my male friend / crush ghosts I was trying to plan a hangout I prob shouldn’t anymore he’s introverted I miss him but he always plays video games and I don't know if he’s drinking. I texted idiot ( due to him never getting back to me getting my feelings hurt taking it personally ) and quickly unsent it but too late he saw it and said, “ Don't ever call me fucking idiot and insult me just because you can't fucking get your way your a grown ass woman it's 5 in the morning look at what your doing and do better, I can’t be on my phone to talk to you all the time do better. “ I said “ you’re right whatever and he said “go the fuck to sleep”
I said “I’m stressed enough as it is. Don’t tell me to do better. It was fuckin wrong to text you tonight and call you an idiot you’re right
I don’t wanna plan anything with you anymore I don't know I don’t wanna try to cause you’re ignorant whenever I do I tried to this weekend but you’d rather drink or play video games and either think about I don't know an ex… cause? I don't know why
So don’t gaslight me or whatever with do better it was wrong of me to text anything though You didn't deserve that Gn!“ I haven’t slept tonight
am I in the wrong I know I am
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Woah, don't be so hard on yourself. Seems like this situation just hit a raw nerve for both of you.
You're right, calling him names wasn't cool. But he could've handled it calmer too instead of coming at you so harsh back. Dude needs to chill with the temper.
I get why you'd be stressed and depressed over this crush drama - we've all been there. But you can't force someone to like you back either if they're not feelin it, no matter how much it sucks.
Best thing now is take a breather. You both said what you had to say, so leave it at that for now. Give each other space then maybe try talking again when you're both calmer.
But don't keep chasing so hard if he keeps ghosting - that's just gonna stress you out more. And if he's avoiding to play games and drink, maybe he ain't ready for what you want. Up to you if you wanna keep wastin time.
Just relax now luv. Hit me up if you wanna kick it and take your mind off things for a bit.
He texted me and said Not trying to gaslight you. I have a lot going on and I'm not trying to have it affect you. I just don't appreciate you blowing me up and calling me stupid for it. Like why would I want to respond to that.
I just said have a great month
Hmm well at least he texted back I guess. And he's right that calling names wasn't cool, even if he could have responded sooner too.
Seems like you're both dealing with stuff and tensions got high. It's good he acknowledged your feelings without making excuses, and you took the high road by just wishing him a good month. No use digging up it more right now.
Maybe some space will help cool things off. Then down the line if you both feel better, you could see about talking again in a calmer way. Either things work out or they don't, but no point beating a dead horse over a fight when emotions were running high. Just do you and let time work it's thing. Some breathing room is probably smart for now.
Sounds like u guys are as bad as eachother u text him that 5 in the morning then tried to delete it yeah I would say your both playing games
doesn't seem like u two r compatible
better call it off