How many chances do you give someone who has red flags until you ditch them because you’re so attracted to them?

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Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

First I think the term red flags is grossly overused today. Second, a true, real, genuine red flag is just that. A red flag. An absolute wave off. You don’t collect red flags and decide after X number that you should move on. You find ANY red flag and you should be slamming on the brakes. In my foolish youth I overlooked a few and regretted that decision. Once I had some maturity settle into me I would walk away at the first sign of a red flag and oddly, when you have a high standard for yourself (and by default how you treat others) the real quality people drift into your life.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Red flags are red flags — not mere preferences.

The moment there is a true red flag, one foot is already out the door.

They would need to really come around and stop whatever abusive or toxic behavior (red flags) they were showing or else I’m leaving.

For me, red flags consists of things that will make or break the relationship.

Lesser things are preferences, which I can be more lenient about.

WhereIsMyMind · Accepted Answer

I've made the mistake of repeatedly taking someone back when time and time again they would treat me badly and make me feel worthless, never again. I don't have time for any nonsense anymore. People make mistakes and that is only human, but when they start making that mistake a common occurrence with no regard to how it makes me feel, well then I'm outta there.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the red flags personally. I guess for me what ruins things is if I know those red flags can’t be fixed from me stating how I feel towards them. Once I realize there’s no fixing, I’m out

coachTanthony · Answer

I give them only chances for sex and that’s it. There’s just two buckets …. sex bucket and relationship bucket

Nylife20j · Answer

You know your ways. My woman is bi when I came to her life. Slowly but surely she's reading the word of God. Because when I told her I've seen Jesus before. Yes she was in drugs cocaine she wanted sex from me. Now she's in jail for years. She reaps what she sow especially when I've lectured her. she said it herself that she's lucky to have me her friend Tammy as well. Yet my woman is the one ask me to marry her. But only one condition no drugs, no male friends, no secrets straight solid. She said right I love you. It's up to you. to give a person a second chance. my incarcerated woman is 28 and still has a lot to learn.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah I don't deal with red flags, I'm to old for that shit. This beautiful girl came into the bar the other day where I work. We got along great, she stopped on her way out and talked to me for an hour while her friend wanted to go. She's a yoga teacher and has a perfect body, is 27. She had me put her number in my phone. I still haven't called her because she's a cokehead. I don't need those kind of problems in my life at my age. She was drunk and offered me coke and wanted to take out her dope bag and do it right out in front of the bar. I told her she better put that shit away.

ZackBan · Answer

Too many I'm afraid.

Looking back at my last relationship the girl I was with definitely had some negative qualities which I refused to see and only focused on the positive.

They where not necessarily "red flags" because it's a bit subjective. However it was things I generally don't like in people but ignored about her.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

It depends pako, are you ignoring the red flags or are you blind to the red flags and of course it depends on the level of red flags cause there's a difference between flaws and red flags, accepting flaws is healthy, red flags should never be ignored and you should dodge them as soon as possible in my opinion.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I've ignored red flags once. I thought I'd just keep an eye out and take her at her word. I shouldn't have and ended it. To be honest I was knew it wasn't going to work out but was trying to hold on long enough to get laid. Thinking with your dick is never a wise choice but my dick is optimistic and very persuasive. Lol

Constatine · Answer

Normal things that can be annoying are more orange flags. Red flag is cheating, lying, beating the hell kut of someone.  Orange is warning max 2 times Red is instant exit...

red324 · Answer

Never had that problem. I usually piss off the crazy ones and they leave by themselves. Crazy girls aren't hard to get rid of. Usually they're ghosting me and in thst case if they reschedule twice I bail on her. Funny how they never seem to give a shit too. 🤔

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I can't give an exact number. Though, I'm not as patient as I used to be. I was very understanding and forgiving in high school, and got taken advantage of. Now, the fuse is quite a bit shorter.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If you're having great sex together and you know they have red flags it's very hard to stop seeing them.

nastyb · Answer

I would never take anyone with "red flags" too seriously as a part of my life. Understand that when you trust someone with red flags, you're just playing with your own life. Nothing good but only bad will come out of it

CubsterShura · Answer

I'd firstly give him a chance by communicating the problem but if the problem persists with no initiative to improve then leave.

curlyfirecracker · Answer

Fool of me once, shame on you. Fool of me twice, shame on me.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

One. Long enough for me to confirm it's a red flag and I didn't misinterpret it.

Grond21 · Answer

Red flags are red flags. I don't give someone more chances who has them, because then I'm just being dumb.  If you treat toxicity like it's not a problem, then it will follow you wherever you go.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Depends, but usually I'm calling it off at one consistent red flag.

spartan55 · Answer

Depends on: what those red 🚩 flags are, the nature of our relationship, how hot she is.

Catarine · Answer

Maybe too many, but we'll see about that in some time

dolemite58 · Answer

when i was younger and had my rose colored glasses on id tolerate a lot, as i get older and have my life more established i have zero tolerance for girls trying to act crazy or pull some sketchy shit.

Massageman · Answer

There is an old saying: "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on ME.

MJtheCoach · Answer

I’m older than I walk from girls with the slightest Hint.  When I was younger and didn’t have any experience i would chase forever

007kingifrit · Answer

its not a hard number it depends on how many flags and how bad they are and how much harm they could do you. generally no less than 2 chances

he-takes-a-part · Answer

I'd pose no red flags until I'm getting what I want

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Two zones sex only zone and relationship zone base on that she will get options

BLP11520 · Answer

Some people conceal their worst characteristics well. I am married to a narcissist

Radiate143 · Answer

Two. No more. Either they are really just users or we aren't compatible.

Tomisworthless · Answer

people love lucifer which is beauty gets you places in life and your flaws are overlooked due to ones fleshly desire

EmmaMary · Answer

Red Flag/Flags = Zero Chances... Period.

jaskin777 · Answer

I gave him 10 chances

collie22 · Answer

Not a good person I'm out, that's that

Sparkie460 · Answer

I give everyone 2 chances.

Jerre · Answer

All depends on what the red flags are for.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

I usually give a couple before I move on.

YAsQuen · Answer

sadly 3 time as of last count

OfDeath · Answer

3 chances.

Fuentes · Answer

Just one

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