What are some red flags for you?

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What are some red flags for you?

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Stashing, constantly lying, always running late, moving the goalposts, cheater, has a filthier mind than I can tolerate (keeps a porn stash full of things weirder and than anything I would dare go near), manipulator, will make you agree to things on false pretenses, disrespectful, kisses and tells all her friends (but won't let you privately tell someone you trust), threatens to call you a rapist if you don't do as she says, fakes being pregnant to control you, you catch her in the act of trying to jerk off an animal, submarining, Indian giver, breadcrumbing, afraid to meet in person, single mom, writes masochistic literature envisioning herself being brutally murdered in erotic ways, has a my-way-or no-way attitude (will torch the highway so you can't escape!), demands you only communicate in the chat of a dating site that charges you to use the chat, gets angry when you want to progress things further, accuses you of sexual harassment for a friendly greeting, trips over her own two feet and curses Trump for it, has been in jail for an actually serious matter (not some utter nonsense reason, as there are plenty of those and I wouldn't hold that against her), into drug use, alcoholic, emotionally unavailable, long history of institutionalization for mental illness, rude and prejudiced if not an outright bully toward you upon the first time you show interest in her...

I've encountered examples of all of these dysfunctional behaviors. If a woman does any of this, keep her at arm's length at best, or cut her loose! These types of women are ticking time bombs!

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

- Being on the fence or unclear about ever doing anything if you ask her out.
- Being cool with you in private but then acting different with you in front of others (MAJOR RED).
- Keeping communication with her ex.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

People with bad hygiene, people who have never had a job, alcoholics, people who are homophobic/transphobic/racist/sexist, people with emotional immaturity & have poor communication skills, people who are unfaithful & lie a lot, people who are rapist/abuser apologists, and people who hate sex workers & don’t view them as people who deserve respect or view their work as a real job.

mrsalyssaefron · Accepted Answer

people who say they’re into you but only seem to come around when it’s convenient for them…

jennifer_bloom · Answer

An impatient guy or a materialistic one.

Anonymous · Answer

EVERYTHING I SAY IS FROM LIFE EXPERIENCE SO LISTEN TO ME

1) if she has no Christ in her
2) she does not believe Christ is above the DOME yes there is a dome over the earth outer space is fake

https://www.youtube.com/embed/LMr6Qb0_5kM

3) if she stays on social media all the time big red flag
4) if she only treats some men kindly, but not all men good
5) if she is willing to share you with other girls sexually
6) when she does something good then something bad at the same time ( she is testing to she what she can get away with )
7) when she says she needs a man to make money to make a living ( PROSTITUTE )
8) if she shakes her ass on video ( she is calling for a mate )
9) love of money root of all evil - 1 Timothy 6:10
10) the chance of you finding a good women is 3% which means 97% of women are garbage all those girls in school waste of time

Ecclesiastes 7:28

while I was still searching
but not finding—
I found one upright man among a thousand,
but not ONE UPRIGHT WOMAN among them all

11) do not follow a piece of ass to hell just cause she is HOT

Proverbs 5:5
Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell

the majority of women are sex objects and prostitutes
so treat them as such

do not be kind to them
they are going to the pits of fire in the end
they do not care about you

I LOVE YOU BECAUSE I TELL YOU THE TRUTH
and even if the truth hurts
I would rather you save yourself from what many men
did not know until they got older

DaveJord · Answer

Any level of anxiety or insecurity in a person, from the start is a Red Flag. If they display insecurity or generate any type of anxiety for me then I consider it a Red Flag and move one.

When two people met and want to be together they make it as easy as possible to be with that person without anxiety or issue.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

I haven't dated a girl before, so I only have 1 Red Flag so far:
I will not tolerate any form of control (over me) in any shape or form. No exceptions, whatsoever.

For example, when in a relationship with someone, it'd need to be as "lighthearted" as possible.
OR, keep the usual/"traditional" kind with those "unwritten rules" to a minimum.

Anyway, if my "example partner" would try to control me by accident, only "repeat accidents" would be bad.

But if it was done intentionally however, either it could cause my "affection" to plummet, or can break the relationship at the drop of a hat. Even if it was going well up until then.

abc3643 · Answer

Flag of Vietnam Flag of China Flag of Soviet Union You get the idea...

