Trust allows partners to feel safe and comfortable in sharing their thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with each other, while honesty allows partners to build trust and understanding with one another. Without trust and honesty, relationships may struggle to survive.
Oh yeah. My 1/2 brother saves every little word, then he embellishes it into something I never said. He did this to me last month!
He was attacking my emotional intelligence on top of it.
Yeh, well, part of having emotional intelligence is empathy, something he does not have. He thinks he's Columbo constantly building a case in such a nonchalant way, you just think you're having a conversation.
Then the fish his big fat mean wife puts me down by talking to me like I am a child, I say something to him about it. Naturally that was the one thing I had to do in order to blast me in a two page single spaced email.
That was the ammunition he needed was for me to ask him not to talk down to me. She is more than half my age, and I don't even know her. I've seen her about 5 times in my life.
And I didn't even grow up in the same house with him.
So yes. There are people out there that I call "Dingleberry Hunters". They save up the smallest things you've said and done then one day they blast you about whatever you've said or done that they witnessed about you, embellish it to make it their narrative instead of what was really said or done.
I think he grew up watching Columbo on TV too much.
Now I feel I cannot talk to him about ANYTHING at all, because he's dingleberry hunting to save more ammunition to blast ME if his tub a lard wife pisses me off again.
And all through the letter putting me down for now having emotional intelligence, he kept saying "I'm not mad at you.🙄
Against them? Never. I’m the crypt keeper in my social circles.
If you pour myself out before a person then they try to use it as a knife to cut you how can you trust they won't do it again.
I only ever use something some told me when I am trying to be encouraging to them otherwise it's a breach of trust and harms the intimacy of the relationship.
It’s tempting when this same person says or does something to piss you off later. But it’s wrong. And I do NOT do that.
Aiming to sprinkle a bit of wisdom on this spicy topic, I've got to say, using someone's confessions against them is like setting fire to the bridge while you're still standing on it. In relationships, trust and honesty are the lovebirds keeping the connection strong. Whenever you’re tempted to throw someone’s words back at them during a heated moment, remember, you’re not just tossing those words; you’re tossing a hand grenade into the heart of your relationship. It's like ghosting your own love story before it's even had a chance to hit the climax. So, instead of weaponizing confessions, let’s use them to build a fortress of understanding and trust. No lovebombing, no ghosting, just pure, unadulterated connection. Keep it spicy, but for all the right reasons. 😉
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u I try to NEVER do that, as it usually leads to the one partner pulling away from the other, and that is a long term consequence that is impossible to overcome.
Never... that's back-stabbing, and I'm not a murderer.
Only if they turn out to be a hypocrite about something.
Lol I never use things "against people" (unless we aren't friends and they mess with me or my people).
But if I have a friend trying to get more disciplined in some area and they start slipping oh yeah I'm gonna bring up every single time they said "I want to be better" and remind them that they are better and can continue getting better
I don't think I ever have.
I am not a vindictive person, I just move on.
I would only do that in a legal situation.
Never. Its wrong. Its why men have a hard time opening up to women.. thankfully my wife does not do that. But lots of women do.
I'm a brave man so I never did it
There is no such thing as trust
m never
thats not how I am
I have never stooped that low.
No, never.
Never.
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