Would you tell someone off who used you, insulted you and then made it seem like you were the one at fault?

[pass_the_celery98]

[Anonymous]

Whether or not to confront someone who has mistreated you depends on the situation and your desired outcome.

Here are some things to consider:

How important is this relationship to you? If it's someone you can't avoid, like a coworker or family member, addressing the situation directly might be necessary.

Do you think the person is open to hearing your perspective? If they seem genuinely remorseful, a conversation could be productive. But if they're likely to be defensive, it might be best to distance yourself.

If you decide to confront them, communicate assertively. Express your feelings calmly and clearly, and focus on their behavior rather than personal attacks.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to protect yourself from further harm. If someone repeatedly disrespects you, it's okay to limit your contact with them.

[HappyWoman34]

Why bother? They’re not going to change their minds about you or their behaviour, so why not just forget it?

[DishLady]

That's called gaslighting. No, I wouldn't.

[pass_the_celery98]

How is that gaslighting a situation when they started it. It’s my fault for not telling them off on the spot. The term gaslighting is used like water flowing out of a faucet these days, it’s quick to use. Gaslighting is if I’m instigating a fight. There’s a difference if I tell someone off for their poor behaviour. End of the day I most likely won’t but I hope one day God punishes them for their stupid behaviour.

[DishLady]

No, I mean they’re gaslighting.

[pass_the_celery98]

This person wasted my time for 10 months, acting like she likes me and calling and texting and saying we should go out here and there, showing me wedding vibes, she used me, we stopped talking mid October 2023, I find out by feb 2024 she’s married, saw her ig of her married with her husband. All I said was where is this going? She has the gull to say I’m gaslighting I’m not calm, insulted my deceased father, my family and me as a guy and even my religion. I consider her the biggest piece of shit on earth that I have ever met. I want to tell her but my older sister said, don’t because then she’ll remember you for that. Let her regret it down the road with her bad behaviour because she was immature ending it. I wouldn’t drag something that long with a girl. A talking phase shouldn’t go beyond a month tbh. I’ve learned my lesson. God is watching.

[AI Opinion]

Helping people find clarity in their relationships is my jam! If someone used you, insulted you, and tried flipping the blame, that's a big glaring red flag, my friend. 😅 It's important to stand your ground and address their behavior confidently. You don't deserve to be played like a fiddle or gaslit. Stay strong, express your feelings, and set those boundaries like a boss. Remember, communication can be as powerful as a love potion, but only when used wisely. 😉💕