HighlyVolatile · Answer

Oddly enough I never had any, or at least not formalized and written down. I tend to be a holistic type in how I view people. I take the bad with the good, and I always expect some bad to accompany the good. I might have been more successful with my relationships though if I made a list of red flags. It took me a while until I found my now-wife who was so compatible with me.

SynthKobra · Answer

-Impulsive (always high, eats a lot, drinks a lot, uses excuses like "treat yourself!)

-No drive or goals in life i. e. expecting a rich guy to just take care of them with nothing to offer in return

-Likes to talk over people so they can talk about how cool and interesting they are because clearly nobody else has had a cooler life than them

-Makes phone calls/texts a lot during a date. I had a girl do this. She was super fine. She also wanted a second date after. But I was working 70 hours a week at that point in my life and my time was limited. If she couldn't wait to talk to her friend for 5 minutes on the phone then there is no redeeming yourself. You clearly don't respect my time enough.

Whateveryousay99 · Answer

1. Entitlement is a huge turn off for me.
2. Manipulation traits
3. Single moms
4. Pretending she knows what she is talking about when it's clear she doesn't.
5. Women with dirty houses
6. Laziness
7. Always the victim
8. Overweight
9. low sex drive in the relationship
10. biggest one is a woman with a high body count

Anonymous · Answer

- Being too clingy after just meeting
- Uses drugs (I just personally don’t want to be with anyone who does drugs)
- “Why can’t girls just…” “Guys like me never…” type attitude. No one likes a guy who complains about silly things. I guess ‘pick me’ boys.
- Bad hygiene. Like seriously, it’s not ‘gay’ to wash your as*es!
- Doesn’t show respect towards others
- Terrible language usage (hard r/n word, r slur, homophobic slurs, racist slurs, etc.)

Kabluie · Answer

Just don't lie to me about important stuff. I'm quite an open book if I like you, and pretty understanding about anything that I'm not a hot head. So when the respect isn't mutual, it goes downhill from there.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

1. Do not view the important things the same (faith) 2. Momma's boy 3. Cheating 4. Dustiness ( one word for a group of digusting behaviours since its so much)

ThulrVo · Answer

If a partner/potential partner attempts to control or change me in any way. I will not compromise myself for anyone, and I would not want anyone to compromise themselves for me, either. If someone can't accept me completely, and encourage me to be me in every way, I'm out. Oh, anther red flag would be if they kill children.

MysticDevice · Answer

🇦🇱 Albania
🇦🇴Angola
🇨🇳China
🇹🇷Turkey
🇻🇳Vietn- oh you meant the metaphor.

People who flirt with others in front of their parnters.
Drug users
People who call into work every chance they get.
People who expect you to provide for them and give nothing in return.

Yurrasis · Answer

Disrespectful, two-faced, constant self-deprecation, narrow-minded, egotistical, leech, manipulative... etc.

These go in many ways. Being disrespectful can go from not respecting boundaries to not respecting other's.

admles · Answer

Anyone who demands passwords or wants to go through my private stuff - instant red flag

Smoking or doing drugs

Silent treatment - one warning, then next time is a break up

Saying you're fine when you're obviously not - major red flag

Valso · Answer

Any sign of religiousness - that's the biggest red flag past which I don't continue.
Also, any hint that he/she has cheated on his/her ex. People who cheat on their partners will always do it.
A third red flag - unstable personality, often losing control of their own emotions and bursting into rage.

JoyGirl · Answer

~ Not enough attention.
~ Video game addict. I don’t mind him playing games (I play video games), but there comes a point when it is too much…
~ Asking for nudes (I don't know what is up with guys and nudes…like tf).

exitseven · Answer

If a girl owes money all over town. If she drives a beat up old Camaro with fast food wrappers all over the passenger side. If she has bad teeth and bad breath.

dragoblack · Answer

Usually any kind of manipulation or stuff that would usually be used in a scam.
Delt with one who wanted me to use one of my emails to make a Facebook account for her because hers got banned from what i could tell looked very bot like. She handledherself like a scammer too. She, was quick to use pet names and ignored me, when i said i wasn't interested in hookups.
It was all sorts of red flags.

MCheetah · Answer

She agrees with people no decent person should agree with, like feminists, Joe Biden, Kamala Harris, Nanci Pelosi, AOC, etc. Just cut and run, at that point.

