't want to ruin the friendship we have built as it's amazing and the first of its kind. She's the first girl to really take interest in me and that's what drew me to her. She isn't the type of girl I would normally go for but her personality has hooked me and now I think I love her. So what do I do? I'm so sad knowing she isn't mine.

[JakeS00]

It’s really your call. Maybe tell her you like her beyond friendship but you respect her current relationship. It reminded me a girl as good friend I had who had a boyfriend and knew I liked her a lot. We kept it at close friends still. I don’t think there’s harm in telling her how you feel, just don’t be overly into it.

[LilyoftheLake]

My counsel? Be kind to her and be a friend, but do NOT tell her. If she doesn't care for you that way at all, it could end the friendship. If she does, she will end up confused and questioning everything.

I guess I can imagine that someday YOU are that boyfriend of her (if she dumps this guy, etc etc). Would you want her coworker to confess and confuse her?

[BHooper]

Yeah this is what my thoughts are. I don't want to destroy the relationship she is in because she's happy and I wouldn't want to see her upset. Plus I cherish our friendship to much to even run the risk of destroying it. I guess it's just hard seeing her in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

No, that would be repulsive