How many chances would you give someone who wronged you?

[emmily2396]

I think 2 chances are enough, if they do the same thing twice it's basically a choice. Excuses become pointless because it is clearly they don't plan changing anything, but they use them to give you the false impression they will do something about it.

[dantetheexplorer]

Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me

^ popular nursery rhyme

Anyone can make a mistake. But the problem comes with not learning or, in some cases, not wanting to learn from your mistake - and that's why the mistake happens again.

I'm no reptile, but even I understand that much.

[dantetheexplorer]

Thanks, lizard.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

As someone already said, depends on the mistake.

For the majority of cases, I use the rule of three.
First time? Okay, don't worry.
Second time? Passes this time, don't do it again.
Third time? It's over.

This isn't applicable in some cases, however.

[emmily2396]

What cases?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Well, making inappropriate/offensive remarks, behaving inappropriately, slipping up with some behaviors.

I've dealt with people with addictions, and the max number of slip-ups I learned to allow was two. It happens to everyone to slip up, so that should be understood.
But the third time just shows that the person is not going to change, so I quit wasting time and effort on that.

Cases I don't apply this rule, is cheating, or severely betraying my trust in any way.
I gjve people my full and whole trust, without any jealousy or string attached.
But once it's broken, it's over without even talking about it.

[Kendyrocks]

I would give two chances. I believe that everybody can make things right. And if somebody makes a mistakes they know about it. so when they do it twice. I can't anymore. im an understanding person. but there is only so much i can take. THe first time it is an accident, the second it s on purpose.

[Kendyrocks]

Thank you

[Secret6620]

I am the worse!!! I forgive everyone and give sooo many chances 😭

[emmily2396]

Me too but i am trying not to do it anymore

[Secret6620]

It's not a bad trait. Don't let evil people take away something that makes you good and special. Forgive them and don't fuck with then afterwards 🤫🤫🤫

[young_blud]

Just ended a second relationship with a guy I had a bad fling with two years ago. I had lost sight of the reasons he was not good for me and was reminded of how toxic the relationship really was only when we got together this second time. I'm starting to lose sight again a little bit and deep down I know I still love him but I'm never giving him a third chance.

[GrandmaT]

3
1st to try
2nd because everyone deserves a second chance
Then 3rd to be sure and because I like the number 3

[LesterJester]

One time and one time only. Life's too short to be wasting it on fk'wits.

[LesterJester]

Oh and this is based on past experiences where I've given people many chances. Learned the hard way.

[DublinRollerGirl]

Depends on what they did. If they cheated on me they get ZERO second chances. As the saying goes, if you cheat on me once, shame on you. If you are given a 2nd chance and cheat on me again, then shame on me for trusting you again.

[Deannybeams]

Generally, no chance. But, I have to admit, it depends on the offense.

I say generally no chance because I'm all about moving on and not keeping negativity in my life. I have to care for myself and look out for my well being, so giving someone another chance would only hinder my progress.

[menina]

I would give them just one more chance. Two is too much for someone who deceived me.
I had many people hurting me, so I learned from my mistakes and one of them was giving too many chances.

[qxeenrrose]

You know the whole “fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.”
I think two chances is pushing it. As for me I have trust issues but also easily talked into giving more chances.

[MM442]

I've given people including family several chances and they still never learned to stop! Their no longer in my life!

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

I wronged once, one more chance. Then they know what to do and not to do, any further offense and they've made their own bed. I don't take any crap from people.

[Spawnface]

Zero... Whatever impression of themselves on how I see them would be imprinted and I can't simply tell my brain to switch that off.

[Anonymous]

depends on the mistake. if its some fucked up shit like cheating, then its enough for it to happen only once to make me delete that person from my life entirely and never speak to them

[sweet87]

Never give someone the chance to wrong you twice if you wouldn't wrong them once!

[CuriousMufuxka]

One. Everyone gets 1 mulligan and then that's your ass..

[xTom98]

Depends on the mistake they do, but usually they get a second chance.

[Saurav11]

Idc. Am a fuckboy. Till the time she giving me her pussy for fuck than I don't have problem. Bkoz me too not loyal to her. Lol

[hellacray]

You mean cheating?

Hell I think just once is enough to make me not forgive them.

[Lgmswolf024]

I have a problem with that. I give much more than 2 chances...

[jamesdreedII]

Fuck me once shame on you.
Fuck me twice shame on me.

[Anonymous]

I give to many chances and forgive them after so it continues

[Dionigi]

Some mistakes you can't get a second chance