Medicalbug · Answer

Lack of communication. If someone doesn’t listen and doesn’t speak, it feels like being in a relationship with a rubber doll that moves. I don’t mean talking 24/7, but conversation is important, especially if it’s about important things.

NorthAfrican · Answer

1) les 2) had a lot of exes 3) has a lot of sexual experience  4) drinks 5) smokes 6) posts too much pics of themselves on social media 7) tries to talk sexually very fast  8) keeps ypu a secret  Etc

sage2021 · Answer

When a guy says "Trust Me", immediately don't trust him and the red flag goes up real fast!

wankiam · Answer

this one is my fave

MartianBuddy · Answer

Doesn't like dogs, keeps telling me that I'm going to leave them, never being honest about how they feel, being rude to me or others, being obsessed with anime or something similar etc.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Fat Feminist Dominant Career oriented Higher education ie masters or phd Slut past or just slut behaviors or dress Entitled or materialistic

DJaQueef · Answer

Upper deckers, reverse kangas and Cleveland steamers are always a red flag. China also has a red flag, if that helps.

Cathy7734 · Answer

A person who doesn't have active listening skills unless it's about them.

Purplemonkey242 · Answer

Wanna be tough guys, cry babies, bad hygiene, unfaithful, doesn't take no for an answer, liar, abusive, always in trouble, manipulative.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

When she says "i swear, i don't chat with other guys" when she is constantly on her phone texting but hides it from me

AviatorTom · Answer

148 countries have red in their flags, including China and Switzerland, which are mostly red.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Red flags , green flags, black flags.  Semaphore , the language of love.

TOQGYDL · Answer

When someone has a red shirt. You can use that shirt to put on a stick, that becomes a red flag.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Someone holding a red flag. That’s a red flag for me.

SHB84 · Answer

Constantly mentioning her ex. Asking you what your sign is when you first meet and actually letting that determine anything. "I never do this"... Always involved in drama.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

Liars. I don’t like that shit.  Other girls involved? I’m out.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Post in social media all the time Do drugs Drink excessively An asshole to people for no reason Liar Stripper or any job like that.  Over 5 exes

Joker_ · Answer

this is a red flag

Leoxen · Answer

If she/he says ''I don't think i deserve all the things you do for me'' it's because they have probably fucked up in the past and are aware that they will probably do it again.

bean2k21 · Answer

When they don't follow the rules And think they're too good to be disciplined.

ragooo8 · Answer

If she doesn't shut up about her ex and what an awful abusive man he was to her.

Anonymous · Answer

Pausing, silence, shutting down when asking why whenever a visit is wanted.

Kyle-Jackson78 · Answer

im clingly to my boyfriend Like im like helpless puppy following its owner lowkey

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

She always has to have the last say or comment in a conversation. If that's the case, then she is a control freak and/or narcissist

Babygirl_S · Answer

*More than 6 girlfriends or casual sex  *Likes to show off his money

Anonymous · Answer

A guy that refers to girls as “females” “bitches”, someone who always says everyone does them dirty,

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Drug use beyond weed. And alcoholism. Plus yuppies.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@jaylin_ Some red flags for me are having no shared hobbies, no common political & religious views, & spontaneous personality.

Anonymous · Answer

The biggest ones for me are the following, all of which are closely related. -- Feminist -- SJW -- Victim mentality

007kingifrit · Answer

pronouns in the profile. dead giveaway that she's trash

Waldoe · Answer

pieces of cloth, attached to a flag pole, that are Red

Swordnen · Answer

Liars...  Drama girl The one who thinks she is daddy's little princess

mobiusforniner · Answer

Chinese flag. Soviet russia flag... lol

sensible27 · Answer

Turkey might have a pretty big one

dpy87 · Answer

Women that see your bank account over your personality.

Grubhub · Answer

I met foreign women and immediately they talk about their job. They want men with cash

Anonymous · Answer

You're 16 years old listen to this advise if she talk about her ex more than once. Run run before it's too late don't invest a moment into her learn in an easy way that will save you lot of headache

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I see no red flags until it’s too late 😇

Anonymous · Answer

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BrianKissinger02 · Answer

Certain characteristics being thrown off by toxic people.

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