How do men feel when a woman says she doesn't want a baby?

[Anonymous]

Like do you feel turned off cause you want kids or do personally feel rejected?

I was on a date with a guy and he said he wanted kids and I said I didn't and he came off saying he strongly felt that I don't want kids and kept expressing that hoe much he felt it. I was just being honest and didn't want to lie to lead him on.

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I honestly don't know what he truly felt bad about weather he felt insecure or what? He was 41 and I feel that If a guy truly wanted kids he would have gotten it done around his 30's or late 20's..

[inhua]

men are allowed to have preferences and standards. it has nothing to do with insecurity

not all timelines match up. not everyone is a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer etc.

a man could be happy with his job as a truck driver even though he doesn't get paid as much as say a lawyer. so it's gonna take him years before he becomes financially stable enough to start a family and if it happens to be in his 40s so be it.

[Anonymous]

Well, he was a little rude, but you set standards on what kind of guys you want; men can have standards for women. I would not want to waste money or on a woman who does not want kids.

Most successful men work and make money to have a family and pass their wealth to their children. So you should go for a guy with no education and no money and have sex with him.

[Asker]

Just cause I don't want kids doesn't mean my standards are like shit, okay. I wouldn't want his money but only his love.

[Asker]

And I don't want his money, I rather have my own money.

[Lliam]

I never really wanted kids, so a woman like that would be ideal for me. I just never wanted the responsibility and expense. My wife and I are happy that we don't have kids.

[ArrowheadSW]

That's what I was looking for when I was a bit younger and more actively dating, was a women who didn't want kids. And then like you say, if that guy really wanted kids why didn't he start earlier?

[Asker]

That what I was wondering he was in his forties and was super cautious for kids, my thought we're is kids we're his major desire why didn't he get it done sooner in his life...

[YourFavoriteFriend]

First of all, thanks for been honest! Most guys want kids from what I see online but there are some of us that don't so keep searching! Good luck! ;)

[Berethor]

Both? if a woman don't want to have a baby from him then she seems to not like him enough.

[Asker]

That's what that guy said to me that I didn't like him or something

[Berethor]

Yea, as for not having children yet, it harder to get surrogate mother than to go to a sperm bank, also technically a man can have children at any age, unlike women, it's biology.

[Asker]

Well I'm not out to get kids so...

[Berethor]

So you are not good for a serious relationship, you don't care about family's heritage?

[Asker]

I do want a serious relationship but no children its just what I feel. No I simply don't care for heritage

[Berethor]

I don't think that it true serious relationship without children, and children are the future.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

What you say makes 0 sense. I could also say that if someone wants a guy/girl to make kids with then, they don't truly like them for what they are.

[Berethor]

Saying that is BS, because children make a couple closer, not the other way around.

[Asker]

Its not bullshit its true, these things happen and sometimes kids aren't even born normal you end up taking care of them instead of them taking care of you when your 80 something.

[Asker]

And sometimes having kids isn't even worth it they turn out spoiled and disrespectful and all the hard work, money and efforts you give to the kids goes down the drain along with your mental health.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I'm sorry but if you need a child to get closer with your partner, you are doing something wrong!

[YourFavoriteFriend]

@Asker you give me hope! With some many people wanting kids these days, I hope I could find one like you!

[Asker]

@YourFavoriteFriend thank you so much

[Berethor]

@Asker if you raise them spoiled then they would be spoiled, women who don't want children are spoiled usually spoiled. There is no better thing to spend money on than children.

@YourFavoriteFriend doing something wrong? no, children create a stronger bond.

[Asker]

@berethor this post was just to ask how one can feel not for an argument or nasty aggression using bad language and degrading other choices.

[Guy13]

I'm out... Done. She should have told me before the Deed...

[Asker]

Didn't lie

[Guy13]

I did not mean to imply that you did... That's inside the guy head thought process... sorry.

[Asker]

Ohh okay got it

[User3191989]

It's rare to find a woman like that

Usually because they always wind up changing their mind anyway

I for one, DO NOT want kids. the only reason i want one, is for namesake. Only child, male

[HighValue]

I want kids with the right person. If a woman didn't want kids, I would lose all interest in her.

[Abdulwahh]

Honesty is great well I would want kids but instead of forcing her ill discuss if she feels maybe in the six months to first year of our marriage she wants to be kid free I'm OK with that but if she never wants kids then I will find someone else?

[Asker]

Would you really do that leave her?

[exitseven]

I was pretty neutral about having kids. I did not NOT want to have kids but it would not have been a deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Well it depends on age, at your age most men would think you should want kids. If that was said to me now at my age I wouldn’t care because I already did that years ago

[Anonymous]

I don't necessarily feel anything, but I do want kids so it would be a deal breaker for me personally.

[Quartertolove]

Of course If he wants and hears that his potential wife doesn't want he will feel bad

[Asker]

You know I may not want kids but it doesn't mean that I don't love my partner bug I guess guys don't cars a about that, they probly think its shit.

[Quartertolove]

So what? :) That is not about love.

[Asker]

What you mean?

[Quartertolove]

You can message me if you want to have a conversation

[misogynistic_pig]

I don't care, it's not marriage material.

[Asker]

What about settling down with a person who likes to be happy and make you happy aswell, even if kids aren't in the picture?

[Berethor]

That happiness is short-lived, children are the future, you don't have an eternal life.

[Asker]

@Berethor that's your choice, not mine. Kids are not everything for a marriage. People have many children and end up getting divorced and remarry to different people and enter different families.

[Berethor]

@Asker no point in marrying a woman that don't want children, not worth the risks.

[Asker]

@Berethor whatever.

[Kaneki05]

I would thank her cause me too.

[MountAverage]

Relieved lol

[Anonymous]

Red flag!

[Asker]

Why a red flag?

[Opinion Owner]

Don't take it personal. But what defines women is the ability to bring forth offspring into this world. And since women typically want to give birth and raise a child when they don't one must wonder why. Some women will say "I don't want to ruin my body". Which I can kind of understand. But LIFE ruins your body lol. I'm just saying it can denote a sign of selfishness and shallowness on her part.

[Asker]

Its just a choice she doesn't have to want kids just cause her body is designed to have them.

[Opinion Owner]

See this is why I said "don't take it personal"🤣 RED FLAG! honey🙂

[Asker]

How is that a red flag saying I don't want kids?

[Opinion Owner]

I answered this. Now you're just repeating yourself trying to bully me into changing my stance. Have a nice day.

[Asker]

Whatever I don't give a shit.