Do you hate being your own gender?

Question

do you hate being a man/woman?

TalynMere · Accepted Answer

Yes and no.

I am a man, but for my entire life I've felt "feminine". I was always way more empathetic than the rest of the men I saw. I cared more, I put more effort into friendships, I understood people better. It was getting to the point where I was seriously concerned because it was so rare that I felt I had to be fundamentally different or broken in some way.

However, I never really got a good enough answer on my feelings from anyone, and the questions I was asking just seems to pull in all the vitriol from everyone who's been hurt before. I never got a clear answer and all I got was alienation from the only people who would have been able to help me. Seems like everyone in the world was convinced the only possible answer it could ever be is that I'm trans, but I never got a satisfying enough understanding or enough trust from people to know I would be more than a fad, that it was something "real".

Inside, I'm bubbly, caring, sensual, friendly, helpful, I just like life and like to have fun with the people around me. I feel more at ease when I can act like this (usually only online). I want to dress more stylishly, I love the variety in women's fashion, I like the idea of looking "cute".

However, outside, I'm a 6ft large imposing man with RBF who doesn't notice when I'm staring holes into someone during a conversation. I'm intense and intimidating, and it really makes me sad to be like this, but I don't know how to not. I'm probably some kind of neurodivergent which makes it all even more of a pain in the ass to navigate.

At the same time. I don't feel comfortable going fully into being more feminine. I enjoy the power and sex appeal that comes with being strong and intimidating. I know that many many many people would not look at me the same if I was more feminine. Not even just that I'd have less power or something, but just they'd look at me as a lesser person.

If it was just men doing it, I wouldn't have a problem. I could easily say fuck them all and live how I like, but I am insecure about women. Many women would throw me to the side for not being strong for them. They'd treat me like I'm a loser who "gave up" or something.

Not all women are like this obviously, but I have an impossible time believing that I wouldn't just be a side attraction for anyone who takes interest. Not someone to take seriously, not as a man, not as someone capable, but practically as just some slut they can have fun with or some curiosity they'll eventually get bored of when they start wanting kids.

I'm stuck. I don't feel like I get to be happy either way, so I'm just doing what makes sense to me as I go and trying to figure out it. Now I'm 30, I don't have the room to grow and change that would be needed to successfully transition, so I'm kind of just me.

I think it's not so much that I hate my own gender. I just really fucking hate the concept of gender so much that it's blinding.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

Being a guy is pretty awesome sometimes I'm not gonna lie lol.

Sometimes I wish I could do some of the things women can so much easier than guys. But sometimes I notice things women have to go through that men don't so I guess they both have their good and bad.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Hate is a strong word and no I don't hate being a woman, why should I? Women have come a long way to being able to turn upside down this patriarchal society that we live in. We are now able to vote, gamble, work outside the home, buy pretty much what we want (if we can afford it), go to college, drive, the list goes on, and I am PROUD to be able to have the choices we have nowadays! Thanks to the women before me and the U. S. laws that made it possible but really, it's the unwavering passion and desire to make positive changes in women's hearts and mind that allowed this to be possible! Thank you thank you thank you!

That's like me being black and saying thank you to Martin Luther King or Rosa Parks! Hell, even Abe Lincoln who ABOLISHED slavery!

Spongebobssocks · Accepted Answer

I'm happy being a woman.

Good reasons:
1. I get to carry a baby and always have that deep connection.
2. I never get asked to carry anything heavy.
3. I look innocent so could problaby get away with a lot..
4. The law favors women...
5. I could easily get a job where there are most men because they want to evan it out evan if I have no experience or knowledge..
6. Its easy to find a partner as a woman.

Bad things:
1. PERIOD PAIN!!!
2. Hormones
3. People teasing/bullying (not respecting) you because you're not a threat.
4. Child birth.. painful.. and so is pregnancy but both is beautiful too.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes, there's NO sex, you can't wear anything you want, your choice of sex toys is either very limited or extremely, outrageously expensive, you have to pay your own way through life AND, if you get a girlfriend, you have to pay at least part of hers, too. You get constantly shit on by women. UNLESS, they NEED you for some reason!!

TheIrishWolf · Answer

Im good being a man.

It seems tough being a women: periods, pregnancy, getting hit on all the time, the fear of being raped, bitchy friends. Nah, I'm good.

Then men: more likely to get your children taken away from you, lose half your stuff if you get divorced, to commit suicide, have to act tougher, take the hits before a woman would in conflict, get falsely accused by a woman.

It's not easy for any side. But I'd still rather be a man. 😂

Unit1 · Answer

Definitely hate being the less demanded gender in dating, love and sex and having only 5% of clothing opportunities compared to the opposite sex. But I'm not going to complain much.

Anonymous · Answer

No I love it. I can piss standing up. I don’t get periods. I’m physically strong w out even trying to get strong. I don’t have to worry about my looks so much. People don’t bother me so much because they’re usually intimidated by me, not that that is my intention but it can be good. I don’t stress out or get emotionally as much. Maybe some women don’t either.

OnlyMeee · Answer

I wouldn't say hate, but in comparison some women's clothes look far sexier than men's. Women wear thongs and it's considered sexy, men wear thongs and he is considered gay by some. I guess there are advantages and disadvantages to both male and females

Kayla45 · Answer

I don't hate it, it's what I'm comfortable with. In fact I'd think I'd go insane if it were reversed, men seem to have SO much responsibility on their shoulders.

