I don't know how to hold a conversation, how can I learn?

[Anonymous]

I've always been shy and never good at talking. I was also diagnosed with social anxiety at 12. Now I'm 20 and I still cannot talk to anyone. My mind just goes blank, I have no idea what other people just casually talk about. I was in a club recently alone, a girl came up to me and asked me to join her and her friends and I did. She was so nice to me and basically saved my night, was talking to me and all but she always had to lead the conversation because I have no idea how to do that. I have nothing to talk about. I don't know anything I'm actually socially inept

How can I fix this please I'm so tired of myself

[Anonymous]

It's great that you're willing to work on improving your conversation skills! Learning how to hold a conversation can take time and practice, but there are a few things you can try:

1. Start small: If you're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of holding a conversation, try starting with small talk. This can include things like commenting on the weather, asking about someone's day, or complimenting something they're wearing.

2. Listen actively: One of the most important parts of holding a conversation is listening actively to the other person. This means paying attention to what they're saying, asking follow-up questions, and showing genuine interest in what they have to say.

3. Ask open-ended questions: Instead of asking yes or no questions, try asking open-ended questions that encourage the other person to share more about themselves. For example, instead of asking "Do you like movies?" you could ask "What's your favorite movie?"

4. Share your own experiences: Don't be afraid to share your own experiences and opinions, as this can help to keep the conversation flowing and build a connection with the other person.

5. Practice, practice, practice: The more you practice holding conversations, the easier it will become. Try talking to people in different settings, such as at work, in social situations, or online.

It's also important to remember that it's okay to feel nervous or shy when holding a conversation, and that it's okay to take breaks or step back if you need to. With time and practice, you can develop the skills and confidence to hold engaging and meaningful conversations.

[stratford]

Find people that love doing what you love - you will have lots to talk about.

[riverrat3]

Talk to me about anything

[riverrat3]

I am serious, practice on me