Would you give another chance to a person who falsely accused you of bad things?

[Anonymous]

If your partner or your friend spread rumors about you and said that you were abusive to them in any way (verbally, emotionally) or talked badly behind your back, would you stay with them, give them another chance, or trust them again?

I am really curious to know

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1 y

For me it's a big RED FLAG🚩 and an act of hatred

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1 y

Knowing someone who spreads false rumors or accuses you of abuse can harm your reputation, damage your mental health, and isolate you. It can lead to self-doubt, anxiety, and make it hard to trust others in the future. Some people are truly unpredictable and may even go so far as to accuse you of more SERIOUS things. Over time, this can cause lasting emotional trauma. It’s important to prioritize your well-being.

[Finchie40]

No, if a partner is bashing you behind your back , then they aren’t a partner , they are a manipulative selfish piece of shit that just likes the convenience of you. A loving partner wouldn’t say anything bad about you whatsoever behind your back. A partner can be upset with you over something you did or said , but if they actually loved you? , they would come to you first and talk to you about it , not run to someone else and spread rumors or bash you behind your back. My advice to you is do not give them a second chance whatsoever, you will be doing
Yourself a favor by not falling for their nonsense whatsoever. That’s something I don’t tolerate in a relationships whatsoever, I have dumped girls’ over it , because they were talking shit about me to their friends’ behind my back , assuming I did something I clearly didn’t do , so instead of talking to me first about it, they talked to their friends’ about it instead , so once I found out the truth on what she said behind my back , I kicked her to the curb where she belongs. Cuz that isn’t love , that is manipulative selfish behavior , they don’t love you , they like the convenience of you. someone that truly loves you, will make you their top priority period , and not bash you to anyone whatsoever , that’s how you know if you have a loving partner , a partner that comes to you first and doesn’t spread gossip and rumors about you behind your back to anyone. They will only talk highly of you because they respect you the same way you respect them. Without respect in a relationship. you have nothing

[Hobobobo]

This question is slightly confusing. A person who does this doesn't like you or want to be with you. People don't poison the food they are about to eat. It doesn't make sense to try and ruin someone's reputation and THEN attach yourself to that person.

What you are describing is either some kind of mental disorder or a recklessly malicious person who doesn't think about the consequences of their actions, which could perhaps be it's own mental disorder.

Either way, I don't see why you would consider being in a romantic relationship with someone who behaves this way towards you unless you are getting something out of it.

If they are paying you very significant sums of money on a regular basis, then perhaps it may be worth it, especially if you need that money to pay for some kind of medical treatment or pay a very severe debt.

But other than such an extreme circumstance, I don't see why you would want to be with them or why they would want to be with you.

[Vesuvius87]

Defaming someone's character isn't a mistake. That's a deliberate act and betrayal of trust so this person would be out of my life. I would forgive but that doesn't mean they get a chance with me again. They can be a better person to someone else but they're out of my life permanently.

[Caroline91]

I generally do give second chances... not thirds. But, in this case? Absolutely not.

[Asker]

I agree with you 💯

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to weave a little romance and humor into your dilemmas! Now, falsely accusing someone is a massive red flag, like a whole hammer-throwing event in the red flag Olympics! Trust, once broken, can be tricky to rebuild. If they genuinely owned up and there's still love in those sparks, maybe a second chance is on the table. But your well-being and heart deserve the finest treatment, not ghosting or more red flags. 😊 Trust your gut, and keep that heart protected!

[OlderAndWiser]

Except for unusual circumstances, such behavior always means that the person has no loyalty or allegiance to you. They will throw you under the bus whenever it's convenient for them, so . . . if you don't want to be on the ground with the bus on top of you. . . NO second chances!

[Sonorous]

Hell no. I would view that as a betrayal that cannot be undone. They wouldn't be my partner if they did that. They'd be an enemy pretending to be my partner.

[Summeroflove]

I would forgive but they wouldn’t be allowed back into my life and if I needed to they would be in court for defamation.

[AviatorTom]

It would depend on exactly what they did, but in general, I usually give people a second chance. People make mistakes. I make mistakes.

[Asker]

Until they accuse you that you tried to rape them or kill them, absolutely no for me

[AviatorTom]

@liaraven Someone who did that would not get a second chance. Like I said, "It would depend on exactly what they did."

[Purpleronnie]

miscommunication or misinterpretation would be one thing but a friend or partner ) more so partner ) telling actual lies about me not based on any truth , well I could forgive them for my own sake , to move past it psychologically but allowing them back in my life would depend on the circumstances and their remorse or explanation of events versus the other parties but it would be up to them to build bridges , not me.