That would definitely be a major headache. 🤔

TheBootyChest · Answer

Yes a lot of times I wish I was female.  I think even if it was temporary it would be a good way to understand the struggles women go through and I can stop being part of "the problem".

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

If you asked me yesterday I would’ve said no, but after having read the comments of a youtube video where an OVERWHELMING MAJORITY of guys condoned a 25 year old woman having sex with a 13 year old boy,

I’ve got to say I’m absolutely appalled and disgusted to be a member of my gender right now.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/kB1cZTD9phk

Just read the comments for yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Eh. I find that the vast, vast, VAST majority of people who claim to hate being their own gender acutally have some other problem. Usually their lives are generally shitty as a result of really poor habits that they have and they find it a convenient excuse to say that being the sex that they are is the issue. That's an actually thing, but it's extremely rare. Most people today who claim that's their thing are full of shit.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Not my gender, but my do-be profession. Business schools in India do not prefer engineers as there are just too many engineer aspirants. Discrimination in the name of diversity.

Orion76 · Answer

I’m not really sure honestly I can’t stand neither most of the time in mean read the opinions and other available options hell to the no, for the simple fact that I’m not crazy about neither option why would I become a mix of both? LoL

sunflower00 · Answer

No, I love being a woman. I hate some experiences of being a woman, but I think men probably also hate some things about being men, it’s pretty normal.

Mac-One · Answer

I don't hate being a guy but would not be uncomfortable having female genitals and small feminine like breasts. I would still be able to be accepted openly as a guy, and also as a gal if I would choose to on occasion.

Lliam · Answer

I loved being a boy and I love being a man. So much fun. I wouldn't change a thing. I got to be active, daring, athletic, have girlfriends, and do guy stuff.

Anonymous · Answer

Being a man is much more fulfilling and there's so much more you can do with life. We're stronger smarter and faster on average. We're better at thinking with our heads and not our hearts. We're natural leaders. We're taken more seriously and are usually able to scare off others. We have the easiest part in having children and our reproductive systems put us through painful cycles. It just seems like there's infinite possibilities being a man.

MementoMori777 · Answer

I love being a dude, there's many dude problems but I was born in the right body 😂 I like seeing women from the third perspective and I like the fact that I like them, no hate here.

MysticDevice · Answer

Nope. Quite content. And I'm sure had I been born a, *ahem* biological female, I'd be content with that as well.  There's double standards, pros, and cons no matter what gender you are. So, whatever.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I like being a man, generally. There are times when it's mildly inconvenient, but that's true of anything; nothing in life is without problems.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. I would not be able to handle being female. Bleeding, bloating, pushing a 22" 8 lb. bundle of joy out, having to deal with getting hit on by ever loser. Having people notice if I wear the same outfit twice in a month. No thanks.

MemeSupreme · Answer

sometimes, but no point focusing on it for too long

Anonymous · Answer

I don't hate being a man in and of itself, but I hate a lot of the shit that comes with being a man in modern society, especially given that society doesn't give a fuck about those problems simply BECAUSE we are men.

LovingJo · Answer

No, I don't hate it, but sometimes I think it'd be nice to switch, to see what it's like.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I'm good with who I am and don't see that changing.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.  I've never even thought about it once in my entire life.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I’m so happy I’m a guy.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

The grass is always greener on the other side. I'm already born male and despite all the male struggles, im already quite use to it and I don't wanna start over.

_Troian_ · Answer

I am happy with being man.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m sometimes very curious what it would be like to be a woman. However I’ll still take being a man because I want to marry a woman. lol

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

no, but I hate the expectations and discrimination that the western society has put on my gender

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm not the best at being a woman but I'll definitely suck at being a man.

DarkLegacy · Answer

No i certainly don't. Who would want to be a woman right now, they are in crisis.

Anonymous · Answer

no i like being a girl because girls are pretty

Anonymous · Answer

No. I would NEVER want to be a woman. I don't know how women stand it, being so illogical and ruled by your emotions.

Deserter · Answer

There's pros and cons, they both have their own superpowers.

Jerre · Answer

Totally happy being a man and what I have hanging between my legs.

OddBeMe · Answer

I don’t mind it. It Imagine hating it. that’s a transgender’s life day in and day out.

Sour-rose · Answer

Low key, yes. :) Wish I was the opposite

CheeseMonster · Answer

No, I like it. It's pretty cool.

Elliegirl · Answer

I love being a girl!!

whereismyjohnny · Answer

No. I like being a woman.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I have zero complaints.

serious · Answer

No, of course not.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I love my gender.

DizzyDesii · Answer

No im proud to be a female born woman

Capricornunicorn92 · Answer

Only when it's that time of the month.

slatyb · Answer

What I really hate is being my own grandpa.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

No way I love being a girl

welcomemen · Answer

No, I like it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope, I'm good.

tfan1 · Answer

No I love my Penis and it’s capability 😎👍

Date_a_Snob · Answer

I did - thats why I transitioned

pink_blah · Answer

I love being a girl

Iron_Man · Answer

No, I’m thrilled I’m a man

Likes2drive · Answer

No, I’m fine being a male

Caramelpie · Answer

No way! I don’t want to be a guy!

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I like being a man. But I often hate my penis

KasiKesh · Answer

I'm so happy to have my happiness stick😊

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

No I couldn't even imagine being a girl

kattieem · Answer

Nope. No reason to hate it at all.

Annaliseex · Answer

Absolutely not. It is great to be a girl.

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