For example, I used to say to dudes, “oh Im not into dudes that smoke.” Some would be like “Yea i would never smoke, but I like to have a cigar on occasion.” Or “Oh I don’t smoke, I just do hookah at parties.” Or “Oh I don’t smoke but I love me some weed.” Lmao like mf do you not understand the words that are coming out of my mouth? 🤣 I guess some people assume smoking just means cigarettes. If you puff puff passing, you smoking. Hell if you eating edibles, thats even smoking in my book. A cigar on occasion means you’re smoking even if on occasion lmao. I remember one dude used to say “I would never smoke or touch a cigarette but i like the smokeless e-cigs” 💀😂 Okay so because its smokeless you smoke-free? Nahh patna! Thats like the people who say “I ain’t bi/gay but I also won't turn down some head from (the same sex).” What do these folks be thinking? Is there some new definitions in urban dictionary or something? #FeelFreeToList
Yes this is a matter of them clarifying. It's a good thing. You're wrong about everyone else agreeing that "smoking" means anything aside from cigarettes. That's what "smoking" means to everyone.
So I would argue, that what these guys are doing is actually a GOOD thing (and you should be thankful they're doing it. Otherwise... you'd end up dating somebody YOU consider a smoker)
So, these guys are going the EXTRA STEP of double-checking whether you consider the occasional cigar or smoking weed under the umbrella of "smoking". Since you, in fact DO include this in YOUR definition of "smoking"... these guys did you a favor. They were doing the right thing. You need to change-up how you ask. Clarify what you actually mean. Right-now, these guys are picking-up YOUR slack, when it comes to explaining what you don't want. 😋
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I don't expect intelligent responses from a person that inhales or eats poison, but yes, I've heard them all at this point.
Yeah, I experienced the smoking bit.
Other ones (paraphrased) included:
- Not into killing animals, but the hunting is cool. #fun/legendary
- Not into killing people, but the military is cool. 🤑 #glam
- Him agreeing with me saying, “Yeah guys who don’t/ can’t *directly* admit they don’t like a girl are immature” *precedes to give me mixed signals/ ghosts… even after I asked and said, “okay, but at least admit you don’t like me,” or “we aren’t compatible, right?”*
Ohhhhh yeah 😂 The people at parties that say, "I'm a vegetarian, but I eat fish." Since when are fish vegetables? 🙅
"I don't snore." Really? Who's the mystery man in my bed? 👀
Me: "I'm ready to go, just give me a second." 15 minutes later... "I'm coming already!" 5 minutes later... Me getting to the door. 😇
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Same with snooking and him occasionally smoking while drunk or hookah too lol
Or like I don't like drugs and them but a joint here and there is fine right? Lol no hahaThey may be trying to find something in common they think you'd enjoy - but then be trying to backtrack if they stear down a wrong path. They are just showing interest in you is all - you seem very down to earth and insightful so those are both very attractive qualities you have.
Girl. You won’t believe it.
Everyone knows I don’t drink/smoke I don’t do anything. I make it known to whatever guy I’m talking to. I told this dude I don’t do anything like that to which he replied “that’s really good , yeah I don’t either but I do have a little coke on the weekends”The "I ain't gay/bi. But I won't turn down head from the opposite sex" got me, I choked on my lemonade. This boy in hs said something similar and everyone on the school bus went "Whoaaaaaaa!" And all the boys ran to the front. It was too funny Lol
well I don't smoke, but some ask if I smoke after sex, I tell them, I'm not sure I have never looked down there
Eh, self delusional thinking. It's more about their internal values than you.
The only smoking I do is on a grill and it make the meat taste better. lol
Isn't there a big difference between a "habit" and a very occasional thing? I think so. If a guy says "No, I don't smoke habitually, but I have had a cigar once or twice at weddings, or when the Cubs win the World Series (lol for you non sports fans, that's happened only once in the last 108 years!!)
So that's not a smoking habit. But I have asked a girl if she smokes and her answer was "only when I drink good champagne, which I can't afford to drink"!2 of those "smoking " types do nothing but negativty. 1 actually does something and helps. The other one is eating not smoking! And the other one is mist, not smoke lol. So you are part of that odd group. No one knows what words mean anymore.
I once told a girl that I’m not into someone who makes short, cringy and mindless videos on social media to which she replied Oh I’ve stopped making videos on Tiktok but I sometimes post new ones as Instagram reels. Lol I unmatched with her instantly.
Listen, I NEVER criticize someone’s questions, but if you are gonna post stupid stuff, I will call you on it!
Yeah, I hear EXACTLY what you are saying!
I believe what they mean is they are a "social smoker" or another way of saying vibe follower. Is their intended terms they mean. They do what the social atmosphere kinda calls for.
Why does not turning down head from someone of the same sex makes you gay/bi? I don't want it or seek it out, but if a dude asks to give me a blowjob and it was in a threesome or such, I wouldn't turn it down.
I had a girl that didn't like anal sex and I was okay with but then one day she ask me to have anal sex. I thought she hated but said she does it anyways.
I'm not so stringent! If they were dependent on some drug or on alcohol in the past I would not be so tolerant of occasional use.
As far as I'm concerned, if it produces smoke when you use it, it's smoking. I'm not into edibles or vapes either but I consider them to be different from smoking.
To answer your question, yes it has happened.
I used to say I don't really drink, just beer.
I don't smoke. But I like to sell it to those who like it.
No I've never had anyone say that, only a few. Lol.
I didn’t understand your question but I’m a huge smoker (not any kinds of drugs though)
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