What's the secret to change?

[Anonymous]

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Nobody is right so far. Want is not the secret to change. If it was everyone would be who they want to be.

[MementoMori777]

Accepting you want and/or need it, without actually wanting to change, you won't

[Asker]

That's it?

[MementoMori777]

Yea without that it's just not possible to change

[Asker]

Why are so many people stuck if it's that simple?

[MementoMori777]

Because most people don't want to change the comfortable way they are living, whatever that may be

[Asker]

So they want to change but can't because it's too comfortable the way things are?

[MementoMori777]

No they don't want to change because it's too comfortable the way things are a perfect example would be someone that likes doing drugs, they will enjoy it and not want to change that lifestyle, unless the person almost dies, that can make them want to change

[Asker]

So they need any emotional impact in order to change? I do you people go on diets if they don't really want to change?

[MementoMori777]

There's most likely something that makes an change yes

[Asker]

So is it pointless to try to change then?

[MementoMori777]

That depends if it's for the good or bad

[Asker]

Na that's not it. Plenty of people want to change and still can't. Many drug accidents go to rehab and then end up using again. Many people wish to be different and still don't be different. Want isn't the problem. That's too simple. People don't just get what they want.

[MementoMori777]

Those are all excuses, I was addicted to drugs, didn't go to rehab and never went back to it, you can deny it but it's the truth, the first step to change is wanting to do so, wishing and wanting is different because when you want, you also want to put the effort, wishing is wanting the change without the effort

[Asker]

I'm not denying want is apart of change. Obviously it is but it is NOT the secret. Everyone knows want is the first step toward change. You're just making up definitions at this point. But you won't say the real secret. Perhaps you don't know it.

[MementoMori777]

It doesn't seem like you know it, there's no secret, you are making it more complicated then it has to be

[Asker]

I know the answer/key/secret to change. That's how I know you aren't aware of it yet. I'm trying to get it out of you but you're not open minded. You're not going deep enough. You're staying on surface. If you cannot explain it you don't know it, at least not on a conscious level.

[MementoMori777]

You sound nuts, your reason is most likely inaccurate, I don't really care enough to keep going back and forth on this, I guess I don't know it

[CrimsonAngel09]

Nothing.

[Asker]

Then why do very few people live the way they want?

[riverrat3]

The want and need to be or do differently

[Asker]

So most people are lacking want and need?

[Asker]

Na that isn't it.

[Anonymous]

Change what?

[Asker]

themselves