How do I be confident and love myself?

[blackittencat]

I’m a black goth woman I’m trying to love myself I’m trying I’m sorry society just bullied me a lot as a kid. I want to be confident and extroverted

[xJeremyx]

You were bullied? Here's a trick I learned from my own experience of being bullied when I was younger. If what the bully says does not prove to be of any benefit to you, then just ignore it (unless it gets physical of course). I honestly hated when I was picked on, but eventually I learned to just ignore their mean words and disregard them. Words that are not constructive, but destructive, are not worth your attention.

Also, who says thick lips cannot be attractive? I think thick lips can look good on black women. And they look even more attractive when you OWN your appearance. So yes, confidence is key. Spend 5 minutes every morning, looking into your mirror and telling that person in the mirror positive things. "You are attractive! You are confident! You are funny!" Use specific statements whenever you do that, but keep in mind to not overdo it.

Consider why people around you, like being around you. Of course you are not going to be liked by everyone, nor is it a good idea to keep telling them you are not confident about your self-image (it gets tiring when one keeps hearing that over an extended period of time), but when you have genuine people who appreciate you beyond your looks, you realise you have more to offer than just a pretty face. And when you can come to that conclusion, you will find yourself being more confident about yourself. And confidence is attractive. (Keep in mind, these people should not be afraid to point out your faults, and help you to improve as well).

Flaunt your features! (Keep in mind, do not flaunt an overweight body, that just makes you seem arrogant and entitled. Instead, work towards developing a more attractive figure). Thick lips? Gloss em up! Frizzy hair? Afro time! Flat chest? Wear a shirt saying: I'm the perfect plank! Getting used to being comfortable in your own skin will 100% boost your self confidence and self-image. And trust me, people will notice when that happens. And it's even better if you can laugh at your own features (not in a self-depreciating way, ofc). Self-acceptance is the crucial key to self-love, and self-love is the step before self-confidence.

[xJeremyx]

You'll feel uncomfortable at first, but when you take time to get used to it, Confidence will show up.

And the next step is to develop a sense of humour. Being able to joke around is a hallmark sign of confidence. And people love that. Of course not everyone is capable of doing that, but you can still try. Make a witty remark every now and then. Tell funny life stories. Step out of your comfort zone, and be a more interactive person. Slowly but surely, you will develop a sense of humour.

[Keishio]

Being extroverted if it doesn't come natural is hard. I feel the same way sometimes but naturally I'm just a quieter person and feel I perform better this way. My advice for working towards happiness would be to focus on what you have and use your efforts to improve yourself and the relationships you already have with people over reaching out to gain something new. The grass isn't always greener and more than likely your introverted nature will just leave you tired out trying to keep up with all the new stuff.

Health, family and friends

[sheenagwapa]

you know there are people out there like me who cannot even function daily i'm always dizzy due to my rhinitis. my mind is always foggy and my neck feel stiff, my jaw feel stiff probably due to strong plapitations. i have tachycardia. i just feel ill most of the time but i forced myself to clean and forced myself to get up.


and last year i remember Easter Sunday i finally feel better with my horrible dizziness because i have ocd concerning balance so right now i'm just on thr physical
aspect not anymore with the psychological


my ocd is horrible it makes me feel hopeless and i aleays get horrible anxiety especially when it comes to physical sensations i feel like i'm always fighting for my life


my life is just full of sufferings. but despite everything i still feel so grateful because i founf Jesus.


so yeah love yourself be thankful that you are able. 🤗



when people see me they think i'm feeling well because i

[Sirenboobzilla]

Start by accepting that you can't exist for everyone. You can't worry about what society at large thinks of you. Focus on those who's world you exist in and just be courteous to the rest.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Things take time; but it starts with you treating yourself right and with high respect.

Think of yourself in a positive light, get your hair done nicely, get your nails done, practice good hygiene, go to the gym a few times a week.

Speak good things over your life on a daily, overtime you will built a strong confidence and self image.

[blackittencat]

That made me tear. I’m trying to at least be better. I don’t like anything about myself. My mom verbally abuse me, I’m still hurting by that. It’s not my fault I look like my dad. I end up with bad body disorder to the point I wear face masks still to cover my full lips.. because society told me my lips were to big. Sometimes I won’t even eat in public I think people staring at me. I wish I had a better mom so I can be confident like everyone else. I feel like I’m to broke to recover from the type of pain through

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Using the pain to strengthen you.

Big lips are the best kind of lips anyways on a woman.

Women get lip fillers for a reason because it looks good.

You can't see yourself as a victim because it leads you right into a trap of constant self pity and that will not help you at all.

[Msputiton]

Be proud of who you are.

And remember anyone who hates on you for being you is just jealous.

You have the courage to be you, while they acting like mindless puppets too afraid to express themselves.

[nawtee_me]

To build self esteem you must do esteem-able things. Set goals and work to reach them. Start small and increase them as you meet the goals. Get out of you comfort zone and do things. Even if it is only for a little while. Increase as needed to stretch yourself and grow. I know you can do it, I have faith in you….

[MCheetah]

I don't know, but the first step is probably "Stop being a goth."

[Anonymous]

Realize that God made you perfectly imperfect. And that there'll NEVER be a point in life where the world will judge you fairly. So love all God gave you. And enjoy this journey called life.

[Anonymous]

If you think about it, you don't have to be black your whole life. Michael Jackson for example.

[Lilchoco69]

I'm lowkey into goth women. They are so unique @blackittencat

[straightmax12]

Know what you bring into table in anything you do and don't push yourself too hard.