Do people that don't open up, have the worst secrets?

[Anonymous]

Or are they just very private people or both? 🤔

[Altheavas]

I actually have no secrets about my life. I just don’t open up to people because they tend to change my story to their fucked-up narratives.
Stop changing it to your perspective, and portrayed your negativities in it, I have my own perspective, step out of yours a bit, see it through my eyes and see how fun, brave, crazy, intelligent, adventurous and caring I can be for those who matter, at the same time give no fuck. My life is my life, I live it, I do not live yours, and you do not live mine, and don’t insert yourself in it. 🙄🙄🙄

[Asker]

Don't roll your eyes at me, relax it was just a question 😂

[Altheavas]

No, it’s not you hehe 😜

[Asker]

What isn't me? lol

[Altheavas]

Your reply to my comment of your post. Has nothing to do with you, lol.
You said

« Don't roll your eyes at me, relax it was just a question 😂 »

Ight, I might as well roll my eyes on you too 👀!

[Asker]

I'm surprised your little eyeballs don't fall of your face with all that rolling missy 🤣

[Altheavas]

😂😂😜

[Anonymous]

They say if you're arrested but haven't done anything wrong then you don't need a lawyer, but that's when you need a lawyer the most.

They say if you have nothing to hide you'll be an open book let everyone have access to every bit of information about you. But would you want strangers or even your friends and family to know every single thing about you?

They're soon releasing facial recognition to the public, where you'll be able to take a picture of someone you see on the street and it will tell you who they are, they're address, date of birth, connections to other people. Banks and car dealers and real estate agents will have your social security number, salary, medical history, credit information when you walk in the door.

Do you want people to have the ability to do this to you? Even if you have "nothing to hide?"

[Asker]

No I want my privacy although I got a lot to hide, it won't come out from a facial scan tho, but you want anon for this, what you hiding anon, besides yourself 😂

[Asker]

Went*

[AaronKrieger]

What is it for you? I think a person being a private one is the common cause for being secretive. It's more comfortable.

For me, I am mainly just a private person (besides on this website) who likes to be in control. The more people who know, then the less control I am in. I also have a few secrets that'd concern most people, which I don't blame them (its not sexual). One of them did for two exes of mine until they realized it's not that deep.

I won't say it here because it'd make this awkward as hell 😂, but also I would seem extremely edgy when again - it's not that deep.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everyone deserves privacy, it doesn't really say if they are hiding bad secrets or not, and one persons bad secret is often another's good secret in most cases. These days people tend to have a sense of entitlement, as if they are owed this kind of knowledge about others. I think generation Z is the worst about this, because they grew up in a more orwellian world.

[Asker]

Well privacy can be dangerous, I'm sure if your friend murdered people and was in a gang for example you'd like to know cause then someone retaliates and kills you because of your association lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

Privacy isn't dangerous, it's essential. Anything like murder isn't even going to be capable of being hidden, so thats another topic entirely, and has nothing to do with general privacy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also, not having privacy would put everyone at a higher risk of death, illness, injury, identity theft, monetary theft, idea theft, etc.

[midnightmoon05]

Most are social beings. They want to connect and we want to be safe and protected in a group.
however, history, other humans have creative ways to suppressed others…so there are individuals wbo fear to be part of a group.

kids growing up not getting the love, trust from parents will keep things in. To the point of isolation and live in fear.
worst secret? I would say…fear and denial.

[Asker]

Don't tell me you are studying psychology too Midnight 😂

[midnightmoon05]

You actually listen to me B Asing? 😂

[Asker]

Yes of course midnight, you always have something new to say, and you are so open to sharing, how can I not listen to you 😆

[AutumnSerenity]

Personally, I don’t open up because I’ve been “burned“ in the past. People will throw your mistakes in your face when they’re upset or you’ll find out they gossiped about your personal business. Aside from that, part of me is ashamed by the mistakes I made when I was younger. I have nothing in common with the person I used to be so I refuse to allow that person interfere with my life now - I worked hard for what I have and who I am.

[Asker]

But if the roles were reversed, wouldn't you see it as a form of deception, I guess the first question should've been if you see importance in knowing a person's past cause personally I do, for example I don't think it's important to know if they were fired for a job for example but I do see importance and would like to know if the person was a prostitute for example or shit... a murderer lol

I do see your point that it's to protect yourself and I completely understand and respect it but I do believe secrets can kill any form of bond depending on the secrets and the bond but deep down in general don't you think hiding things shows maybe a lack of trust as Well?

[AutumnSerenity]

Well, in this case - due to forensic science & STDs, it’s very difficult (damn near impossible) to get away with prostitution or murder. It is still, however, easy to get away with framing someone for something they didn’t do. I may be gullible, but I think most people don’t do bad things unless someone has done something bad to them or someone they care about. I don’t need to know how many wrongs you’ve righted. For example: if you knew of a rapist who got off “scot-free” only to keep raping/hurting people, and you planted drugs in that rapist’s home or vehicle to get them off the street for ~10 years, that’s between you and God. I don’t need to know.

