What are your greatest red flags?

[Anonymous]

For me they are:

A) Appearence wise:
Smoking, drinking, tattoos, weird hair colours and weird hair cuts, poor hygiene.

B) Character wise:
Abusive, sloth, cheapass, no manners, no intellect or cultivation, addictions like gambling or mobile phones, or pc gaming or sex, masochism, murderous/misanthrope destructive thoughts and tendencies, fear of commitment.

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+1 y

being too stiff and inanimate and with no sense of humor is a red flag too. noone wants to marry a marble statue. also a man that is too easily scared, is not suitable to be a family protector. also when people have this big existential vod on their look and permanently look sad, i know trouble is ahead. good hearted people are light hearted and content by nature.

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+1 y

also narcissistic behavior traits like gaslighting, never taking responsibility, unnatural self obsession, trying to isolate you from others, manipulation of sentiments and confidence etc. may no woman or man ever fall for such a person, but they unfortunately do all the time.

[Anonymous]

Too many red flags to list but what I can think of I would avoid

1. A guy who can't tolerate imperfections in other people or doesn't give you a second chance if you make a mistake
2. A guy who doesn't tell you what he is thinking and ghosts you when he is not happy
3. A guy who assumes your "dating" or "involved" simply because you are in the same room as each other and talking to each other when no emotional rapport has been established
4. A guy who chooses looks over personality - cause then you might cheated on in the long term
5. A guy with degrading sexual kinks or expresses degrading sexual desires towards woman
6. A guy who thinks its okay to have sex with people he has no plans to marry
7. A guy who judges people by their religion or culture or race or income or social status and not by their personality
8. A guy who evaluates you without first having a conversation with you to see whether he likes you or hates your personality
9. A guy who treats everybody exactly the same way
10. A guy who avoids you not because you are bad or evil but because he thinks you are weird.

[Asker]

maybe thats why you are single in your thirties. just kidding most of these are logical.

[Natalia_Atxa]

POOR HYGIENE is a very important one. Damn, some people really need to have a shower.
Also manipulative, agressive, abusing men... Or liars, I hate when someone is constantly lying and deceiving you in order to get sex or to impress you... Lol at the end you always find out the truth. Also men who mock and make fun of others all the time, like trying to feel better about themselves by doing that.
I don't know, I just like funny, mature, inteligente, confident and light-hearted guys. Well, we all like that, don't we?

[UnaKaizen]

respect physical affection honesty attraction compassion communication patience good hygiene compatible sexually health conscious self control non violent

i stick to what i want and go from there. dont really think in terms of what i dont want. too nebulous.

[GreedyGiver651]

Judgmental opinions, manipulative behavior, racism and sexism, strongly held religious beliefs, drug use, tendency to jump to conclusions, jealousy, holding grudges, only shallow conversations, selfishness.

Those are most of them. I personally really don't see how some of yours make sense but it's your life I suppose. I just hope you don't judge others who you aren't in a relationship with.

[memyers13]

Well we wouldn't get along lol.

For me it's anyone whose right wing, watches 3 or more hours of tv daily, or has a lot of drama in their life by their own hand.

[Asker]

at least you are honest lol. good point about extremist ideas and too much tv though.

[memyers13]

Why would I lie lol? And yeah don't listen to the people saying you are setting your standards to high. They are high but it's not unobtainable.

[Asker]

all my family, friends and some acquaintances are like that, so i know first hand its not a unicorn seeking situation.

[strangytie]

Appearance wise) constantly spitting, doesn’t shower or bathe often enough

Behavior: Doesn’t act nice or sweet in front of anyone but me or at all, insults other women and men to seem above them, can’t talk to me like a friend even if we’re not dating yet, talks about my body in crude ways or touches me inappropriately

[Ghost_Woof]

A) appearance. If she dresses hella fancy she's high maintenance. And fuck that bad news. Princesses are inpleasable...

B) character wise. Shallow, size queens, materialistic, not financially educated, lack of ambition for career, insecure, jealousy and trust issues, non-adventurous (in and out of bed),

It is best not to hide your insecurities from your partner. Ur instead to talk about them together so you can work on. A solution that works for both of you.

[JSmuve]

Fat, lazy, crazy, judgmental, anger issues, insensitive, overly sensitive, too emotional, can't compromise, manipulative, moody, abusive, always in debt, irresponsible, childish, conceited, being a bitch, smoking, alcoholic, buying stupid shit she doesn't need, needy, selfish, uncaring, prude, stubborn, can't take ownership over her mistakes, compulsive, mental issues, inconsiderate, entitled, demanding

I'm pretty sure 99% of women have at least one of these qualities

[JSmuve]

Also, unhygienic, complains but does nothing about it

[umngopher1991]

Being selfish and criticizes everyone but herself.
Bad credit
Baby daddies, criminal-like ex-boyfriends, or just too many ex-boyfriends
Screwed up parents/absent mom or dad.

All of this screams "I'm irresponsible and can't make good choices in life. I'm also selfish." If I date this girl then all of her past and current problems that she refuses to solve will fall on me like a 2-ton anvil, and I don't want any part of that.

[omgjassy]

Not a natural hair color, poor hygiene, smoking, doing drugs, controlling, selfish, supremacist and racist.

[dashing13455]

The red flag i have is if they
1. Do drugs
2. Smoke
3. Drink a lot
4. As to borrow money a lot
5 owe a lot of Money to people

[memyers13]

The money thing. Good point I don't like moochers lol

[dashing13455]

Yeah , they will always have to use my money for stuff since they will be having to pay people back

[DaChillCookie]

When they stand me up, act shady, are too selfish, aren't loyal, aren't honest in serious situations, and have poor hygiene.

Fuck no lol

[Pluto4prez]

Drug use, excessive drinking, bad spending habits, bad hygiene, no goals in life, no sense of humor, narcissism, being judgmental, no hobbies, no interest in learning or trying new things...

It's not a complete list, but you get the idea.

[cinderelli]

Smoking, clown-ish dressing, smelly etc
rude , inconsiderate, lacks basic mannerisms, too dumb to hold a conversation

[Legendiehard]

Well I am addicted to whatever I start doing.. It could be novels gaming.. . I have weird hair cut bahhhh.. Poor hygiene.. Hate my hostel food🤣🤣🤣🤣

[readywriter]

poor hygiene, tattoos, crazy hair, drinks till drunk, smokes, cusses, bad manners, lazy, has to be with and tell girl friends everything. Lies

[Anonymous]

easy to agree to all that
but more covertly that only time will reveal,
how little she cares for me and desires my body

[Opinion Owner]

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OK thanks, enough already

[Elementis]

If the voice is bad, there's no relationship to be had. If you can't listen to them all the time, you're bound to start to whine.

[leifleoden]

You hit most of the major ones. Only two I would add are resentful and quick to anger.

[midwest1228]

Bad hygiene, abusiveness, people with no originality, people who love drama.

[Seppelson]

For me it is talking about money. I hate people who are always talking about there money that's disgusting

[Patrickjv]

Poor sense of humour, passive, fiery temperament.

[Patrickjv]

And doesn't like Shrek.

[yum1i]

Shrek is love, shrek is life

[AlexDelux]

When she replys hours later, but only every minute

[haraldj]

Leftist. Libertard. Cuckservative.

[yum1i]

So to be with you, the person has to be perfect

[Asker]

no it has to be a normal human. all my friends family and aquaintences are like that.

[Anonymous]

Hygiene, doesn't keep fit or diet somewhat.