What are the 2 biggest problems in your life?

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

Are you capable of solving these problems? when can you solve it? how can you solve it?

[WhiteSteve]

The biggest one is my girlfriend and her illness. She’s been out of commission almost ten years now. She was irresponsibly prescribed increasing dosages of Klonopin, a benzodiazepine (psychiatric medications like Valium, Ativan, etc) for years and years, resulting in something called “tolerance withdrawal.” I kind of struggle with the science of it all, but the moral of the story is that it results in severe central nervous system damage. Nerve tissue takes the longest to heal, so even after the years-long process of weaning herself down and eventually off of the meds, her nervous system is still all fucked up. She’s better than she was now, but she’s still mostly housebound, and she suffers everyday. She went out to lunch with her family when her grandfather visited a couple months ago, and that was a HUGE step for her. It’s like that. And the worst part is that the same doctors prescribing this shit don’t seem to know about all this. They reject it because it’s not in their medical school books yet. She had to find a psychiatrist who would allow her to get a Valium prescription instead, because of some science-y thing, but it’s basically easier to wean off of (but it’s all torture). She had to literally teach this guy the whole thing. He was skeptical at first, but then upon researching it, he bought in. And not for nothing, he abruptly retired shortly after, and the guy who cuts my hair (also has been through this same problem by the way, so I’ve shared her story with him), his mother is very tight with that guys wife, they’ve all been to dinner together, my hair guy included. I forget how it was put to me exactly, but he seemed to think that he was very shaken up to learn that a medication he prescribed mindlessly to patients could do so much damage, like he retired out of regret. I guess he tried to introduce this to his coworker shrinks in group meetings but they weren’t receptive🤦‍♂️ But if your anyone you care about is ever in that situation, look up “The Ashton Manual”, and that will get you through. But it’s a ROUGH ride….

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ufqMh7pxc6g

So I’m basically just waiting around for my lady to be a functional human again. It’s real tough on me, and tougher on her. None of us deserve this.

My second problem is much more trivial, and that’s just having to pretend to have a job right now as I live with my elderly father. I’m here to take care of him, he’s disabled, but he thinks he’s fine. He’s relatively functional, but the biggest thing is that he needs someone to take him to doctor’s appointments at odd times during weekdays. I have plenty of inherited money, so that’s not really an issue, but my dad doesn’t want me to blow through it. And I won’t, since I have almost no overhead costs, I live nearly for free. I pay for gas, phone, and recreation. That’s it. So the money will stretch just fine. My previous job was one in which I could leave the house later in the morning, so things are pretty sweet right now. I can sleep in til 10, shower, get up and go play hockey, hit the gym, maybe play hockey at night, and then the weekends are when I actually “work”, doing all the household stuff my dad needs done. If he has a weekday appointment, I just tell him to make it for the morning and I do the same routine afterwards. And he’s none the wiser, thinking I’m off at work. I HATE lying to him, but he won’t let me be an adult and make my own decisions, and he won’t accept that he needs a lot of assistance that renders me unable to hold a normal job. I can’t just call into work every other week for a surprise doctor’s appointment for a UTI or something. I need total flexibility to make this work, not to mention I need a couple days to go visit my lady on the other side of the state where I had to leave her with her mother. And the biggest source of stress is that my dad has that “Informed Delivery” email thing set up for the mail, because of his Helpy Helperson friend😒, and he is OBSESSED with checking what’s coming in the mail that day. And the problem there is that I get mail too, and very occasionally it’ll be from somewhere that would blow up my spot: the unemployment department, the state health insurance, IRS letters, once I had a debt collector for some forgotten dental surcharge, etc…things that would tip him off to my situation, or just generally get him into giving me shit about my finances. So now I have to wake up at 7:18 AM, the earliest I’ve ever seen it sent, and check again at 7:30, then 8:00, then every fifteen minutes after that, because I have to see it before him to make sure nothing incriminating is coming for me, and if there IS something bad, I have to sign into his email from my phone and delete it, and then delete it from the trash. Had to delete the bookmark from his computer too. And if I got a PO Box, he’d question that too. So I’m stuck like this, six days a week. On a good day, it shows up early and I can go back to sleep, but lately, especially since holiday season started, it’s coming later and later. Today I actually had to check his email, and he got his hours before mine. So I’m just perpetually nervous every single morning. And the only way it ends is if he dies, which I don’t want either. Very frustrating.

[MCheetah]

1. Never enough money.
2. No life partner or love (girlfriend).

Problem one. It is possible I can solve this problem, but it won't happen quickly. I guess I'd just need to build up my career more and earn the money I'd want to be satisfied. I'm still another six years off from that, at least.

Problem two. No, it is unsolvable. Literally impossible. I can't currently make myself any taller to fix the shortness flaw and even if I had $200K, I don't think I qualify for leg lengthening surgery. It SUCKS because I had no choice in the matter.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

short men can have a love life too

[moonpie89]

Figuring if it's worth continuing my education. Uni is so expensive and time consuming. There's a job I really want but they want you to have a certain education level. At this point , I make enough in my field that I don't need to but I don't wanna be stuck here without any professional growth. I have no debt so going to uni will change that.

I'm in a relationship that is leading to nowhere.. we both know it's not long term even though we've been together for years. The problem is neither of us wanna be alone right now so we're just chilling. I'm getting older so it's not beneficial to stay in this limbo relationship. I know what I have to but I'm not ready yet lol

[Sour-rose]

-I still haven't gotten out of this city
-my discipline still ain't strong enough.

Solution: I'm workin' on it. I'm asking for help from family (which i hate to do buuut... gotta eat my pride and solitude desires)

And for the discipline... well I'm doing things I wouldn't have done when I was 22. so that works.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

what do you do?

[Sour-rose]

About wha?

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

discipline about

[Sour-rose]

Oh uuuh sooo going to bed earlier, focusing on what I need to do and not go play video games while time slips away, do the thing I didn't wanna do... but I gotta?
And a good one that's working is having my phone outta reach so when the alarm goes off, I won't just snooze and sleep

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Too much macho and too much reckless. No resolve very well. Feel like born at the wrong time. People like, "OMG, someone was murdered!" And other times like I jump into the burning building and people like, "Wait, you should call the fire people!" I don't stop and calculate these civilized things. I just do what I think is right.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I born for Roman gladiator arena. I pretend I aren't and try to fit in. Puti on underwear and pants and shirts and say, "How are you?" But I am not like that when building on fire, when enemies attack.

[ChiTown33]

1. Low tolerance for stupid people

2. The need to fight for justice in a very unjust world.

Yes. I don't suffer fools for very long. And I pock my battles. To do otherwise would ruin my peace. And I prize my peace above all.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

2. me too but we need a lot of money and power to achieve this goal

[ChiTown33]

This is why I say I value my peace above all. When I was younger I was and idealist and hot tempered. Now I realize this fight is millenia old. You can't defeat evil but you have to work everyday to keep it at bay.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

People can defeat anything if they really want

[tfan1]

Too many things to do and not enough time in the day to do them in.

[BarryLiverstone]

Stressful job and flakey girls

[jimmy2]

1 no pussy 2 no pussy