Do people describe you as resilient?

[CubsterShura]

People tell me that they think I'm very strong and resilient. I don't always feel that way but I always feel very honored to receive that compliment ❤️

[NathanDavis]

mentally and emotionally, yes... because I've been

physically, I would hope so... fortunately, I have not been tested that way I'd say and honestly I would not like to find out

I would like to think that I am, I really wish so... especially after seen many close ones to go through certain experiences and adversity

[CubsterShura]

I feel like I was more physically resilient in my martial art learning days but since I've been completely sedentary I feel like I'm falling apart daily lol

[NathanDavis]

lmao... I know what you mean and that can happen, I was the same and also into sports, but had to stop during the almost three years of pandemia, so going back to it is just a bit of struggle but

all the buildup you got and the basis is still there... if you've done it once, the second time will get easier, lol

also, you're still very young, you can definitely make a comeback haha

[CrystalShadows2]

It's a trigger word for me. My dad used to say it all the time: kids are resilient. It was his excuse for doing whatever he wanted with no concern for. It's minimizing and de humanizing. It means your needs don't matter. YOU don't matter.

It kind of irritates me as it seems dismissive, intentionally or not. It's like the person saying "you're resilient" is a way for them to not acknowledge the absolute suck we endured and actually help us. The hidden implication is "Resilient people don't need help. Resilient people don't need rest or care or nurturing bc they're resilient."

[CubsterShura]

I'm sorry to hear that it triggers you and I completely understand as I also have to deal with a lot of crap with no one ever standing up for me even those who tell me how resilient I am. It's not triggering, but depending on who says it I also find it irritating at times. I'm sorry if seeing my question triggered you in any way ❤️

[ChiTown33]

I would say "tenacious" not resilient. I'm a pretty easy going guy. But when I want something there is no quit in me til I either get it or till it's proven to me resoundingly it's unattainable. Resilient sounds like I can take a beating lol. And I'm a glass half full kind of guy. Life is to wonderous to be anything but. I look at whatever blows I take in life as what needed for me to grow bigger and better... I don't know maybe that is the definition of resilient.

[MCheetah]

Tenacious is more like "stubborn or refusing to quit."
Resilient is more like "won't stay down; won't physically quit."
Tenacious is more of a personality trait, while resilient has more to do with willpower.

Anyway, here's my gag video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lK4cX5xGiQ

[Grond21]

I haven't gotten that compliment before, but perhaps that's because I haven't been tested in the same way

[CubsterShura]

You're one lucky man haha

[Grond21]

I am. Though I have not earned it.

That resiliency is a gift also. One push comes to shove, people know that you can get through really hard times

[Alex8736]

that's a really good thing to have and being modest is a huge plus because it shows your a team player and that's what the job market looks for and to further add your not a primadonna

[CubsterShura]

I'm not that good in teams tbh, I work better individually

[Weapon77]

Doubt it. From what I can gather, people see me as kind of a loser who is way smarter than them in most ways but super dumb with relationships and stress and depression

[CubsterShura]

I'm sorry that people say those things about you. I'm sure you are really strong because I've been on the same boat! We are not weak because we feel hurt!

[Weapon77]

That's the weird thing. No one has really said that sonce high school, but their tones and eyes say that. I can hear and see the pity and/or judgment in people's voices and eyes when they hear me tell them I'm still single for 7 years in a row and I'm clueless as to how to find a girl I actually like AND likes me back. And then they offer no help. Then I'll have other things happen where I can just tell they think I'm broken. I wouldn't care except I do kinda feel that way and don't understand why no one tries to help if that's how they feel.

[Weapon77]

But true. Often going through all that translates into strength, but it's a strength people don't usually see of appreciate.

[CubsterShura]

Getting a girl alone is never that important trust me, I have no trouble finding a date but the struggle really is in the quality of men out there which is why I've been single for a while and prefer to stay that way

[Weapon77]

Right. And I don't want just any girl, just like you don't want just any guy. It's annoying there aren't more good options.

[MCheetah]

No, they don't because few people know me that well, but regardless, I AM very resilient and strong anyway.

[CubsterShura]

Not many people know me that well either but they don't have to know me very well to see that side of me.

[TallAnon]

The last 3 things I've heard me described as IRL is Respectable, Intelligent and Hard Working.
I've never personally heard anyone described as Resilient.

[Massageman]

I'd say determined. Resiliency is more of a tool in my opinion.

[Massageman]

What can be PERCEIVED as "Resiliency" could also be a function of having enough "cushion" built into your planning. With an extra: measure of time (for appointments), a few extra bucks (when dealing with money), a few extra types of spices and herbs (when cooking, a few extra laps (when exercising), etc., people can be a bit more at ease. It people are more at ease, they can have more reserve strength and focus if things go south: this may be perceived as resiliency. Whatever one calls it, it's basically a "fudge factor" for use- just in case.

[BJP21]

I get mad when I am supposed to, I laugh, I cry, I feel love. Id say I'm pretty resilient.

[BLP11520]

Yes, I have had 4 companies go out of business that I have worked for. Had to start different types of jobs on the fly to support my family

[SnowedIn]

Some do but they know not to use that word with me.

[Agape93]

More stubborn than resilient

[CubsterShura]

They are just mad you are resilient and not getting their way lol

[Agape93]

Lol. Any day alive is a day I piss em off

[CubsterShura]

Continue to piss them off, if they are offended by your mere existence they brought it upon themselves and deserve every bit of it.

[Agape93]

Agreed 👍

[Wiredone]

I've been told I'm thick headed and stubborn

[CubsterShura]

Today's thick-headed and stubborn is tomorrow's resilient, talking from experience 😉😉

[Wiredone]

Yes you are right

[Guardian45]

People have said I'm strong, but not resilient

[Nahid1707]

Good compliment for you

[Prince_09]

What resilient means?

[CubsterShura]

Someone who can bounce back from tough situations quickly

[Prince_09]

Yes I can do it

[CubsterShura]

That's great

[Prince_09]

Thanks

[Preeti161101]

Yes 👍

[UniquelyBasic]

Nahhh