[Asker]

It's difficult but happens all the time under people's noses, I've known both, they are still walking the streets but I can see your point tho

[AutumnSerenity]

Same. I know of both. I want nothing to do with any of it unless it affects me or my family directly. Thankfully I never had to go to those lengths to right the wrongs in my past, but I’m still ashamed by the mistakes I did make. As long as someone hasn’t hurt anyone (for no good reason), I don’t really care to know.

[Asker]

Don't you think secrets can get in the way of anything tho, I guess it depends on what these bad things are tho I guess

[AutumnSerenity]

It can but I would understand if they withhold certain information until the time is right. I wouldn’t be okay with certain things though. For example, if they did something highly unethical without a valid reason or if they’re hiding something that could hurt me in the long run, I’d see that as selfish & malicious. Other than that, sometimes it’s just difficult to touch on difficult topics out of nowhere. It really does just depends on what it is.

[Asker]

Well until the time is right is completely logical, you aren't gonna be on a first date blabbing about the worst shit possible lol

But these are some wise words missy, there should be a right time for sensitive topics but I do agree people should always find that time and not just keep things I'd they know the other won't like it for example, it's seems somewhat deceitful to do so if you know it will bother the other person and refuse to say anything.

[NathanDavis]

I guess it depends on the person... or the secrets

I hold no secrets at all, everything about me is known by at least one person, or another... lol

but, there is no one person that holds all of secrets...

[Asker]

I guess it depends who you ask right? I'm sure people always have someone they can't trust with anything but overall what you say makes a lot of sense.

[NathanDavis]

exactly... and most times it is better that way too, lol

[Asker]

No doubt about that lol

[Cynicaldreamer]

As someone that's relatively private, I don't open up because I don't trust the majority of people. I'm not hiding any "deep, dark secrets..." I've just learned from past experiences when you open up to most people, they usually judge you, tell your secrets, or treat you differently.

As a result, I'm wary to trust most people. If I open up to someone, they have to really prove they're a good friend or person I can rely on.

[ZiaCowel2000]

Only the people know what they have done. If it’s something they don’t want to accept they’ll bury it. (Or if it’s socially unacceptable) Or if it’ll harm them or somebody else and they don’t want to start trouble they’ll keep their mouth shut.

[Asker]

Well that's understandable but I'm speaking of the people that don't share shit lol

[ZiaCowel2000]

Personally I don’t share anything unless it’s dumb or simple like my favorite color. The more you know about a person, another can easily throw it back in your face. Don’t know who could be a nark. And some people have pstd so talking about things can make your body feel like your reliving your past.

(Humiliate/threaten/or your just uncomfortable with yourself and you don’t want to feel connections with others.)

[Asker]

Well I guess you never know but do you personally ever grow trust towards people or you will die not trusting shit? 😂

[ZiaCowel2000]

I trust people to an extent. But not enough for them to carry my past. That’s for my family to hear. I only trust 4 of my relatives. (And I don’t trust them 100%) I don’t even notice this because I’ve been this way for a while.

[Asker]

You have some crazy trust issues Zia but depending on background, who am I to judge ha

[Thestupidusername]

I'm very secretive. Its like a joke in my family I could be a killer/spy or whatever cause people know so little about me... as they should. But on behalf of us weirdos no we don't😌😂

[Asker]

So you share as much as you are small, that makes sense 😌

[Thestupidusername]

Yup😌

Thats why you share more cause you are a GIANT?

[Asker]

Exactly, that must be Why 😂😌

[Thestupidusername]

😌👍😂

[electromagnetic]

We all have skeletons in our closets. Sometimes, it’s nice keeping them hidden.

[Asker]

Skeletons in our closets, that's such a peculiar mix of words 😂

[IslaTheWitch]

No, some people were hurt or, for other reasons, have trust issues. Some need longer time than you could expect to feel it's OK to open up. Some simply can never see you as a person to open up...

[YourSong]

I’ve been taught by my parents to not open up to people cause they might use it against me. Still this day I have a hard time opening up and not because of secrets

[Asker]

Interesting, I wasn't expecting that

[Crankor]

Nah they just don't talk about stuff unless they are asked

[Asker]

What if they are asked and avoid it? 🤔

[Crankor]

Hmm either they aren't used to doing so or they just want to hide it prob cause they think it will give a negative outlook on themselves

[Asker]

Interesting

[Anonymous]

No. I just typically don't share more than I need to though because women have away of projecting thier insecurities onto my life. The less she knows the less she can assume incorrectly.

[Al_Musafir]

'worst secrets'.. as in?

[Asker]

In general, that's a loaded question

[TiaNour]

Shit I don’t know

[Asker]

*whistles* mind blowing

[TiaNour]

Yeah lol

[Asker]

🙂🔫

[TiaNour]

nope that’s bad

[Asker]

It's just another way of saying mind blowing, in my own twisted way 😂

[TiaNour]

oh lmao

[Asker]

Don't worry Tia I'd never kill myself, and you better not either 😡👉

[Twalli]

They usually have the best

[Asker]

Lol.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Both cases exist

[Asker]

Grade A explanation Ms. FS 👏

[Ms_Facesitter]

:p well I don't know, I'm sure they'll share something if you ask them about it.

[Asker]

They don't all always share missy, some fold like an omelet lol

[Anonymous]

I don’t think so.

[Asker]

Very knowledgeable Vel 😂👏