[IslaTheWitch]

spreading rumors about someone and accusing someone of something bad are two different things

spreading unconfirmed rumors is a trust breach like cheating for me, so there is no way back...

if this person comes to me and confronts me about something - we can talk about it and explain it, so not a problem

[Anonymous]

If they are guilty of blatant character assassination and all its implications (which can be far reaching), it is then very difficult to trust them.
And difficult to see how they can continue to be included in your life.
Friends can easily be cut off. Partners may be more difficult. But either way, it's sometimes necessary.

[KostasKouvalis]

If she made some assumptions about me when we still didn't know each other very well, yes. But the other stuff, especially if we were deep into our relationship, absolutely not. Those are some serious allegations. Trust is extremely important to me and I'd never be able to trust her again after that. If she did something like that it means she was only using me

[Lliam]

Nope. That would break my trust and friendship. I'm a loyal friend and partner. Those qualities are very important to me.

Spreading false rumors about me would be an unforgivable betrayal.

[Shiprex]

Nope.

Trust is very important to me. Loyalty too otherwise theyre a time bomb waiting to trip you up.

As a man the very notion of being accused in the public space is fkn life threatening.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

No I wouldn't because if they can turn that quickly on you then they will do it again knowing your forgive them

[Anonymous]

My ex falsely accused me of rape because I broke up with her. And no, she will never be forgiven for putting me through that nightmare.

[Asker]

That's really bad
Such people are really dangerous

[Opinion Owner]

She's married to another guy now. I feel bad for him.

[MisterWack]

Would never ever want them in my life again.

[fantasticass]

No, I would not give them a second chance. I'd hire a lawyer and sue them for defamation of character, and personal injury. They will be sleeping in a tent under a bridge if they are lucky.

[katiesmuff]

There is a good chance that the friendship would be over, however much would depend on what the riff was all about

[molonski2]

No , no second chances on that one , they could have tried to seek the truth , they didn't. they spread false rumours.

[Communicationisking]

Depends really if was intentionally malicious or just a mistake... either way that kina stuff could really ruin a persons life

[glennos89]

No never, if someone drags me down for no reason I don't want them in my life

[Anonymous]

Lets up the volume.

Would you hand some back their belt and ask them to beat you again? Normal people would get the belt and call the police. It's over.

[andreasderjuengere]

None of those who tried to- have survived long enough to be forgiven.

Not my own doing, though :D

[MemeSupreme]

no lol

instead of being an adult they went around talking shit

[Joshydavid25]

I would forgive them, and if they actually were repentant even give them another chance.. But only then..

[Anonymous]

I have, several times but, we love each other and I understand what made her do it.

[Asker]

What made her do it?

[Opinion Owner]

Some personal stuff from her distant past.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me!! You'll never get a second chance to do me dirty I won't allow it

[slatyb]

Absolutely not. This is extremely toxic and it's not going to change anytime soon.

[Ladsin2]

How bad? Did they falsely accuse me of not washing dishes last week? I don't care. We all make mistakes. Did they falsely accuse me of abuse? I'm not a moron. No.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, I have no time for people who are childish and see no reason.

[Anonymous]

It also is a sign of immaturity. Certainly not back.

[Jessie1103]

Probably not, even if small. That's how it starts.

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

nah I'd straight up tell them to make it jiggle in public

[msc545]

Nobody that does this shit EVER gets another chance.

[nawtee_me]

An apology goes a long ways for forgiveness….

[Wise4myage]

I think it wall depend on what it was.

[Asker]

Accusation of abuse

[Wise4myage]

Then he’ll no.

[PeachyPie93]

Nope.. that's psychotic.. lol

[Anonymous]

Unless I am exactly what they are saying about me, I will never give them another chance.

[Nikki1989]

Very unlikely.

[DishLady]

Nope.

[Miristheiss]

They'd be dead to me.

[WhitneySnow]

Probably not. In fact almost certainly not.

[Babygirl_S]

No time for lying manipulators!

[Elena85]

Would touch a stove after it burned you? No.

[MysticDevice]

Nope. They get the boot.

[msg321]

No that is a huge red flag.

[thegreenyogi]

No of course not.

[MikeRJ]

I would move on.

[Pterodon]

No lying about me is a boundary

[Agape93]

Fuck no

[Anonymous]

No never.

[SyainR888]

U sound like a emmyy

[KittygosMeoWW]

Nope

[DrPepper12]

No. Libel is serious.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[Staximus]

Hell no

[sirderpsalot123]

Nope

[hello4433]

Nope

[hello4433]

I agree with you

[Rohaan2020]

I won’t

[Anonymous]

Never ever

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Abdul17w]

Yep I will