Has anything I’ve done on this list a red flag?

[Anonymous]

The ones a marked in red I’ve done before or am doing. Also I’ve only got my ears pierced

[Anonymous]

It depends on the type of person you're looking for. Broadly speaking, if you think of red flags in terms of severity, you are at the bottom end of the spectrum.

The only things I even count red flags on this list are "been physically abused", "been depressed", and "hated myself"; these suggest you could have emotional scars that may make trusting others and accepting yourself difficult, which is commonly referred to as Baggage. Everything else is normal human behaviour; everyone has sleepless nights, everyone hides scars (physical and mental). For some men, piercings can be a red flag depending on how many and where.

It's OK, everyone's had a time when they've hated themselves, myself included. If you have baggage it's not the end of the world; you just need to learn how to control your feelings and not let your past experiences control you.

Try not to dive too deep into things like this. I bet one of these horrible questionnaires say it's a red flag to not have slept with someone before you're 20. You need to learn to Ignore and Remove activities that cause you heightened stress and insecurity.

It's OK to be conscious of your actions, all responsible people are, but life isn't a game of bingo. Just make the best decisions you can in the Here and Now.

[magiusX26]

used a list of things generally neutral in the "red flags" spectrum if things. here are some other things ypu could have listed and gotten the same kind of results because these things are not red flag types of activities:

watched a tv show

drawn a picture

read a book

eaten food

looked out a window

breathed air

turned on a light

heard a sound

blinked

this is the kind of activities your list consists of, so of course, outside of some sort of individual's extreme one off type of thinking you will get a no on red flags.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d wonder why you failed the class, got suspended, and were hospitalized but its technically not a red flag unless its a repetitive thing

[DizzyDesii]

And you should work on the last one— accepting yourself

[melanieeeB]

You like overthinking huh... and no, you're a human, congratulations

[CreatingWonders]

None of what you have done/did is a red flag, well maybe the lying bit but then it depends on why you lied I guess.


Red flags are like:
Playing video games 24/7
Name calling
Hitting
Threats
Living with mummy and daddy
Not working
Blaming others for your problems
Not taking responsibility
Pretending to be the opposite sex (I don’t mean transgender)
Liking children and not in a normal way if you get my drift.
Things like that.


(I had all this with the ex so I do see these things as red flags.)

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I wouldn't own my own house right now if I didn't live with "mummy and daddy" for so long. That's not a red flag. It's financially savvy and pride swallowing

[CreatingWonders]

To me living with mummy and daddy is a red flag. It may not be to others and that’s fine but to me if you live with mummy and daddy we are not getting off the ground. I had all that with the now ex and I would definitely not do it again.

[CreatingWonders]

Also if you really are 28, you’re not that old my ex was 42-43 and still living with mummy and daddy it still does at that age you should have your own place whether it be owned or rented. I’m 38 and I have my own place if I didn’t I’d probably be renting somewhere.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Ok you're right. 42 is too old to live with your parents lol

[BCA6010]

None of those are things are really red flags, but speaking from experience, deep set insecurity from depression and abuse can decimate a relationship in the long run, especially if it prevents you from opening up. It's one thing to honestly recognize your own shortcomings, but it's another entirely to use them as excuses.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, these are red flags:
You getting peircings.
You failing a class (unless it's p. e. or something else thats useless toward your career choice/interests)
You fake smiling.
You hating yourself.
You telling lies.
You drinking alcohol.
You hiding scars (if self inflicted)

[Quackthulu2]

Binging and hiding scars perhaps, depending on the context. But who hasn’t done those at one point or another.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

How can any of these be a red flag? It would easier to mark off the ones I haven't done. That called life

[Razp_Sorbet]

I've done a lot more than that andi don't think Amy of it makes you a red flag. Some maybe if you're not remorseful

[exitseven]

nah, you are just as crazy as the rest of us.

[boobliker]

sex or lovemaking is not shown but I think you would make a fine girlfriend and fun to be around and with

[TrillXHippy]

Not to me it’s not. What you’ve done so have I and well it sucks. Except for 10 of them

[DarkLegacy]

Nope, no red flags by you.

[Anonymous]

Not the worst but sure possibly

27 to my 32

[MementoMori777]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Not really.