Why does my friend treat me like this?

[Mina09]

So there's this girl in my class lets call her A I felt like she was using me for work and car rides as my mum gives her lifts home. She keeps asking me for help for work but I was ok with it cause u know friends help other friends but once she came back from holiday I stopped taking the train with her n stopped helping her as much with her work n she stopped tlking to me completely.
I have a friend let's call her R. She's my bestie. Well was. I feel like she's leaving me cause that girl from my class (A) she's been tlking to her loads. Which I understand if they wanna communicate but they walk away from me when tlking and my friend (R) stopped tlking to me in general like at lunch for 2 days she's been answering with just yes and no. N she's always going on her phone too! I've asked her (R) about it and she said I'm overthinking n she's not gonna leave me but her concentration and mentally R has already left like even a simple convo she doesn't wanna bother

[Chill_Thoughts]

Hopefully you are over thinking it, and you can all be friends. Right now because you stopped letting A taking advantage of you, it's normal for her to feel some animosity towards you (even if you are the one in the right)
So she is probably making it so if R wants to hang out with her she can't do it with you. The way you fix things is you stay true to yourself, if R is a friend worth keeping she'll realise she needs to stop treating you like this. As for A, most people grow out of that phase and who knows once she does you might even be friends.
Just don't rush to conclusions and let things play out

[NathanDavis]

if I understood correctly... you were the first one to stop helping her and to stop going to her as well?

if is this true, why would you change first towards her?

[Mina09]

Noooo u got it all wrong 😂 I stopped helping A because I noticed she was using me which I've been used before so I saw it after a while. Now A and R are like leaving me out and R is not tlking to me anyone either for some reason even though I thought were besties. Maybe u could read it again?

[NathanDavis]

but, friends help each other... why do you say you're being used

one of my best friends took me to school four years in a row... they never felt used, they loved it and loved me as much I did, them

was it something else or more happening or going on that make you feel taken advantage of?

[Mina09]

Which I understand but I'm always the one who helps friends... no one ever helps me even in the time where I needed it the most... I understand ur best friend took u to school for 4 years and honestly I'm glad u have made such a good friend😊 but in all honesty if A and I swapped places I'm 100% sure she wouldn't do the same for me or even try helping

[LemiaOfThunder]

They may think you'll forgive them as you wouldn't want the friendship to end.

[Mina09]

Hm u know that's true😅 do u think I should forgive them though?

[es20490446e]

How long have they been behaving like this?

[Mina09]

They have went on their phone when with me ever since I've met them. When I'm tlking about her leaving me and going to girl A then that's been 2 days

[es20490446e]

How long shall that needed to last for you to consider it permanent?

[Mina09]

Oh and she's never really tlked to me much like with me she's quiet and doesn't laugh even when I say something funny eg a joke

[Mina09]

Permanent?

[es20490446e]

2 days... come on. That's nothing ;)

[Mina09]

I understand I probably over thought some stuff but I feel like her going on her phone constantly when I'm tlking or being around her was disrespectful... and the fact she doesn't tlk around me or even smile is questionable... but what do u think?

[es20490446e]

If I was in that situation I would simply ignore them, till the come to me.

As they are the ones not wanting to engage, it's up to them now.